dominance

Armie Hammer Was Into “Dominant” Sex Until He Got Married, Dismisses 50 Shades As “Mommy Porn”

Well, if you’re married to a feminist [journalist, restaurateur and actress Elizabeth Chambers] as I am, then it’s…. I don’t know how much we can put here without my parents being embarrassed, but I used to like to be a dominant lover. I liked the grabbing of the neck and the hair and all that. More »


On Alisa Valdes’s Conflict With Feminism, Her Cowboy & Domestic Abuse

If you’ve been reading the blogosphere lately, you’ve likely heard about Alisa Valdes and her memoir, The Feminist And The Cowboy: An Unlikely Love Story. Valdes is the author several romance novels and the debut novel The Dirty Girls Social Club (as Valdes-Rodriguez), which landed her all kinds of accolades. She was even named one… More »


True Story: I Can Be A Kinky Feminist & A Messy Human Being

A few years ago ….

Today, in 2012, I avoid him as much as I can. But my friend (?) Richard used to joke (?) that I only called him when I broke up with my boyfriends. Kinda true, kinda false. Regardless — a few years ago — I don’t even call him… More »


First Time For Everything: A Spanking Party

“Call me in one hour and tell me your boyfriend dumped you,” I told my girl friend as we stood outside the movie theater where we had just seen “Magic Mike.” “If the party’s weird and I want to leave, I’ll say ‘Oh my God, are you okay? I’ll come meet you!’ Got it?”
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Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: Are You A Dom Or A Sub?

So, one of the gossip items making the rounds today is that Jake Gyllenhaal has to live by all sorts of CUH-RAZY rules now that he is living with Reese Witherspoon and her kids. Stuff like not putting his feet on the coffee table and being openly communicative all the time. The jist of the… More »


If You’re Not Competitive, You Might Be Low On Estrogen

Estrogen might be to women what testosterone is to men. Past research found that male traders made more money when their testosterone levels were high, and now new research has discovered a positive relationship between the level of estrogen and the unconscious need for dominance in women. “Estrogen is very behaviorally potent and is actually… More »