Arizona Cardinals running back Jonathan Dwyer headbutted his wife, breaking her nose, after she turned him down for sex. He proceeded to lock himself in a bathroom and threaten to kill himself in front of his wife and son if she told the police about the assault.
So that’s four NFL players in some kind of legal trouble over domestic violence in 11 days. Meanwhile, the NFL has been making statements about women as “matriarchs,” citing our community-building skills, ability to produce and raise children, purchasing power, and overall domesticity as the reasons that the NFL likes us. I’m so flattered. I know I was a beacon of domesticity when I yelled so hard at the Patriots for losing to the Giants in Super Bowl XLVI that I had a blood pressure spike and almost fainted. Keep reading »
Megan MacKay, can we be friends? Because your “Ray Rice makeup tutorial” (hey, watch it first before you get offended!) is the most cutting commentary of our complete cultural fucktitude over Ray Rice that I’ve seen. You can watch more of Megan’s work on YouTube for her takes on LEGO’s female scientists, Hobby Lobby and Planned Parenthood. [UpWorthy]
Meredith Vieira released a segment from her talk show today in which she discusses #WhyIStayed and her own prior abusive relationship. She explained that in her situation, the abuse became gradually more frequent, transformed from threats into physical violence, and made her feel as if she was at fault for it. Most importantly, she dispels some of the myths and stereotypes about women who stay in abusive relationships:
“I’m a smart woman. A lot of people say, ‘Well, who would stay in that situation?’ Somebody who maybe doesn’t have the wherewithal to get out, the means to get out – I had that. I had a job at the time. And I kept in this relationship… I think part of it was fear – I was scared of him, and scared if I tried to leave something worse could happen to me. Part of it was guilt, because every time we’d have a fight, he would then start crying, and say ‘I promise I won’t do it again,’ and I’d feel like maybe I contributed, somehow, to this.”
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