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Dear Wendy: “Should I Befriend My Ex-Boyfriend’s New Girlfriend?”

One of my first really serious adult relationships happened when I was in my early- to mid-20s. We ended things after about three years, two of which we spent living together, and although our breakup was extremely heart-wrenching and hurtful, over the years we have been able to develop a much stronger relationship as friends. When he started dating his current girlfriend last summer, I wasn’t surprised when I didn’t hear from him as much (previously we had been hanging out an average of twice a week, sometimes more) because sometimes that’s just how things go when you meet someone new. But as the six month mark passed and my conversations with him were few and far between, I began to wonder what the deal was. He confided in me that his girlfriend had trust issues — MAJOR ones. (She was checking his browsing history on his computer, she made him de-friend me on Facebook, and every time he brought up my name or made an attempt to hang out with me, an argument would ensue.) They’ve been dating a year now and I’ve still never met her. The last time I talked to him — we’ve managed to see each other a handful of times since he started dating his girlfriend — he mentioned that he is thinking of proposing. I would like for his girlfriend to get the chance to know me. Additionally, I know my ex misses our friendship and still cares about me deeply, enough so that he has always stuck up for me and made sure she understood that her jealousy and trust issues were HERS, and not caused by anything I did. Should I make an attempt to befriend his girlfriend so that she becomes more comfortable with me? — The Ex

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Who Is Your Flashback Ex?

Clutch mag introduced me to the phrase “flashback ex” with just a headline, and I was immediately brought back to the makeup sex an ex and I once had. But as I read the Clutch article, hoping for juicy tidbits on someone else’s sex memories, I quickly realized the writer was recounting all the miserable experiences she’s had with ex-boyfriends. Keep reading »

The Best Memories Of Our Exes

Your ex is your ex for a reason (or many reasons), but there was something redeeming and attractive about this person at one time. After the jump, some women reminisce and share their favorite moments with their exes. Whether from a mountaintop hike, a tropical island getaway or a local romantic occasion, these memories deserve a lasting place in our hearts. They make us secretly smile, regardless of the geographic or emotional distance between us and the exes who were once lucky enough to have our love. Keep reading »

How To Dress To Meet Your Ex

There are few things more horrifying than running into an ex on the street when you’re on the way to the gym or, i don’t know, going on three days sans shower and maybe not smelling so normal. Scheduled ex sightings, however, leave endless room to look awesome and either A) make him completely regret ever leaving you or B) drive home the point that you’re too good for him. Jezebel’s guide to dressing for a meeting with your ex almost has us wanting to call up our old boyfriends for a drink and some drooling. The advice — like “look like yourself” — is fairly straightforward, but few things make tons of sense when you’re about to see an ex for the first time since a breakup and the little reminders to calm the hell down are actually pretty helpful. Check out the tips and look dashing next time you make a former makeout partner insanely jealous. [Jezebel] Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: The Ex Files

I have been dating my man for a year and half and we have been living together for five months now. All in all, we have a great relationship, however, I worry about his feelings towards his ex. He has all of their old emails saved on his computer and I did some snooping (I know, I know, asking for trouble) and discovered that they had a flirtatious relationship up until we had been together for three months. She texted him frequently when she was drunk; they said “I love you” to each other; and he even called her on our first Valentine’s day together as a couple. He was honest about speaking with her, but was not honest about the extent of these exchanges. Furthermore, why does he still hold onto these emails? He also has a bracelet she gave him that he swears he will never part with (even though it’s metal and scratches me sometimes when we have sex). He feels that asking him to let go of these reminders of her is unfair. She was the first person he slept with and he’s a loyal guy, so I understand that his “sentimentality” was a contributing factor in all of this. Their last contact was over a year ago, though, so should I just let it go? Or should I admit to snooping and discuss it with him? Does this sound like bad news to anyone but me?? — Suspicious

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Girl Talk: I Sabotaged A Great Relationship To Have A Drink With An Ex

The evening started out harmless enough. My self-sabotage was not premeditated—more like a white lie that got carried away. I was on my way to class to take a test I hadn’t studied for, and I realized I just couldn’t do it. On a whim, I decided to ditch. I needed a drink, stat. I was supposed to meet up with my new guy, Kennedy, after class but he was working late and wouldn’t be ready until later. I went through my mental contact book of friends I had in the area and remembered that my ex-boyfriend Justin worked down the street. As soon as I sent him a text message, he responded. I wrote Kennedy to let him know I was skipping the test and meeting a friend for a drink.
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Erin Freaks Out About Andy’s Ex On “The Office”

Last night on “The Office,” Erin learned that her boyfriend, Andy, had not only dated Angela but was engaged to her — and he sort of forgot to mention it. Erin reacts by turning into Cousin It and causing a scene while out to lunch with Michael for Secretary’s Day. We have to admit, we’ve reacted in a similarly dramatic fashion after finding out about a boyfriend’s past relationship, though not quite this bad. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: When Exes Rear Their Ugly Heads

My ex, who I dated for all of six months about three years ago, wants to reconnect. After the breakup, he moved far away to a completely different state and I haven’t seen or talked to him since he horribly ended it by taping a note to my car window. We weren’t together for very long but when we were, everything just seemed right. When he ended it, I was devastated. Well, he recently called me on Christmas Eve to wish me “Merry Christmas” and to ask how I’ve been doing. I’ve been dating someone else for a long time and I consider my new relationship to be very serious. Since he’s called, we’ve exchanged emails and Facebook messages almost daily and have talked on the phone occasionally. He’s back home visiting family and has asked to see me before he leaves. I told him I’d meet him for lunch in a few days, but I’m nervous about seeing him again and I’m worried that my old feelings will come back. He keeps telling me that I’m the last serious relationship he’s had and, since I’m taken, he’s going to have to either wait until I’m “back on the market so he can sweep me off my feet” or be single forever. What do I do? Should I stand him up and take the guilt, or confront my past in all of its not-so-glory-ness? — Second Guessing

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Dating Don’ts: How To Ex-orcise Him From Your Life

In the classic scary flick “The Exorcist,” when young Regan McNeil’s mom wanted to banish the devil from inside her daughter, she had to call in the God Squad. The result was all sorts of profanity, a generous helping of projectile vomit, and several unpleasant deaths.

Once the devil was cast out, Regan and her mom moved to a new city; after all, who wants to live where the devil once did? Unfortunately, not all of us can afford a change of locale after a traumatic experience, like, say, a breakup. Short of jetting off to Bali and drowning your heartache in fruity cocktails, the quickest way to exorcise someone from your heart is by ridding yourself of all the bad juju—and debris—that a rough breakup can leave in its wake. Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: The Ex Boyfriend Run-In

Last night I was thrown for a loop when I ran into a long-ago ex at a party that he had no business (that I could fathom) attending. I was not happy to see him. In fact, over the past ten or so years, I’ve made it a point to avoid being anywhere he might be. I haven’t been pining; he’s someone I actively avoid because he’s psychotic and I had no idea what he—or I—would do if we ever crossed paths again. I’m not a violent person, but the thought of stabbing him in the eye is not an unpleasant one.

When you’ve tracked as many laps around the block as I have, you’re bound to run into the occasional ex—even the ones you’d rather forget. As the rage disappeared along with the tequila in my glass, I got to thinking about how just the random act of running into someone can ruin, or make, your day. Keep reading »

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