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Tommy Mottola Describes How He Abused Mariah Carey In New Memoir

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This post was reprinted with permission from BlackBookMag.com.

The New York Post got its hands on the new memoir by music honcho Tommy Mottola and the paper’s most depressing article today is a long piece detailing all the ways Mottola outlined his abuse of ex-wife and ex-employee, Mariah Carey. Mottola first came into contact with then-18-year-old singer through a mix tape. He might have fallen in love with — and set his sights on making money from — her voice, but he very quickly turned their relationship into a sexually exploitative, controlling and emotionally abusive one. Keep reading »

Former MTV VJ Dave Holmes Is Not Abusing Azealia Banks, Mmmkay?

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Today In We Should Be Careful About Posting Other People’s Photos On The Internet Accusing Them Of Shit They May Not Have Actually Done:

Former MTV VJ Dave Holmes took to his Tumblr blog today to clear something up: he is not the Dave Holmes who is managing/dating Azealia Banks and allegedly tried to rough her up.

So kindly please stop  reposting pictures of him on the Internet accusing him of being a domestic abuser, okay? Keep reading »

Priest Says Women Encourage Domestic Violence For Not Cooking And Cleaning Well Enough

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Jessica watched a man commit domestic violence while bystanders did nothing. Read More »
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A priest in a northern village in Italy posted some helpful tips for ladies on how to avoid getting beaten by their husbands. “Healthy self-criticism” is necessary for women to make sure there’s nothing they could be doing differently to stop getting beat, such as cooking more dinners, doing the laundry, and dressing more modestly. Keep reading »

Jovan Belcher Allegedly Murdered Kasandra Perkins Over Paternity Paranoia

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Kansas City Chiefs player Jovan Belcher murdered his girlfriend Kasandra Perkins because there was a question about their three-month-old child’s paternity, The New York Post is reporting.

Belcher’s mother Cheryl Sheperd was in the couple’s home on December 1 when Belcher shot Perkins nine times, before driving to a stadium and killing himself.  The Post claims his mother told police the couple had been fighting about whether he was the child’s biological father before the murder-suicide. Keep reading »

On Men As Victims Of Domestic Violence — From A Prosecutor

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A prosecutor's professional point of view on domestic abuse. Read More »
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Last week an anonymous prosecutor who has prosecuted a domestic violence caseload explained to us, from her professional point of view, how we should respond when we have friends or family members in abusive relationships. Some of the comments objected to her use  of the pronoun “he” as the aggressor and “she” as the victim. Here the prosecutor, who requested anonymity, is back to respond. 

Absolutely, men can be and are victims of domestic violence. The choice to use the pronoun she exclusively was a choice that I made as the author because the majoriy of reported domestic violence victims are women. The data also shows that women are more likely than men to report incidents of domestic violence, according to Measuring Intimate Partner Violence by National Institute of Justice. Keep reading »

The Soapbox: On Kasandra Perkins And The Color Of Domestic Violence

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NFL player Jovan Belcher murdered his girlfriend and then killed himself. Read More »

On December 1st, the sports world was in shock as reports came in that Jovan Belcher, a linebacker for the Kansas City Chiefs, died in a murder-suicide, killing himself at the Chiefs training facility after murdering the mother of his three-month-old child in their home. Most people tried to figure out what would make a good kid like Belcher, who appeared to “have it all,” end his life in this way. But I found myself asking, “But what about the girlfriend? Does she even have a name?”

Her name was Kasandra Perkins. The 22-year-old mother had given birth in September and now she was dead. Gone. Keep reading »

True Story: Everything You Need To Know About Domestic Violence — From A Prosecutor

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Jessica watched a man commit domestic violence while bystanders did nothing. Read More »
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Two weeks ago, I wrote an essay about how I witnessed a man committing domestic violence against a woman outside my apartment. I received many incredible emails from readers, including one from a prosecutor who has previously had a DV caseload. She advised me to contact my local precinct and give a statement about what I saw; in her experience, that witness testimony has helped put the abuser behind bars. I asked this prosecutor — who requested anonymity — if she had any advice about how to help victims of DV from a professional standpoint. Here’ what she is sharing with readers of The Frisky. — Jessica 

When I read Jessica’s article on domestic violence, I didn’t think of the victim, the bystanders and their inaction, or the abuser. I thought about the prosecutor on whose desk that case would land. I knew statistically speaking, by the time the prosecutor sees the case, the victim has likely recanted. I thought about the volume of evidence that was right before me, in Jessica’s article. I thought about that prosecutor because I am a prosecutor. Keep reading »

Bangladesh Woman Forced To Remarry Husband After He Threw Acid In Her Face

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As if dealing with a cheating and violent husband is not enough to endure, a Bangladeshi woman had acid thrown into her face by her husband when she dared to divorce him.

Nurbanu, 36, discovered her husband with another woman and divorced him — only to find herself doused in acid by him eight days later. Now, blind and with a completely scarred and mutilated face, Nurbanu has been forced to remarry her husband. Keep reading »

True Story: This Morning, I Watched A Man Commit Domestic Violence While Bystanders Did Nothing

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This morning, something weird happened: I woke up at 5:30 a.m. as alert as if I had been mainlining espresso. Anyone who knows me knows waking up at even 8 a.m. is a struggle for me. When I couldn’t fall back asleep, I got out of bed to shower and do my hair and makeup. It was still not yet 7 o’clock. So I sized up my overflowing hamper and decided I’d drop off my dirty laundry at the laundromat before work. I loaded my bag into my “old lady cart,” grabbed only my housekeys, and head out my front door in the drizzly morning.

That’s when I saw a guy roughing up a woman right there on the street. Keep reading »

The Soapbox: In Defense Of Dr. Drew (Or Why Finding Fault Is Not The Answer)

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Judy McGuire was physically abused by a boyfriend. Read More »
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On why our culture must take domestic violence more seriously. Read More »

I have something to say to my lady blogger friends who write about domestic violence. Please tread more carefully with your words, and please don’t be so sure you know what you’re talking about. Unless you a) have been in an abusive relationship or b) are a professional who is trained to treat people in abusive relationships, you could be doing more harm than good.

The most recent debate that had my hair standing on end was the conversation that erupted around Dr. Drew Pinsky’s comments on Lance Bass’ new SiriusXM radio show. Keep reading »

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