This week I decided to tap some real personal assets: my guy friends. Whenever I need sex advice, I turn to them! This time, I wanted to find out what I may or may not be doing wrong in bed. Hey, they know being friends with a sexy lady like me means they’ll eventually have to divulge the dirty deets on how they like to get down, or in this case, how they don’t. Here’s what these stallions told me they hate during nakey time—uncensored.

This week I got a letter from a lady whose man has been stickin’ it to her, even if he doesn’t know how hard he’s been working:

My boyfriend and I just moved in together and we’ve been doing it all the time, including a couple nights ago when he woke me up in the middle of the night to have sex. He started going for it, not me. But the next morning, he didn’t seem to know we had sex. He swears he doesn’t remember it AT ALL. Come on! Is he joking? At first I was like, What does it matter? But really, I’m kinda freaked out. How could he have sex with me and not remember? We did go out drinking with some friends that night, but we didn’t get wasted. I’ve seen him a lot drunker than that! Is he playing a joke on me? I don’t get it. I can’t stop trying to figure out why he’d lie to me. Is it really possible we had sex and he had no idea?

Oral sex, we all love to receive it. But some peeps have a harder time giving:

I have what I feel is an embarrassing situation. I am in a long term, steady relationship with my boyfriend, and, in general, things are great. There is only one little problem in our sex life ... he goes down on me, he loves it, I love it, and life is great, but I cannot seem to do the same for him. I am so embarrassed and I don’t know what to do! I gag or feel nauseous every time I try. He says it’s not a big deal, but I know it’s something he wants and something I want to be able to give him. Is there any way for me to get over what seems like a weird, childish type of response?  If not, will he hold it against me, or do you think he means it when he says it’s not a big deal?

We all have hot buttons that love to get pushed. Like watching a good movie your new beau picked out, a new sexual partner has the potential to show you something that you love, that you never would have found on your own. Of course, we all agree, getting naked heats things up, but there’s more to sex than bodies. Your brain is your biggest erogenous zone, and there are plenty of folks with creative minds who take their sexy time to places of desire where other people would never dare to go. So, without further adieu, to inspire you, here are seven surprising fetishes you probably haven’t already come up with on your own ... or have you?

This week, I got a letter from a lady who has an itch she’s been meaning to get scratched. She just can’t quite seem to reach it.

I have a dilemma and am looking for some advice.  I’m 28 years old and still a virgin.  It isn’t something that I planned, and I find it a bit embarrassing.  I dated the same guy all through college, but at first I just wasn’t ready yet.  Even once I personally was ready, I knew that having my first time be with him wasn’t probably the best idea. (We were complicated, angsty, and breaking up/getting back together all the time, and I felt like having sex with him would just complicate things further.)  I dated a guy for quite a while after college whom I wanted to sleep with.  We had great chemistry, and plus I was really ready by then.  He told me he didn’t want to because he “didn’t want to be the jerk who took it from me,” and eventually he cheated on me.  It took a little while to recover from that, and I didn’t even date for a while.

This week I got a letter from a lady who’s got the rack but is missing some spice. She wrote:

I have been with my boyfriend for about seven months and it’s been going really well. 
However he keeps mentioning how much he likes/misses having “make-up sex,” and I just don’t know what to do.
 We just have never fought … in fact, I’m not much of a fighter and have never had “make-up sex” in my life. If something upsets me, sex is really the last thing I want to do with that person. 
It’s clearly something he really enjoys, and as nice as it is that we don’t have epic fights, I feel we are missing out on something. 
I have talked it through with him and he says that he doesn’t care, that it’s nice not to be arguing. But I can tell that it’s something he really misses from previous relationships. 
I have even tried picking fights, when I haven’t been annoyed at all, to try and get it going! (That’s hasn’t worked.) Please give me some suggestions!

Over the weekend, I got an urgent letter from a lady who thinks she might be knocked-up. Here’s what she wrote:

“My boyfriend always pulls out when we’re having sex. He’s usually super reliable, but last night he slipped up and came inside me. I freaked at him, but then this morning I got my period, thank god. So I’m in the clear, right?”

Um, sorry hot stuff, the answer is no. You can get preggers even during your period. I know, it sucks, but that’s why I’m urgently answering your email. Lucky for you, there’s the morning-after pill (aka, Plan B). It’s an over-the-counter miracle! By preventing conception, it stops you from having to answer that existential question: Should I be a mom, right now?

