On December 1st, the sports world was in shock as reports came in that Jovan Belcher, a linebacker for the Kansas City Chiefs, died in a murder-suicide, killing himself at the Chiefs training facility after murdering the mother of his three-month-old child in their home. Most people tried to figure out what would make a good kid like Belcher, who appeared to “have it all,” end his life in this way. But I found myself asking, “But what about the girlfriend? Does she even have a name?”
Her name was Kasandra Perkins. The 22-year-old mother had given birth in September and now she was dead. Gone. Keep reading »
Saturday morning, Kansas City Chiefs football player Jovan Belcher, 25, drove to the team’s training facility and shot himself in the parking lot, in front of the Chiefs’ general manager and head coach, who he thanked for all they had done for him. But prior to that? Belcher allegedly shot and killed his girlfriend, Kasandra Perkins, 22, mother to his three-month-old daughter. The child and Belcher’s mom were allegedly witnesses to the murder. While details surrounding the crime are murky, one report said that Belcher was upset that Perkins had gone to a Trey Songz concert the night before, leaving the baby at home. Keep reading »
Two weeks ago, I wrote an essay about how I witnessed a man committing domestic violence against a woman outside my apartment. I received many incredible emails from readers, including one from a prosecutor who has previously had a DV caseload. She advised me to contact my local precinct and give a statement about what I saw; in her experience, that witness testimony has helped put the abuser behind bars. I asked this prosecutor — who requested anonymity — if she had any advice about how to help victims of DV from a professional standpoint. Here’ what she is sharing with readers of The Frisky. — Jessica
When I read Jessica’s article on domestic violence, I didn’t think of the victim, the bystanders and their inaction, or the abuser. I thought about the prosecutor on whose desk that case would land. I knew statistically speaking, by the time the prosecutor sees the case, the victim has likely recanted. I thought about the volume of evidence that was right before me, in Jessica’s article. I thought about that prosecutor because I am a prosecutor. Keep reading »
As if dealing with a cheating and violent husband is not enough to endure, a Bangladeshi woman had acid thrown into her face by her husband when she dared to divorce him.
Nurbanu, 36, discovered her husband with another woman and divorced him — only to find herself doused in acid by him eight days later. Now, blind and with a completely scarred and mutilated face, Nurbanu has been forced to remarry her husband. Keep reading »
When you hear about domestic violence, it’s not usually a woman who’s on the offender end of the situation. But this time, the alleged offender is not only a woman, but she’s a woman who should be a role model for girls everywhere. On Thursday evening, former WNBA player Chamique Holdsclaw was arrested and charged with two counts of aggravated assault for allegedly bashing in the windows of her ex-girlfriend’s SUV with a baseball bat — and then shooting at the car with a gun. Holy crap. Read more …
This morning, something weird happened: I woke up at 5:30 a.m. as alert as if I had been mainlining espresso. Anyone who knows me knows waking up at even 8 a.m. is a struggle for me. When I couldn’t fall back asleep, I got out of bed to shower and do my hair and makeup. It was still not yet 7 o’clock. So I sized up my overflowing hamper and decided I’d drop off my dirty laundry at the laundromat before work. I loaded my bag into my “old lady cart,” grabbed only my housekeys, and head out my front door in the drizzly morning.
That’s when I saw a guy roughing up a woman right there on the street. Keep reading »
It’s been a very WTF week. But even in the wake of what you think was the most the WTF week, even more WTF stories emerge.
Thirty-four-year-old Keith Paro of West Springfield, MA, turned himself into authorities after beating his girlfriend with his pet python. YOU READ THAT CORRECTLY. That is like a double worst nightmare: being beaten with a live snake. Keep reading »
After a woman in his community was murdered in a domestic violence incident, KHON News Hawaii anchor Jai Cunningham decided to take a stand. Cunningham, who admits that he himself was a victim of domestic violence, wanted to make a visceral, tangible gesture that would get people to stop and think about domestic abuse. So he shaved his head on air. And he promised that any time another woman or child is killed by domestic violence, he will shave it again. Cunningham’s gesture is aimed at reminding viewers that domestic violence happens all the time, all around us. [YouTube]
Onetime teen heartthrob and current troubled adult Edward Furlong was arrested this morning at the Los Angeles airport on felony domestic violence charges. Furlong was arguing with his girlfriend around 1am when he allegedly grabbed her arm, leaving visible marks, TMZ reports. Read more …
I have something to say to my lady blogger friends who write about domestic violence. Please tread more carefully with your words, and please don’t be so sure you know what you’re talking about. Unless you a) have been in an abusive relationship or b) are a professional who is trained to treat people in abusive relationships, you could be doing more harm than good.
The most recent debate that had my hair standing on end was the conversation that erupted around Dr. Drew Pinsky’s comments on Lance Bass’ new SiriusXM radio show. Keep reading »