enthusiastic consent

Love & Sex

I’m a big believer in enthusiastic consent. I’m only down to fuck people who are clearly down to fuck me, either because they have communicated that verbally or with indisputable consenting body language. I expect my partners to be similarly attentive to my words and body language, and what those cues say about my desire. Should a… READ MORE »


News

Most Americans support “yes means yes” campus consent policies. [Huffington Post]
In addition to today’s decision not to hear anti-gay marriage cases from five U.S. states, here are six other Supreme Court equality cases to watch this term. [RH Reality Check]
Charles Clymer, inspiration for the feminist #StopClymer hashtag, was awarded asREAD MORE »


Guys

Back in my 20s, I used to party quite a bit, sometimes to ridiculous excess. Drunkenness was rampant, and so were the accompanying shenanigans.
Once, a large group of us took a limo bus downtown for a coworker’s birthday. On the bus was a girl I recognized from work, but had never met. We… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

Here in the land of lady blogs, most of us believe that sex and exploring your sexuality is a great thing. “Sex positive” is the go-to term for this, which is the philosophy that all consensual expressions of sexuality are good and healthy. Sex positivity also includes advocating for sex education and safer sex. Sounds… READ MORE »


News

Today I’m going to fulfill a promise I made quite a while ago, and talk about what a consent culture would look like.

A consent culture is one in which the prevailing narrative of sex — in fact, of human interaction — is centered around mutual consent.  It is a culture with an… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

Enthusiastic Consent. I’m a fan. For any of you not in the know, Enthusiastic Consent is a way to make sure that yes really means yes and no means no, during sex. It’s an ongoing conversation during sex itself, where partners listen to all manner of cues to make sure that what’s happening is really… READ MORE »