Tag Archives: etiquette

50 Things Your Barista Really Wants You To Know

Starbucks Lessons
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Starbucks Stereotypes
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If you’ve ever worked in a coffee shop, you know it can be a stressful, crazy, demanding job. You spend all day dealing with cranky customers, getting chocolate syrup in your hair, pouring mugs of boiling milk, trying to keep your cool when the espresso machine breaks during a rush, and going home smelling like coffee beans–all for minimum wage. I reached out to baristas who work for international coffee chains and artsy little coffeehouses (and everywhere in between), and asked them one question: “What do you wish you could tell everyone who walks into your coffee shop?” Here is what they said, in their own words… Keep reading »

Thank Goodness For Pretty Thank You Cards

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Finding the motivation to send a proper thank you note is almost impossible–unless I have a stack of beautiful thank you notes sitting on my desk, in which case I’m so excited to use them that I start thanking everyone for everything. Thank you, 5th grade teacher, for believing in me! Thank you, best friend, for being my best friend! And so on and so forth. Now I want to buy a pack of these gorgeous flowery postcards, and send one to the artist to thank her for designing them. [$10 for 10 cards, Rifle Paper Co.]

I Put On Makeup In Public — Deal With It

This morning on the subway, I overheard two men cattily complaining that it grosses them out when women put their makeup on in public. As someone who recently became one of those women, it made me want to whip out an eyelash curler and inflict some acute torture on them both.

Why does this bother people so much? Slate’s Dear Prudence is against public nose-powdering: “you are engaged in private activities they’d rather not be witness to.” A Japanese subway system once campaigned against it: “Please do it at home.”

Or, as the men on my train put it, “I don’t wanna see that shit.” But what “shit,” exactly, are we talking about? Is the acting of applying makeup really so gross? Is it impolite to destroy the fantasy that all women wake up with dark black lashes, rosy-cheeked complexions, no red veins around our noses, and perfectly arched brows? Read more…

10 Annoying Airplane Behaviors That Should Probably Be Illegal

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Over the past few years, I’ve traveled quite a bit and been pretty lucky when it comes to airplane seatmates. I’ve been fortunate enough to sit next to friendly, polite, interesting people who respect my personal space but will happily tell me thrilling tales about their childhood spent in a religious cult when prompted. That all changed this weekend, when, over the course of four short flights, I encountered a morning talker, an excessive ball scratcher, a sulfurous human gas machine, and a man who was smugly eating heaping bites of slimy homemade coleslaw out of a plastic bag. This is ridiculous, I thought, there should be laws against smug coleslaw crunching on airplanes! Since we managed to outlaw smoking on planes, here are some of the in-flight infractions that should be next… Keep reading »

Republican Politician To Offer Class On “Posture, Deportment And Feminine Presence.” Yes, Seriously.

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Update: 4p.m. Well, that was quick. State Senator Mary Marty Golden’s website has canceled the event. I guess you’ll have to learn your feminine wiles elsewhere. [New York Observer]

Please tell me this is a joke. This is a joke, right?

The office of a Republican politician in Brooklyn, New York, will be offering a class for women in his district about “Posture, Deportment, and Feminine Presence.” Ostensibly this is a career development event about etiquette, but the packaging is really, really WTF. Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: Putting Your Foot In Your Mouth On A First Date

Dating Don'ts: Negging
Just say no to negging! Read More »
Dating Don'ts: Criticism
It's time to put a moratorium on beating yourself up. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: Ghosting
Thou shalt not ghost your love interests. Read More »
foot in mouth

On Friday night, I had an online date that really fizzled. Everything was going just fine over chips and guac until he majorly stuck his foot in his mouth. He started talking about his ex-girlfriends (always a red flag!) and mentioned that several were depressed. He ended up giving much more than he got back in these relationships, he said. Women with depression are way too needy. He won’t date one again.

Well then, I thought to myself. I guess we should just get the check! I tried to be polite about what he was telling me. I suggested perhaps women with depression are attractive to him in some way, seeing how the pattern has repeated itself many times. I said that people with mental illness need to take care of themselves first, not be taken care of by anyone else, and maybe he might want to look into why he dates women who turn out to be “needy.” And then when I shared with him that I, actually, have had depression for years, he got very uncomfortable and embarrassed. Keep reading »

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