The Frisky’s own Leonora has just moved to France, and we miss her already! She’s having all kinds of new experiences, I’m sure. Fondling haute couture, chowing down on cheese and baguette, and, of course, falling for some handsome gentlemen. But being a nice Jewish girl, I have a feeling Leo the lover has never come head-to-head, er face-to-face, with an uncircumcised guy. And just like a lot of foreign films that come out of Europe, they’re uncut. So, I’m going to give our fair Leo some pointers on how to manhandle her future friends with foreskin.

This week I got a letter from a lady who is learning that love may hurt, but sex can leave a bruise: “I met a guy who’s shaping up to be pretty awesome. Except, he squeezed my boobs so hard the other night that i woke up the next morning with black and blue bruises from where his fingers were. Needless to say, next time I see him, we’ll be having a little chit-chat. Or will we? Because when I look in the mirror instead of thinking, ‘Ew, those nasty marks are GROSS!’, my thought process is more along the lines of, ‘Hell yeah, I got some last night!’ I generally have the same reaction when I get hickeys, even if it’s a pain to cover them up and they look horrendous. Is it strange to take pleasure in getting sex scars?”

Yeah! You got some! [Insert victory dance here.] Meanwhile, I was just watching “Project Runway.”

Anyway, I once was in love with a biter. One night, he chomped down on my nips so hard I couldn’t wear a bra for two days. It hurt so good that I’m not even embarrassed to say I like the John Mellencamp song of the same name! No need to be disgusted by yourself. Maybe you’re just discovering that you’re into S&M like a lot of peeps, including yours truly. Psst, I’m an easy bruiser too.

Battle wounds are cool, and love marks are a source of pride—that is, unless they embarrass you at the office. Here’s how I cover ‘em up to save corporate face…

When it comes to orgasms, we all are left wondering what will make the magic happen for us. For ladies, sometimes seeing an impressive instrument is believing. Heck, even I obsessed over “How To Predict The Size Of A Penis.” But does the distance of his dong really matter when it comes to coming?

This week, I got a letter from a lady who’s full of hot air:

“Last night, I was trying to impress this guy I’ve been seeing by trying to bend like a pretzel in bed.  Unfortunately, I farted while moving my leg over. It was loud, it was smelly. It was so embarrassing. There was a definite pause ... and then we just kept going. It was the most awkward thing that has ever happened to me. Will he ever think I’m sexy again? It was only the fourth time we had sex.”

This week, I got a letter from a woman who’s worried she doesn’t know her own strength:

“I’m finally seeing a new guy regularly and he’s great, but we’re having a major issue in the bedroom department. I’ve always had glowing reviews before, and this new guy and I are definitely compatible, but sometimes we have to stop because somehow I’ve ... bent his penis? The last time it happened, I had already orgasmed, but he was telling me he might not be able to (another really frustrating problem, but a more manageable one—he said he was tired). Anyway, he pulled out too far mid-thrust and then instead of going straight back in there, he got off track and ended up smushing himself against me and hurting himself! This has happened before but I thought it was due to dryness, so we added lube and things were fine for a while, but it’s happened since and dryness was not to blame. I’m not sure if I’m doing something wrong or what, but I’m starting to get concerned and I don’t want him to be disappointed and writhing in pain every time we have sex! It doesn’t happen every single time, but it’s enough that it’s a problem. Please help me!”

Oh girl, this is an emergency! Here’s how you can play doctor.

This week I got a letter from a teeny bopper, who just can’t seem to “She Bop,” if you know what I mean. She wrote:

I’m 19, have never had a boyfriend, and am still a virgin.
 I’m not coming to you for relationship advice; the way I see it I don’t need a man right now. The thing is, as I’m sure you know, sex dominates culture. Just because I’ve never done it doesn’t mean I haven’t heard stories, and it’s made me pretty damn horny. I’m kind of curious about masturbation, but I feel like I’m just doing it wrong. Nothing seems to really get me there. Do you have advice for a beginner like me?

Well, honey, even a ho like me will tell you that there’s no rush to lose your virginity—especially if you’ haven’t orgasmed on your own first! Lettin’ some dude sock it to you before you know how to get off isn’t gonna do it for ya. No man is that good. You’ve got to take your O into your own hands!  You’ve got to solve, or rather diddle, your own ecstasy riddle. So, all that work you’ve been doing feeling around down there, even if it hasn’t finished the job, is a good start! Now here’s how you can take yourself all the way home.

This week, I got a letter from a lady who is wondering if she can let her date play Moses and part the Red Sea.

