Thanks to reader ACooper’s suggestion, we now have a new feature called “Dear Wendy Updates,” in which people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Trying to be Grateful,” who hated the necklace her boyfriend gave her for Valentine’s Day and didn’t want to wear it instead of her grandmother’s heirloom necklace. We also hear from “Planner,” who had pre-engagement jitters after learning that her boyfriend had retrieved her grandmother’s diamond engagement ring with the intent to propose with it soon. Did he ever end up popping the question? Did she say “yes”? How did “Trying to be Grateful” deal with the necklace situation? Find out all after the jump. Keep reading »
Wendy is off today, so I’m reposting an oldie but a goodie from her Dear Wendy column. She’ll be back at it tomorrow!
I have been dating my boyfriend for about three months. We get along great and he would do anything for me. We just have one problem. He doesn’t believe in evolution and I very passionately do. We got in a discussion about it which quickly turned into a huge fight. Although my current career has taken me down a different path, I have my masters degree in biology concentrated in ecology and evolution so I know a little something about it and pretty much dedicated my entire education to learning about it. He is an engineer and very smart, but I just found out that he used to be really religious, hence his disbelief in evolution. I tried to answer his many misconceptions about evolution as best I could without being prepared for such a heavy debate, but he persisted in refusing to listen to the evidence I presented and even compared me to a religious zealot who has been brainwashed by my schooling. I know that when I feel passionately about something I can get quite worked up and come across as condescending. I understand that a lot of couples have different beliefs and make it work so I know that we can too. However, I don’t want us to have restrictions on what we can or can’t discuss in a rational manner. So I guess what I am asking is how do I broach this topic in a manner that doesn’t turn into a huge argument? Should I just accept that we may never agree on the topic and try to get over it? — The “Mad” Scientist
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Did you see the Disney-Pixar movie “Up”? We did. It made us cry. A lot. While the film’s super sad, it’s such a beautiful love story that we’re not completely surprised one couple based their engagement photos on the tale of Carl and Ellie, complete with loads of balloons and a grape soda bottle cap pin. Adorable. [The Wedding Chicks via BuzzFeed] Keep reading »
As many of you know, I was a fiancée who got dumped. On the 1-10 Suck Scale, it registered at around 27, due in no small part to the fact that I was caught by surprise, it was handled rather insensitively, and I wasn’t given the whole story — or a full explanation — right away. With that being said, people often dump their fiancés/fiancées for perfectly good reasons and just because they’re the ones doing the dumping, that doesn’t make them evil, horrible people who should be drawn and quartered. Let’s face it: how to properly end an engagement is not something we teach in school, unless you are getting private tutoring from Jennifer Love Hewitt (she’s been engaged, like, three times). Luckily I’ve learned a few things about it, after being on the short end of the stick. This should come in handy when I dump Sam Worthington for my true love, Ryan Gosling. Keep reading »
Cathy Torkelson, 34, had a good job as a legal consultant, a loving boyfriend and supportive friends and family. She was a good girlfriend in what appeared to be a solid year-and-a-half-long relationship. Yet, internally, Cathy was anxious, irritable, moody and unable to concentrate. The cause? A persistent question: why hasn’t he proposed?
Torkelson’s questioning became “all-consuming,” and eventually turned a normally independent, rational woman into a nervous wreck. Keep reading »
Newlywed Ivanka Trump wants to take the stress—and originality—out of popping the question. Dudes can say goodbye to, err, thinking about how to ask women to spend the rest of their lives with them. That’s right, boys! Say goodbye to picking a special spot, planning the evening, and making a heartfelt speech. Ivanka has got you covered. Now, men who buy an engagement ring at Trump’s Bridal Bar on Manhattan’s Madison Avenue score a free, one-night stay at the Trump International Hotel or the Trump SoHo, which will open in February. As if the woman wasn’t already wondering why she’s randomly spending the night in a five-star hotel, Ivanka takes the mystery out of the proposal completely by putting a dozen roses and champagne in the guest’s room. Peeps also get a three-course dinner and breakfast in bed. Right. She’ll never see it coming! [People] Keep reading »
So … we spent the Thanksgiving holiday down in Florida with my folks, which meant Future Husband got a big “welcome to the family” glimpse of how the holidays with MY family works: lots of kids (there were no less than 8 kids under the age of 8 on T-day), lots of wine, and lots of sports. Minus the kids part, it was basically just like every Sunday at our house. Overall, we had an awesome time, which was great. Keep reading »
When a couple gets engaged, the first thing people want to know is what the ring looks like, the second is how he proposed. We’ve already seen Emily Blunt‘s engagement ring, and today, John Krasinski told the ladies of “The View” how he asked her to marry him. John’s proposal was old school: “It’s funny, everybody asks me, ‘Did you get on your knee?’ And I’m like, ‘That’s what you do, right?’” Watch him describe it in the above clip! [The View] Keep reading »