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Girl Talk: My First Love Died

I was on a date with my boyfriend of six months. But after we purchased popcorn, took our seats, and held hands watching “Dark Knight,” I couldn’t help but think of Luc, my ex, during the film. Something about Heath Ledger’s character reminded me of him—the lip-smacking attitude of too much Xanax. Sometimes I guiltily tried to measure how much I thought about Luc. Was it once a day? Once a week?

Back home with our shoes off and phones switched on, my boyfriend saw that I had a voicemail. It was from my mom. I watched him listen to the message, my heart quickening.

“Luc died,” he said. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: I Went To My Ex-Boyfriend’s Wedding

I knew what it was as soon as I opened my mailbox. I picked up the large envelope addressed in lovely calligraphy to Ms. Ami Angelowicz. I held it in my hand, for a moment. It felt heavy. I tossed it on my kitchen table. I’ll open it later, I thought. I’m not quite ready to deal with this. Keep reading »

Do You Keep Tokens From Exes Or Toss ‘Em Immediately?

When you and a partner break up, do you immediately dump everything that reminds you of him, or do you let stuff linger around? Post-breakup messes are handled differently by everyone. For me, I’d rather have a clean slate and I’ll typically get rid of anything and everything that reminds of me of my ex. I’ll throw items away, or stick them someplace where I won’t have to look at them for a really long time and generally try to “Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind” my life. I realize not everyone’s the same though — and that’s where the Museum of Broken Relationships comes in. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “I’m Terrified Of Running Into My Ex”

I was in a relationship with this guy for three years, which was one of the most unstable, intense relationships I have ever been in. After many attempts I was finally was able to pull myself off of him and break away. After a year of crying, especially when I found out he was dating another girl, and then building myself up again, I am as happy as can be. However, I am still terrified of running into him! I’ve avoided bars, friends, or anything that has to do with him. There have been a couple of times where I had just run into his friends and although I acted pretty cool, I almost vomited when it was over. One time, I was at a concert and I noticed all his friends come in, I tried being strong but as soon as I saw the girl he was dating I collapsed to the ground and then ran out the other door. It’s been over a year now since I’ve seen him and I am still terrified to. I am over the relationship we once had and I feel I’ve learned from it but how long is it going to take to shake this off and will I ever stop being so scared?? I want to stop being afraid to go to places because he may be there and if it turns out he is there I want to be cool and collected about it. Help. — Scared To See Him

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Dear Wendy: “Should I Befriend My Ex-Boyfriend’s New Girlfriend?”

One of my first really serious adult relationships happened when I was in my early- to mid-20s. We ended things after about three years, two of which we spent living together, and although our breakup was extremely heart-wrenching and hurtful, over the years we have been able to develop a much stronger relationship as friends. When he started dating his current girlfriend last summer, I wasn’t surprised when I didn’t hear from him as much (previously we had been hanging out an average of twice a week, sometimes more) because sometimes that’s just how things go when you meet someone new. But as the six month mark passed and my conversations with him were few and far between, I began to wonder what the deal was. He confided in me that his girlfriend had trust issues — MAJOR ones. (She was checking his browsing history on his computer, she made him de-friend me on Facebook, and every time he brought up my name or made an attempt to hang out with me, an argument would ensue.) They’ve been dating a year now and I’ve still never met her. The last time I talked to him — we’ve managed to see each other a handful of times since he started dating his girlfriend — he mentioned that he is thinking of proposing. I would like for his girlfriend to get the chance to know me. Additionally, I know my ex misses our friendship and still cares about me deeply, enough so that he has always stuck up for me and made sure she understood that her jealousy and trust issues were HERS, and not caused by anything I did. Should I make an attempt to befriend his girlfriend so that she becomes more comfortable with me? — The Ex

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Who Is Your Flashback Ex?

Clutch mag introduced me to the phrase “flashback ex” with just a headline, and I was immediately brought back to the makeup sex an ex and I once had. But as I read the Clutch article, hoping for juicy tidbits on someone else’s sex memories, I quickly realized the writer was recounting all the miserable experiences she’s had with ex-boyfriends. Keep reading »

The Best Memories Of Our Exes

Your ex is your ex for a reason (or many reasons), but there was something redeeming and attractive about this person at one time. After the jump, some women reminisce and share their favorite moments with their exes. Whether from a mountaintop hike, a tropical island getaway or a local romantic occasion, these memories deserve a lasting place in our hearts. They make us secretly smile, regardless of the geographic or emotional distance between us and the exes who were once lucky enough to have our love. Keep reading »

How To Dress To Meet Your Ex

There are few things more horrifying than running into an ex on the street when you’re on the way to the gym or, i don’t know, going on three days sans shower and maybe not smelling so normal. Scheduled ex sightings, however, leave endless room to look awesome and either A) make him completely regret ever leaving you or B) drive home the point that you’re too good for him. Jezebel’s guide to dressing for a meeting with your ex almost has us wanting to call up our old boyfriends for a drink and some drooling. The advice — like “look like yourself” — is fairly straightforward, but few things make tons of sense when you’re about to see an ex for the first time since a breakup and the little reminders to calm the hell down are actually pretty helpful. Check out the tips and look dashing next time you make a former makeout partner insanely jealous. [Jezebel] Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: The Ex Files

I have been dating my man for a year and half and we have been living together for five months now. All in all, we have a great relationship, however, I worry about his feelings towards his ex. He has all of their old emails saved on his computer and I did some snooping (I know, I know, asking for trouble) and discovered that they had a flirtatious relationship up until we had been together for three months. She texted him frequently when she was drunk; they said “I love you” to each other; and he even called her on our first Valentine’s day together as a couple. He was honest about speaking with her, but was not honest about the extent of these exchanges. Furthermore, why does he still hold onto these emails? He also has a bracelet she gave him that he swears he will never part with (even though it’s metal and scratches me sometimes when we have sex). He feels that asking him to let go of these reminders of her is unfair. She was the first person he slept with and he’s a loyal guy, so I understand that his “sentimentality” was a contributing factor in all of this. Their last contact was over a year ago, though, so should I just let it go? Or should I admit to snooping and discuss it with him? Does this sound like bad news to anyone but me?? — Suspicious

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Girl Talk: I Sabotaged A Great Relationship To Have A Drink With An Ex

The evening started out harmless enough. My self-sabotage was not premeditated—more like a white lie that got carried away. I was on my way to class to take a test I hadn’t studied for, and I realized I just couldn’t do it. On a whim, I decided to ditch. I needed a drink, stat. I was supposed to meet up with my new guy, Kennedy, after class but he was working late and wouldn’t be ready until later. I went through my mental contact book of friends I had in the area and remembered that my ex-boyfriend Justin worked down the street. As soon as I sent him a text message, he responded. I wrote Kennedy to let him know I was skipping the test and meeting a friend for a drink.
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