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Hitched: Wedding Planning Is The Worst

Engaged Without A Ring
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I started having emotional breakdowns about a month into wedding planning. Sweaty palms, heart racing, knees weak, teary eyes, total immobilization. I would find myself staring at a web page filled with tiki torches or green bridesmaid dresses or centerpiece ideas, and I would just stop dead in my wedding tracks.

It became the worst when Patrick would ask me for ideas or advice. Two questions in a row about the wedding and I’d be a shaky, sweaty mess. All of a sudden, my mind was deluged with worst-case scenarios and paralyzing fear of judgment from others. How do you plan a party everyone has already been to before, but also make it the paragon of amazing loveness that super-embodies the perfect lovey-face of your wonderful and unique relationship?

Moreover, will our venue let us put party lights up and what if we don’t have party lights and we trigger Armageddon right then and there?!

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Hitched: Getting Engaged Without A Ring

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Wedding Body Project
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Andrea on the expectation that all brides-to-be want to lose weight. Read More »

When you get drunk with your boyfriend at the lake and decide to get engaged while under the influence of a decent-sized bottle of Jim Beam, you don’t exactly get the whole kneel-down, velvet-box proposal. No, what you get is peeling your face off a mattress the next morning and wondering where your pants are and oh my God, donde tacos?, and oh yeah, forever love.

But I’m of the School of Functional Alcoholic Thought that subscribes to the idea that alcohol just lubes you up for stuff you really want to do in your secret heart, rather than forces you to do things you’d rather not. So not only do I not regret our engagement story, I think it’s true to who Patrick and I are (enthusiastic boozers) and what kind of relationship we have (the kind where we do s**t the way we like to do it.)

The drunkgagement is also a good way to end up being engaged without a ring, because who just goes around getting wasted with diamonds in their pockets? I mean, besides fancy people, obviously.  Keep reading »

Hitched: What’s In A Name?

Last month, my boyfriend Patrick and I drank a bottle of Jim Beam at the lake and decided to get married. When we peeled our faces off a sticky, half-deflated air mattress the next morning, we asked ourselves two questions: first, did we still want to get married, and second, how about some Taco Bell? Yes to both, thank you.

Eventually the time came for parental phone calls, and mine were excited and curious: where would our wedding be? When? Several minutes into the call, I heard my mom muse, almost absent-mindedly, “Andrea Hislastname ….” She didn’t ask if I would be changing my last name; she simply said what she believed my new name would be, just to see how it rolled off her tongue.

Patrick’s family did ask about changing my name, at least. And I told them: no, I’m not changing my name. For that matter, neither is Patrick. Of course, most folks would never think to ask if a guy might change his name upon marriage. It’s just not done in this country — and once I learned why, I became more sure than ever that I would never be anyone but Andrea Grimes. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “It’s Been Five Years And My Boyfriend Still Won’t Propose!”

I’m a 27-year-old female, and I’ve been with my 31-year-old boyfriend for over five years now. We have made a happy and loving life together, including sharing a home, sharing our finances, being closely involved with each other’s families, and we even have two cats and a puppy together. About a year ago we started talking seriously about getting engaged within the next six months, but by the time fall rolled around, my boyfriend told me that though he loves me and wants nothing more than a future with me, he was just not ready for an engagement yet. He had some issues from his parents’ divorces, and decided to begin counseling to deal with them.

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Should A Boyfriend Ask Her Dad’s Permission To Propose?

Should a boyfriend ask his girlfriend's father for permission to propose?

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Dear Wendy: “Our Friend Is Engaged To A Psycho!”

Selling Engagement Ring?
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My husband’s best friend “Bill” is engaged to marry his fiancee “Erin” this June. Last night, he told me about a fight Bill and Erin recently had that really concerns me. Erin feels very threatened by pornography and forbids Bill from looking at it because she considers it cheating. When she moved in, she destroyed his porn collection. A couple of weeks ago, Erin found a porn site in the web history on their shared computer and proceeded to compile evidence of Bill visiting porn sites. The same week, Erin found a cabinet with a locked door while Bill was at work; she pried it open to discover a set of porn DVDs. She called Bill and calmly stated that they “needed to talk.” When Bill got home that night, Erin immediately brought out the DVDs, began screaming and snapped the DVDs in his face. She then threatened to seriously damage his vehicle, began throwing things and ultimately punched him in the face. Erin truly expects Bill to never be sexually excited by the image of another woman and feels that he needs counseling for his “porn addiction.” The violence is obviously upsetting, and their inability to have an open dialogue sets the stage for future conflicts. My husband is generally the type to mind his own business, but I feel that he needs to urge Bill to seek counseling with Erin and seriously rethink the wedding if she refuses to go. What would you do if you were a friend of theirs? — Smells Trouble

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Girl Talk: I Feel Guilty About Selling My Engagement Ring

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It was insanely beautiful. A round diamond in the middle, surrounded by a ring of tiny diamonds, set in platinum. It was custom-designed, but looked vintage. I had never thought much about diamonds — in fact, all of my jewelry, save the pair of diamond studs he had gifted me a couple years before, was from Forever 21 — but it was as if my boyfriend of four years knew exactly what kind of ring I would want when he proposed. I must have said, “Oh my god” 100 times. I wore the ring with love and pride up until we broke up nine-and-a-half months later. Keep reading »

A Movie Proposal, Rated PG


Oh look, it’s another totally adorable movie trailer proposal. Todd Cavanaugh wanted to propose to his girlfriend Elizabeth Baldanza (Miss New York 2007), so he enlisted a film production crew to make a totally original movie trailer. Man, these guys are making regular old proposals look so lame. [Urlesque] Keep reading »

Jewelry Superstitions: Why Wearing Diana’s Ring May Be A Bad Omen For Kate Middleton

Kate Middleton‘s engagement ring just so happens to be a hand-me-down from the late Princess Diana. Although this family treasure is very dear to Prince William’s heart, the superstitious among us would agree that Kate should never have accepted it. Why? Well, because it’s widely believed that jewelry can be cursed. Take the Hope Diamond, for example, which many believe has been cursed since it was stolen in 1642. Since then, tragedy, injury, or even death has befallen all those who have come in contact with it, including Marie Antoinette. Even if you don’t believe that jewelry can be cursed, I always heard the old wives’ tale that engagement rings are supposed to carry the energy of the marriage from whence it came. Meaning it’s bad luck to inherit a ring from an unhappy marriage. So essentially Kate is wearing the ring of a troubled princess who had a very bad marriage, not to mention a tragic end. If I were Kate, I might have hoped for something with a little bit less bad ju-ju. [Hottnez]

After the jump, some more jewelry superstitions. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: I Unknowingly Bought My Own Engagement Ring

My ex-fiancé made me cry on our first date.

Huddled together in my cramped Manhattan apartment, I learned that Michael graduated from UCLA, knew the lyrics to every Air Supply ballad, and had recently been diagnosed with stomach cancer for the second time. He brushed away my tears while citing his recurring symptoms and chemotherapy schedule. I added “strong” and “brave” to my mental checklist, along with “handsome,” “charming,” “funny,” and “sensitive.” Keep reading »

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