“I have recently been flirting with an old hookup and we have both been hinting at wanting to rekindle the affair. We live in different cities, and he is coming to visit this weekend and I have a suspicion that we’ll be having sex.  Unfortunately, my period is due to come on Friday!  How do I go about having sex during my period without getting everything messy and/or grossing both of us out? I read that you can have sex while wearing the Instead Cup, so I’m totally on that one and hope it works!”—
Fantastic Timing

Back in March, the State of New Jersey actually tried to ban Brazilian waxes after two women got infections from unsanitary salons. In neighboring New York City, one woman was even hospitalized for 15 days after she got a bad infection from going bald at a dirty spa. The poor gal almost lost her leg from cellulitis. But in the face of those cases, an industry that thrives on hairy situations wasn’t just going to hide in the bush! As we ladies know, all salons aren’t created equal, some are just nasty. That’s no reason to penalize the clean peeps who are fighting the good fight against body hair, especially during bikini season. So, luckily for those visiting the Jersey shore beaches this summer, the ban did not stand! Or as spa proprietress, Linda Orsuto, said: “The government has been picking our pockets for so long, it was like: ‘Just stay out of our pants, will you?’” Ha! Well, it’s good to have a sense of humor about the man trying to keep you down, but when it comes to our downtown, you gotta be smart. Here’s what you need to know if you’re going to get a bikini wax.

This week, I got an email from a lady who’s having a hard time getting her man up for sex. Here’s what she wrote:

“My boyfriend didn’t even get an erection when I was topless, underneath him, kissing him! He is under a lot of stress, but so am I. 
When we do have, usually scheduled, sex, it is amazing, very intimate and passionate. But I’m a very sexual person, it is part of my nature, I want some quantity as well as quality. Now he wants me to go ‘cold turkey’ until he ‘sorts his head out.’ He does recognize the problem, but doesn’t offer any solutions. He is a wonderful boyfriend and truly loves me. What do I do?”

This week I gotta an email from a lady with the subject line “loss of confidence.” Haven’t we all been there?! So, my Frisky friends, let’s show this girl some love and get her back on her feet. Here’s what she had to say about her situation:

“I’m a 22-year-old college student who loves to have sex. However, my 27-year-old boyfriend doesn’t seem interested, not that I blame him. See, he is his grandmother’s caretaker and is required to spend nights at her house, where I’m not allowed to stay the night. I’ve tried to get him to come to my apartment for some alone time, but usually we just spend time at his house, with his grandma. I’m sick of being ignored. I’ve been turned down so many times by him that I’ve given up on ever having sex with him again. When we do have sex, it’s unbelievable and both of us just go nuts. But we haven’t had sex for three months out of our seven month relationship, and when we do, it’s only once a month. I understand him not wanting to have sex in his grandmother’s house, but there are alternatives. I’m at my wit’s end. Help!”

This week, I got a letter from a lady with a spicy sex life:

“My guy was cooking and I pulled him away from the kitchen to get it on. He had been cutting up peppers and in the heat of the moment didn’t think about it and touched my ‘hot’ spot. Then I actually started to feel a lot of burning—I was wondering if it could cause any damage.”

Ooooh, I can’t resist a man cooking either. I’m not a real doctor, but my guess is if your crotch isn’t still burning, it’s OK. Vagina, you’re gonna make it! Although, if you do still feel a ring of fire, see a gyno please.

For the record, both your mouth and your vagina are mucous membranes. So, in my opinion, if your mouth can go on unscathed after a slight burn, so can your poonani. Now, with that being said, obviously, not every vegetable is meant to go in your hoo-ha, in fact some would probably argue that none should. But why let mouths have all the fun! Here are some tips for food you can actually enjoy….

This week, I got a question from a sexy lady whose been hanging around some loose se(a)men. Bon voyage! But before she sets sail care-free, she’s wondering:

“I feel silly asking this, but when I’m having sex with my boyfriend, right before we begin, something comes out of his penis. I hesitate to call it pre-ejaculate, because after it leaks out we do it for a long time and he eventually comes. Do you know what this is? Does it have sperm in it?”

Puh-lease do not be embarrassed. Even the experts aren’t really sure how to answer some of your questions. As for Dr. V, I got you boo.I once dated a drip that had his own leaky faucet. Actually, he was more like the busted fire hydrant of pre-ejaculatin’ and I swear, he got wetter from foreplay than me!

David Carradine’s bizarre death has left us all wondering, WTF? A final photo showed he was found possibly in a similar situation to late INXS singer, Michael Hutchence— left hanging with hard on. Both are suspected of dying from a kinky kind of fetish called erotic asphyxiation. But what does that mean exactly? And can you live to tell the tale?