I am a 23-year-old, self-supporting college grad and my boyfriend and I have lived together for four months. We love each other very much, are happy together and everything is going great. But there is one problem. My mother and much of my family is extremely conservative and this would be qualified as “living in sin.” I see nothing wrong with my choice as it makes me happy, it’s a healthy relationship, etc., but I fear I would cause a large rift in the relationship with my mother, with whom I’m very close, if she knew or found out. But keeping it a secret is causing a problem in my relationship with my boyfriend and I know he is hurt by it. I feel like I need to do something, but I fear destroying a relationship with my family. Any advice on what to do? — Live-in Love
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Earlier today, we shared the news that Jessica Simpson is engaged after a whirlwind five months with football player Eric Johnson. Coincidentally, the announcement came just days after her ex-husband Nick Lachey said that he and Vanessa Minnillo are tying the knot. And now we have another suspiciously timed engagement. A week and a half after LeAnn Rimes and Eddie Cibrian faked us out with an engagement TwitPic, and subsequently denied that they were getting married, LeAnn’s ex-husband Dean Sheremet announced that he will be walking down the aisle again, with new love Sarah Silver. Keep reading »
“Shut up, shut up, shut up!” I squealed, wondering inwardly why those were the only words I could muster.
I placed my hands on Alex’s trembling shoulders and pulled him to his feet. “Of course,” I whispered, accepting his proposal. As we clung to one another, spectators faded away and elation swelled. Keep reading »
When I met the cute blue-eyed surfer who lived in my apartment building—we’ll call him Max—we clicked immediately. I’m a workaholic by nature, but I set aside my writing while he and I stayed up until dawn in fits of side-splitting giggles, thumbing through photo albums, playing music and talking—about everything. Politics, religion, sex—nothing was off limits. He even told me about his ex-girlfriend. She was eight years his senior and ready for marriage and a family. At 25, he wasn’t.
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Over the weekend, while dining with George Clooney in Italy, Elisabetta Canalis waved her hand in the air, showing off a bauble on her ring finger. Fellow diners, and naturally the paparazzi, thought the item on her finger was an engagement ring. Which made everyone assume that George had popped the question. But George’s rep says that is not the case—and that it was a napkin ring Elisabetta had put on her finger as a joke. Hilarious? [People]
So was this a joke or is Clooney’s camp trying to cover for him? It’s hard to say. After the jump, other celebrities who’ve said their engagement rumors were sparked by misunderstandings. And let’s just say that a few of them walked down the aisle in secret shortly thereafter. Keep reading »
Recently there was the dude dressed in a giant broccoli costume who got down on one knee at the minor league baseball game. (Come on, if you’re going to propose on the Jumbotron, at least choose the majors.)
Then there was Mike from Austin, whose proposal fail took place on live TV. Or a guy who got slapped upside the head — before she ran away — after he popped the question at a hockey game.
A reader sent me a link to the pilot episode for a new web series on weTV.com called “Put A Ring On It,” a show that covers real-life, over-the-top marriage proposals. “I think you will really like this one,” she wrote, “a guy calls a team of proposal experts to help him freeze time for his proposal.” Intrigued, I watched the clip, but I can’t say I share the same enthusiasm as the reader who sent it to me. Sure, I love a good proposal story as much as the next person, but there’s something a bit icky and disingenuous about turning what should be an intimate moment into entertainment for other people (says the girl who’s watched every season of “The Bachelor/ette”). We aren’t talking about a proposal that happens to be videotaped and slapped on YouTube; this is a real production with a team of “experts,” including a stylist, a techie and a relationship guru, as well as producers, and multiple cameras. And while there’s certainly nothing wrong with a big production, in this case the sentiment seems to get lost. Maybe the guy was just nervous — he’s not only proposing, after all, he’s performing a role … for a show — but where’s his excitement? Where’s the love? I guess I’m just not feeling it for “Put A Ring On It.” Are you? Keep reading »
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost seven years. We’ve talked about getting married and having kids constantly, but nothing’s come out of it. We’ve even set a tentative date and picked colors. We’ve picked colors!!! But he still hasn’t proposed. I’m getting really frustrated and wondering if all the talk is just that: talk. Things are really great with us, but I’m losing patience and losing my mind. What should I do? — Not-so-patiently waiting
Thanks to reader ACooper’s suggestion, we now have a new feature called “Dear Wendy Updates,” in which people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Trying to be Grateful,” who hated the necklace her boyfriend gave her for Valentine’s Day and didn’t want to wear it instead of her grandmother’s heirloom necklace. We also hear from “Planner,” who had pre-engagement jitters after learning that her boyfriend had retrieved her grandmother’s diamond engagement ring with the intent to propose with it soon. Did he ever end up popping the question? Did she say “yes”? How did “Trying to be Grateful” deal with the necklace situation? Find out all after the jump. Keep reading »
Wendy is off today, so I’m reposting an oldie but a goodie from her Dear Wendy column. She’ll be back at it tomorrow!
I have been dating my boyfriend for about three months. We get along great and he would do anything for me. We just have one problem. He doesn’t believe in evolution and I very passionately do. We got in a discussion about it which quickly turned into a huge fight. Although my current career has taken me down a different path, I have my masters degree in biology concentrated in ecology and evolution so I know a little something about it and pretty much dedicated my entire education to learning about it. He is an engineer and very smart, but I just found out that he used to be really religious, hence his disbelief in evolution. I tried to answer his many misconceptions about evolution as best I could without being prepared for such a heavy debate, but he persisted in refusing to listen to the evidence I presented and even compared me to a religious zealot who has been brainwashed by my schooling. I know that when I feel passionately about something I can get quite worked up and come across as condescending. I understand that a lot of couples have different beliefs and make it work so I know that we can too. However, I don’t want us to have restrictions on what we can or can’t discuss in a rational manner. So I guess what I am asking is how do I broach this topic in a manner that doesn’t turn into a huge argument? Should I just accept that we may never agree on the topic and try to get over it? — The “Mad” Scientist