I am probably not alone in thinking that “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” is one of the suckiest pieces of legislation ever. The 1994 policy essentially says that peeps who are openly gay can’t serve in the military. That said, if you’re gay and don’t mind keeping it a secret, then by all means serve your country. Interestingly, a new report shows that “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” is even suckier for lesbians than it is for gay men. In the army, 36 percent of the soldiers fired last year for playing for the same-sex team were women. That doesn’t sound huge—until you remember that only 14 percent of soldiers are women. Similarly, in the Air Force, 56 women were dismissed last year for being lesbos while 34 gay men got the boot. Barack Obama, can you get on this issue, please? We know you got the Peace Prize, but you still got a lot of work to do! [CNN] Keep reading »
Dan Choi is a lieutenant in the U.S. Army who graduated from West Point. He served in Iraq, is willing to go back, and is an Arabic language specialist. Sounds good, right? Well, apparently Choi is not good enough for the military, because after he admitted he was gay on the “Rachel Maddow Show” on March 19th, the army sent him a letter, officially discharging him. According to the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Policy,” which Obama has vowed to change, admitting that you are gay “constitutes homosexual conduct.” The army accused Choi of “moral or professional dereliction.” Choi plans to fight the decision and a campaign has already been launched to help him out. [MSNBC] Keep reading »
My first semi-legit boyfriend was a year older than me and leaving for college while I was still a lowly high school senior. It was essentially over when he boarded the plane to Connecticut, but the first few school breaks bore strikingly few signs that anything had changed. Where I expected stilted awkwardness there was a normalcy that almost made me forget that I’d been kissing other boys and he’d probably been screwing everything that walked slow enough to be caught. We’d unwittingly invoked the Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Policy, beloved by oft-separated couples everywhere: do what you like while apart and then act as though nothing happened when together.
Eventually, of course, we broke up because we were too far apart, I had grown taller than him and and we’d both moved on. But for a few months, Don’t Ask, Don’t tell was surprisingly useful and believable. Peripherally, we both knew that everything was different and a bit sloppier, but it didn’t so much matter as long as we neglected to say anything about it. I called it selective memory, my friends called it “deluded” and opinion on Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell remains sharply divided. It worked out for me but it’s been suggested that’s only the case because I have “the emotional range of a snail.” (Thanks Mom.)
In an effort to put together slightly more empirical data on the merits and pit falls of extracurricular action while the boyfriend’s away, I’ve hit up some people who’ve had their way with others and then gone about their girlfriend/boyfriend business to see how it worked for them. Check out their answers after the jump and let us know if it’s worked–or failed miserably–for you in the comments. Keep reading »
Don’t ask, don’t tell, don’t think so! This week, the infamous military policy that allowed homosexuals to be discriminated against in the workplace didn’t stand up in court thanks to Maj. Margaret Witt. The decorated Air Force nurse, who had cared for combat victims for 18 years, was discharged in 2007 because higher-ups heard that she’s gay. Brave and clever, Maj. Witt decided to fight back and sue for her right to serve, and with the help of the ACLU, she won! Her case has now set a precedent wherein the government cannot fire at will when it comes to the sexual orientation of its employees. Like any other job, the military bosses will have to prove there is a real reason for canning any of their personnel. Hooray! We’re hoping this decision will also help The L Word’s sexy servicewoman Tasha keep her military post. We pity the fools who try to mess with any woman, let alone one who is a trained fighter. [MSNBC via World of Wonder]
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