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Evelyn Lozada Files For Divorce From Chad “Ochocinco” Johnson

Domestic Violence Arrest
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Chad Ochocinco was arrested for domestic violence this weekend. Read More »
Ocho's Race Criticism
Ochocinqo criticized for not choosing black women on VH1 dating show. Read More »
Morning Quickies
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Zach Galifianakis is a married man, ladies. Sorry! Read More »
  • Reality star Evelyn Lozada has filed for divorce from football player Chad “Ochocinco” Johnson just six weeks after their wedding. Ochocinco allegedly headbutted his new wife this weekend during an argument and was arrested. Lozada released a statement saying domestic violence is “not okay.” Ochocinco was dropped from the Miami Dolphins following the incident; VH1 also pulled the couple’s reality show. TMZ looked into his court records and found that Ochocinco was arrested in 2000 for allegedly slapping an ex-girlfriend. [Uptown Magazine, Uptown Magazine]
  • Whoopsies. Rashida Jones has apologized for saying that John Travolta should come out. “Come on. How many masseurs have to come forward?” Jones said in an interview. “Let’s do this.” [Celebrity Cafe]
  • Jeremy Renner is also due for an apology: he called the Kardashians “those stupid, stupid people.” [Socialite Life]
  • Taylor Swift talks about her new single, “We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together.” [PopCrush] Keep reading »

VH1 Pulls Chad Ochocinco’s Reality Show After Domestic Violence Arrest

Ocho's Race Criticism
Ochocinqo criticized for not choosing black women on VH1 dating show. Read More »
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"Ink, not mink!" says Chad Ochocinqo. Read More »
Morning Quickies
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LiLo threw a tantrum at a nightclub. Ho hum. What else is new? Read More »
  • VH1 has pulled the plug on the reality TV show “Ev and Ocho” after Chad “Ochocinqo” Johnson was arrested for domestic violence this weekend after he allegedly headbutted his wife Evelyn Lozada. The NFL star has also been kicked off the Miami Dolphins over the alleged incident. [Uptown Magazine, Socialite Life]
  • Bobbi Kristina Brown, the late Whitney Houston’s daughter, has posted another pic of herself kissing her “adopted brother” Nick Gordon on the lips. Grandma Cissy Houston has complained in the past that the two are being “incestuous” (although in fairness, they are not biologically related!). [Celebrity Cafe]
  • Marilyn Manson was apparently very apologetic to parents of small children about writing naughty words on his face in the airport as a message to paparazzi. Or he could just, you know, not write “FUCK” on his face. [Boing Boing]

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Dealbreaker: His Ex Had A Restraining Order Against Him

I Was Abused
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Judy McGuire was physically abused by a boyfriend. Read More »
On Abused Women
Facts about Rihanna and other abused women. Read More »
Chris Brown's Abuse
On why our culture must take domestic violence more seriously. Read More »

When I was in college, I was obsessed with this one guy. OB-SESSED.  He had a girlfriend, but he was just so dreamy, and I had concocted this fantasy that he would break up with her and be with me.  (Shut up. I was 18.)  I was messed up in the head over this fool for the longest time, convinced he would fall in love with me if he just knew me well enough.

That did not happen.

What did happen was that I used to walk past the retail store where he worked just so I could catch a momentary glimpse of him and then scuttle away like a cockroach. My friends yelled at me for doing this. I was in a miserable and unhealthy place in my life: many, many years away from getting control of the anxiety and depression that shredded up my late teens and early 20s. I was in no place to realize — as I later would — that if a man doesn’t want you, he doesn’t want you. Keep reading »

A Saucy Squabble Over “Fifty Shades Of Grey” Leads To Boyfriend Being Charged With Assault

Ice Cream Assault
Assault with a deadly ice cream cake at McDonald's. Read More »
Casting "Fifty Shades"
Who we think should play Christian, Ana, and everyone else. Read More »
Misunderstanding Kink
Some folks don't understand kink is not sexual abuse. Read More »
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Apparently, reading 50 Shades of Grey warrants being squirted in the face with 50 Shades of Brown.

Raymond Hodgson, 31, was recently charged with common assault after finding his partner, Emma McCormick, reading the BDSM erotic novel Fifty Shades of Grey, before slapping her in the face and  squirting a mysterious brown sauce on her because he found the books “pornographic” and “distasteful.” Keep reading »

Beauty Vlogger Covers Up To Expose Domestic Violence

Why Domestic Violence Victims Stay
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Should we ask victims of domestic violence why they stay? Read More »
On Abused Women
Facts about Rihanna and other abused women. Read More »
Abuse Registry?
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Should there be a registry for people who commit DV? Read More »
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Lauren Luke, a very popular beauty vlogger, teamed up with the anti-abuse group Refuge to create a beauty video about covering up bruises caused by domestic violence. While watching this video, I knew that it was completely set-up. What I did not know, though, was that it would leave me with total body chills for awhile afterward.  Keep reading »

The Soapbox: Misunderstanding “50 Shades” & Kink Is Hurting Those Of Us Who Practice

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This erotica book is sweeping the nation. Read More »
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I haven’t exactly kept it a secret around here the way that I’m sexually wired. For the most part, though, the only person whose opinion matters on the subject is my sexual partner. (And any roommates who have to listen to occasional smacking.) Yet, every so often, BDSM — that’s bondage, dominance, sadomasochism — pops up in mainstream popular culture and us kinksters and spankos get to hear the mainstream’s opinion on our lives.

