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8 Warning Signs A Partner Doesn’t Respect You

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Amelia recently sent me a link to a Tumblr that will absolutely gut you. It’s called When Women Refuse and it collects news article about women who became victims of violence after they tried to leave a male partner or rejected sexual advances. We know that violence is fundamentally about control and therefore the most dangerous time during an abusive relationship is when a person tries to leave. All too often, children and other bystanders are injured or killed, too. The statistics about abusive relationships show that they are frighteningly common. According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, one in four women and one in seven men over age 18 will be the victims of severe physical violence during their lifetime. Statistics also show that half of both men and women will experience “psychological aggression” by a partner during their lifetime. Stereotypes about what an “abused woman” is supposed to look like don’t do us any good because victims are all around us. They are our neighbors, our cousins, our sisters, our coworkers, our friends. Abusive relationships thrive in part because over time, the pattern of the abuse becomes normal. The abuse starts with smaller areas of control and then escalates until it becomes reality, which the person on the inside may not even see. But even if we have not been in a textbook abusive relationship per se, I’m sure many of us have had moments with partner or a friend where he or she did something that felt wrong.

In the spirit of #YesAllWomen — which is drawing attention to the physical and sexual violence all women experience —  I want to share some warning signs that a partner or other person does not respect you, your boundaries, or your personal space. These are all anonymous, real world examples from me, my friends and co-workers. Keep reading »

Family Stones Pakistani Woman To Death In So-Called “Honor Killing” For Marrying Man She Loved [UPDATE]

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[UPDATE, 5/28:] The New York Times reports that Farazana Parveen was three months pregnant when she was killed. [New York Times]

A 25-year-old woman was murdered by nearly 20 family members in Pakistan today because she “dishonored” the family by marrying the man she loved.

Faranza Bibi was stoned to death in a so-called “honor killing” in broad daylight while waiting outside of a Lahore court with her husband. Faranza had intended to challenge a kidnapping charge filed by her family. She intended to tell the court she willingly married the man of her own choosing, Muhammad Iqbal, and did not want an arranged marriage to her cousin. Before the court opened, her father, brothers and former fiance descended upon her with bricks and sticks. Faranza was pronounced dead at a hospital from severe head injuries. Iqbal managed to escape the attack. Keep reading »

Report: “The Shield” Actor Michael Jace Had A Past History Of Domestic Violence

  • More details have emerged about “The Shield” star Michael Jace, who murdered his wife, April Jace, yesterday: he was accused of choking and beating his ex-wife, Jennifer Bitterman, which was reportedly witnessed by a friend. April allegedly defended him during the divorce from his ex and told officials he was good with her child. The couple reportedly argued last night about money before Michael Jace shot her in the face in front of their two children. This death is terribly sad, but I’m not surprised to hear that an abuser had a past history of hurting women or that his current partner thought to herself, He would never do it to me.  [TMZ (1), TMZ (2), TMZ (3)] Keep reading »

“The Shield” Actor Michael Jace Murdered His Wife

  • “The Shield” actor Michael Jace was arrested in Los Angeles last night after killing his wife April Jace, 40, allegedly in front of the couple’s two children. Jace called 911 to report that he had shot his wife and was taken into custody when police arrived. Both of their kids are under the age of 10; April also has a third child from a previous relationship who was not in the home. What a horrible story. [TMZ, Daily Mail UK]
  • Ciara gave birth yesterday to a baby boy with her fiancé Future. Mazel tov! [Page Six]
  • Kim and Kanye’s wedding guests will get a private tour of the palace of Versailles the day before their wedding. [People]
  • Here’s the late Paul Walker’s brother Cody Walker shooting his unfinished “Fast And Furious 7″ scenes. [TMZ] Keep reading »

Some Thoughts On That Jay Z/Solange Brawl, Female-On-Male Violence & Fights Between Siblings

Some Thoughts On That Jay Z/Solange Brawl, Female-On-Male Violence & Fights Between Siblings

Like, oh, basically everyone everywhere, I’ve been totally consumed with thoughts about the fight between Jay Z and Solange Knowles following the Met Ball a few weeks ago, security footage of which was leaked online yesterday. I’m a fangirl of both Knowles sisters, and my belief in everlasting love is tied maybe a little too closely to the marriage between Jay and Beyonce, so as a Carter Family obsessive, this story is impossible to ignore. Given that Beyonce and Jay Z’s life is presented so flawlessly to the public — even their past troubles have been presented after the fact with a glossy veneer of hindsight and lessons learned — the elevator brawl between Beyonce’s husband and her little sister Solange reveals a rather large chink in the Carter Family armor, provoking loads of understandable questions and speculation.

Chances are good that we’ll never know the details, and even if anyone involved does explain what went down, it’ll be carefully worded. To be very, very clear though: Solange Knowles violently attacking Jay Z, for any reason, is not okay. It’s assault. How this will play out legally, now that the tape has been released to the public and thus to the attention of authorities, remains to be seen.

Whenever I do hear about a woman being violent towards a man, I’m forced to confront my own history of such behavior. I can count the number of times where I’ve “snapped” to such a degree on less than two hands, only three of which actually resulted in physical contact. They all involved men I was very close to and love/loved. (I’ve never been in a physical fight with another woman and very rarely verbally fight with other women.) Keep reading »

Tech CEO Who Beat His Girlfriend 117 Times Fired By His Board

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  • Gurbaksh Chahal, a tech CEO who pleaded guilty to misdemeanor domestic violence and battery charges after striking his girlfriend 117 times, was fired by the board of directors of RadiumOne this weekend. Chahal was captured on video beating his girlfriend, yet managed to squeak away with a $500 fine and ZERO JAIL TIME. [Huffington Post]
  • Mississippi may soon be the first state in the country without an abortion clinic. [Cosmopolitan]
  • In Bill O’Reilly World, Beyoncé is somehow responsible for teen pregnancy. [Slate] Keep reading »
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