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Why Women Should Be Concerned About Men’s Rights Groups

We write often about domestic abuse issues here on The Frisky and the discussions get quite heated. Those of you readers who get very passionate about the subject absolutely must read the story “Men’s Rights’ Groups Have Become Frighteningly Effective” by journalist Kathryn Joyce on Double X, about the rise of the “men’s movement.” Many men’s rights groups sound innocuous enough at face value. Who’s against men’s rights? Who’s against reporting domestic violence accurately? Who’s against letting dads see their kids? But on closer inspection, writes Joyce, their causes are pretty sleazy: they often seek to discredit women who report abuse and advocate for sharing custody of children on principle, regardless of prior criminal history of the father. Some of these men are utter nutters. One men’s rights blogger Joyce interviewed for her article told her he would refer to her not by her name but by the title “Feminist E,” because he does not use real names for feminists. He thinks men “must verbally oppose [them ]… until our flesh oxidizes into dust.” Uh-huh. Right. Keep reading »

Women Fleeing Beatings From Their Husbands Could Get Asylum Here

Rody Alvarado Peña, now 40, was 16 when she got married in her home country of Guatemala. Her husband severely beat her for more than 10 years—pistol-whipping her, using her head to smash windows, chasing her with a machete, dragging her down the street by her hair, and kicking her repeatedly in the stomach in hopes of aborting their baby. In 1995, Rody ran away to the United States and sought asylum. See, generally, asylum here is only granted to people who are part of social group that is persecuted—abused women traditionally do not count. But lawyers in Rody’s case argued that they should, because women in Guatemala are persecuted in a targeted way—more than 4,000 women in the country have been beaten to death by their husbands in the past decade, and only 2% of the cases were ever solved. Still, Roday has spent the past 14 years in constant court cases and hearings, trying to get asylum officially granted. While lawyers and immigration officials debated her case, she has been able to stay in the United States—she lives in California and works as a housekeeper at a home for elderly nuns—but she never knew if she’d have to pack up and leave. Finally, the Obama administration has taken the bull by the horns and recommended that Rody be granted asylum. Which is awesome. But of course, this case has much larger implications than Rody continuing her life here. This sets a precedent that battered women are a persecuted group and qualify for asylum. This could be big news for women horribly abused in other countries where domestic violence is part of the culture. [NY Times] Keep reading »

90 Percent of Afghan Women Are Victims of Abuse


Pop in your mouth guard before you read this post, if you’re a tooth grinder. The good news first: According to the Washington Post, more women’s shelters have been opening in Afghanistan since 2001, when the Taliban was officially overthrown. A ministry of women’s affairs is now supposedly overseeing women’s constitutionally guaranteed protection against abuse. But still, about 90 percent of Afghan women are abused. Several women and children, hiding from domestic violence at home, were recently interviewed by CNN at the Women for Afghan Women shelter. One woman escaped with her two children to the shelter, after years of living with her wrists and ankles chained and her hair tied to a wall when she wasn’t doing housework. Another woman showed the stitches in a slash on her neck—stab wounds that she endured, apparently, for not getting pregnant. A child told her own story about being raped at the age of five; she fears that her rapist will kill her when he is released from prison in three years. Keep reading »

Today’s Lady News: Woman Calls Cops Over Domestic Abuse, Gets Evicted

  • Chicago resident Kathy Cleaves-Milan is suing her former landlords, Elm Creek Apartments, for evicting her due to “criminal activity” after she reported to police her ex-boyfriend had shown up at her apartment brandishing a gun. The company said it was concerned about potential gun violence, but it was afraid Cleaves-Milan could not have paid her rent without her ex. An attorney for the ACLU Women’s Rights Project said her landlord’s actions put women in the position of being trapped with an abuser so they don’t lose their housing. [Chicago Tribune]
  • Last November, a police officer in London, responding to the U.K.’s version of a 911 call, left a woman in an apartment with a rapist without further inquiry. On Monday, Vitas Jalonis was found guilty of raping the 32-year-old victim. However, police officer Matthew Harris is now under investigation for responding to an emergency call from a neighbor who heard the victim screaming, but then taking Jalonis’ word for it when he answered the door and said everything was OK. Hours later, after the victim had been raped again, she called police herself and Jalonis was finally arrested. [BBC]
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Woman Finds Love Again After Being Burned Alive By An Abusive Ex

Why does it seem like some of the most unbelievable love stories are born out of tragedy? Did you see that documentary “Crazy Love” about the man who poured acid on his girlfriend’s face and then married her years later when he got out of prison? OMFG. Well, this story is just as insanely epic but with a much better ending, if you ask me. British woman Heidi Childs deserves her happy ending … and a freaking medal, a chorus of angels singing, a gaggle of birds chirping, and a life free of any more heartache. Keep reading »

Abusive Boyfriend Dies Trying To Kill Girlfriend

In London’s West End, a 30-year-old man threw his girlfriend through the window of a Banana Republic store. Instead of killing her, a shard of glass snapped out and stabbed him, killing him. His girlfriend sustained cuts and is expected to make a full recovery. Karma’s a bitch, isn’t it? [Daily Mail]

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Foreign Battered Women May Be Granted Asylum In The U.S.

Foreign victims of domestic violence may finally be able to escape their abuse; the Obama administration has instated a new policy that may grant some of these victims asylum in the United States. The policy would reverse a Bush administration stance that did not allow foreign abuse victims entry into the U.S. Keep reading »

Does Chris Brown’s Punishment Fit The Crime?

On Monday, before his preliminary hearing even started, Chris Brown plead guilty to one count of felony assault. He won’t be sentenced until August 5, but according to the plea deal it looks like he’s going to be on probation for 5 years and will have to do 6 months of community service. Meaning, he’ll be scrubbing graffitti or picking up garbage on the side of the road for approximately 1,400 hours. The judge told Rihanna and Chris to stay at least 50 yards away from each other unless they are at an event, in which case their separation distance must be 10 yards. This goes both ways, so if Rihanna gets too close to Chris, she could get in trouble. But she already knows that getting close to Chris is a dangerous proposition. Keep reading »

Rihanna And Chris Brown Take It To The Court Room

The preliminary hearing for the Chris Brown and Rihanna drama will take place today in a Los Angeles courtroom, to determine whether there’s enough evidence for the case to go to trial. Contrary to what all you “Law & Order” fans think, there are not usually any big, jaw-dropping surprises in court. Everyone involved usually has a pretty good idea of what’s going to happen. So, to save you from all the suspense, here’s what to expect. Keep reading »

Turkey Is Berated For Ignoring Domestic Violence

For the first time in its history, the European Court of Rights has ruled against a state for overlooking a domestic violence case, reported The Wall Street Journal. The court said that Turkey failed to sufficiently prosecute a man who abused his wife, and murdered his mother-in-law. Nahide Opuz, the murdered woman’s daughter, has tried to get her case noticed ever since 1995, when her stepfather and husband began to beat her and threaten her mother.
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