“Secretary,” starring Maggie Gyllenhaal and James Spader, a flick about a secretary who enters into a dominance/submission relationship with her boss, came out while I was in college. Although the flick was understandably controversial, it explained to a lot of people, “Hey, we’re just regular folks like you. Except, you know, not so regular!”

More recently, it’s the BDSM erotic novel 50 Shades Of Grey that has people talking. It seems everyone has an opinion on the subject — including those who are completely misguided about who kinksters are and what we do. Take, for instance, feminist blogger Morgane Richardson and a piece she wrote calling 50 Shades “a glimpse into domestic violence.”

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Violence Against Women Is Oh-So-Glamorous!

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It’s almost too easy to get angry about fashion editorials that glorify violence against women — especially so grotesquely, as in this Bulgarian magazine 12. Six different photos depict gorgeous models staring blankly into the camera, each sporting a serious injury. Here’s the black eye image, but the others are all quite graphic: one a slit throat, another has a mouth ripped open, and yet another looks as if her face has been burned with acid. Keep reading »

Evening Quickies: Dominic Monaghan Accuses “Lost” Co-Star Matthew Fox Of Beating Women

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Celebs Dish On When And How They Lost Their V-Card
Matthew Fox was arrested for punching a female bus driver. Read More »
On Abused Women
Facts about Rihanna and other abused women. Read More »
Chris Brown's Abuse
On why our culture must take domestic violence more seriously. Read More »
Morning Quickies
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Cynthia Nixon married her girlfriend this weekend! Read More »
  • Dominic Monaghan accused his former “Lost” co-star Matthew Fox of beating women up multiple times in some totally WTF tweets on Sunday. A random woman tweeted at Monaghan asking him to get Fox on Twitter. Monaghan replied to her, “he beats women. no thanks.” The woman then asked him, “I know it was wrong but what?! what about all those good times you had together?!” Then Monaghan responded, “How do you know we ever did. You don’t know either of us. He beats women. Not isolated incidents. Often. Not interested.” Not surprisingly, some folks on Twitter started trashing Monaghan for “defamation,” to which he replied, “It’s very difficult to sue someone for speaking the truth.” It’s unclear which women Monaghan is referring to specifically. But Matthew Fox was accused last year of climbing aboard a party bus, uninvited, and punching the female bus driver in the breasts and crotch when she tried to make him disembark. We’re going to watch this story closely. [Jezebel, TMZ] Keep reading »

Marissa Alexander Of Florida Sentenced 20 Years For Firing Warning Shot At Abusive Husband

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Will there be justice in the death of this innocent teen? Read More »
On Abused Women
Facts about why abused women stay with their abusers. Read More »
I Was Abused
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Judy McGuire was physically abused by a boyfriend. Read More »
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A Florida woman was sentenced to 20 years in prison on Friday for firing a warning shot — note: not actually injuring anyone — at her abusive husband.

Marissa Alexander, 31, said that in August 2010, her now ex-husband Rico Gray read messages from her ex on her cell phone, became enraged, strangled her and threatened her life. When Alexander broke free, she tried to run out of the house but couldn’t get out of the garage; so she grabbed a gun from the garage and fired it into the air to attempt to scare Gray off.  

No one was injured, but the “warning shot” hit a wall near where his two kids were standing. As such, she was charged and found guilty by a jury of three counts of aggravated assault with a firearm, which carries a 20-year sentence. Keep reading »

Today’s Lady News: Women’s Experience Of Violence Linked To Risky Sex

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  • Women who’ve experienced violence — whether it’s watching a violent crime or being abused themselves — are more likely to engage in risky sex, according to a new study. The journal Psychology of Violence found that women who’ve experienced violence are more likely to have unprotected sex and have a high number of sex partners. [Huffington Post]
  • The House Armed Services Committee advanced an amendment to the 2013 defense authorization bill that will protect service members, including chaplains, from getting in trouble for opposing gays serving openly the military. I see what you are doing there, folks, and it’s sneaky. [Navy Times]
  • Actresses Julianne Moore and Fran Drescher are two more celebs standing up for Jennifer Tyrell, the lesbian mom who was ousted from her son’s Boy Scouts troop for being gay. [Queerty] Keep reading »
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