I am therapy’s biggest champion. I’ve been seeing my therapist for … oh, nine years now? Dr. A is my longest term relationship, outside of my family. I credit her for helping me overcome so many of my issues, learning to forgive, and getting me through some truly heartbreaking times. And therapy isn’t just for when life feels really, really hard — when I’m feeling good, I still get just as much out of my weekly therapy sessions, as self-awareness is a never-ending journey.
Therapy, though, is still something many people raise an eyebrow at. They think it means you’re crazy, or fucked up, or suicidal. I would love to see therapy become even more normalized, rather than an extreme measure for the deeply wounded. One thing that is maybe helping (and also maybe hurting) that cause is the rise of televised therapy sessions on reality TV shows. I’m not talking about Dr. Phil — fuck him. I’m talking about both reality TV stars allowing the cameras in on their existing therapy sessions, or signing up for therapy-themed TV shows like “Celeb Rehab.” Just how legit are these therapists? What’s their approach to therapy? Would I ever hire them to shrink my head? Let’s review…
Last week, a caller on the syndicated call-in radio program “Loveline” prefaced his question by listing the symptoms of his fiancée’s endometriosis. The radio show’s host, Dr. Drew, cut him off:
“These are what we call sort of functional disorders. Everything you mentioned, everything you mentioned, are things that actually aren’t discernibly pathological. They’re what we call ‘garbage bag diagnoses,’ when you can’t think of anything else, you go, ‘Eh, it’s that.’ So, it then makes me question why is she so somatically preoccupied that she’s visiting doctors all the time with pains and urinary symptoms and pelvic symptoms, and then that makes me wonder, was she sexually abused growing up?”
Word? Okay. Because this one dude won’t ever experience a condition affecting 5 million American women, that means it’s got to be made up? Some of us might be survivors of sexual abuse. Because you can be a survivor of sexual abuse and have endometriosis at the damn same time. But being a survivor of sexual abuse and having endometriosis are mutually exclusive. Because sexual abuse does not cause endometriosis. Keep reading »
Yesterday, we told you about a story coming out of Yellowstone County, Montana: A teacher who’d repeatedly raped his 14-year-old student received a 15-year suspended sentence and was ordered to spend just 31 days in prison. Why? Because, ruled Judge G. Todd Baugh, the victim “seemed older than her chronological age.” At the time of the crimes, Stacey Dean Rambold was 49, and an authority figure in the girl’s high school.
According to Judge Baugh, that didn’t matter, though, because the way the girl — whom Baugh had never even met or interviewed — acted was much more mature (i.e. slutty) than what Baugh considers an average 14-year-old to be. Now the judge is coming under fire for not only the insanely light sentence he gave to Rambold, but also for comments he made regarding the sexual and emotional status of the victim. Not only did Judge Baugh say that he believed the victim was much older than her age, he also asserted in his ruling that the victim was “as much in control of the situation” as her rapist.
Oh, but that’s not all! Keep reading »
Dr. Drew Pinsky hit up Lance Bass’ SiriusXM radio show and made some eyebrow-raising comments regarding Chris Brown and Rihanna. He started off on a high note, discussing how difficult it is for a woman to leave her abuser. “On average, it takes a woman in a domestic violence situation eight attempts at leaving before she leaves,” Dr. Drew said. “They go back — they misinterpret the intensity as love. They think it’s so intense and great, ‘He loves me so much, that’s why he got so upset.’ We haven’t heard the end of this.”
Lance Bass then asked him if he thinks Rihanna has battered woman syndrome and Dr. Drew replied, “Let’s face it, she’s attracted to that … Listen, I don’t fault either person. I don’t [say,] ‘Oh, it’s a bad person.’ These are human experiences. These are very common situations these days.” Keep reading »
Dr. Drew Pinsky is facing allegations that he was bribed and had accepted $275,000 to talk up the antidepressant drug Wellbutrin SR during his radio and television show “Loveline.” While hosting the shows “Celebrity Rehab with Dr. Drew” and “Sober House,” Pinksy made sure to discuss the benefits of taking Wellbutrin SR, including its ability to “increase libido,” but never presented himself as a representative of the drug company that makes it, GlaxoSmithKline. Keep reading »
Dr. Drew Pinsky is utterly clueless about about bondage, dominance, and sadomascochism in relationships and has no business discussing them on national television. That is my conclusion after seeing Dr. Drew brought in as an “expert,” and yes those air quotes are intentional, on “The Today Show” recently to discuss the book 50 Shades Of Grey. As you may have heard, the explicit, erotic BDSM romance novel about a dominant/submissive relationship has become extremely popular with women across the country — slightly surprising considering how being whipped and spanked is not everyone’s cup of tea. I have not read 50 Shades myself yet, but I’ve read numerous other BDSM novels, short stories, and true-life tales, and I’ve been in consensual submissive/dominant relationships since the age 18 or 19. So I can say with 110 percent confidence that he does not know what he is talking about and Dr. Drew actually did a huge disservice to women and men when he called the book “actual violence against women.” Keep reading »