He seemed sweet at first. In fact, he had many sweet moments. But then there was the other stuff …
Abusive behavior isn’t as simple as we, as a society, want it to be. We often think that the kinds of signs that tell you a man could be abusive are very obvious. We imagine monsters, overtly misogynist thugs. We think of extreme physical violence as being the key – or the only – signifier. But often the violence doesn’t start until a relationship is already established – sometimes not until after a woman has moved in with her boyfriend, marries him, or becomes pregnant. In fact, the leading cause of death in pregnant women is domestic homicide, which is to say they are killed by their intimate partners. If we limit our understanding of abusive behavior to physical violence, we risk ignoring other red flags we should be heeding. Keep reading »
The image of Nigella Lawson with her then-husband’s hands around her throat is seared into my memory. If you remember, back in 2013, Lawson and businessman/art gallery owner Charles Saatchi were seated in a London restaurant, arguing, when he placed his hands around her neck as if to choke her. A photographer happened to catch the incident, which went on for close to 30 minutes, as Lawson cried. The fact that it was caught on camera was a rare and disturbing reminder of the ubiquity of domestic violence, even among the wealthy and powerful.
So what are we to think then, exactly, when several artists have created artwork depicting Nigella Lawson being strangled and posted it on Saatchi’s web site? Keep reading »
This short, simple PSA says so much in just a few seconds. It’s easy to forget that the World Cup often correlates with increased levels of domestic violence (as I’d imagine many major sporting events do). For some people, the games are less about fun and more about living in fear. The PSA is part of Tender Education and Arts’ #StandUpWorldCup campaign, which aims to spread awareness about domestic violence during the World Cup, and to remind fans that a loss (anything else for that matter) is no excuse for hurting someone.
The World Cup should be a carefree time for every fan, but until that day arrives, it’s important to keep sharing ads like this one. If you’re interested in helping, more information about the campaign is available here. Victims shouldn’t have to suffer in the dark while the rest of the world celebrates. [Tender UK]
Friday night, United States women’s national soccer team star Hope Solo, 32, was arrested on two counts of domestic violence in Kirkland, Washington, and being held without bail. According to The Seattle Times, Solo allegedly struck her sister and her nephew during a family gathering at the home she shares with her husband, former Seattle Seahawks tight end Jerramy Stevens. According to Kirkland police Lt. Mike Murray, there were visible injuries on Solo’s sister and nephew. You may recall, this isn’t the first time that Solo has been involved in a domestic altercation. Back in 2012, Stevens was arrested for allegedly hitting Solo; they were married hours after his court appearance. The case was eventually dropped. [Bleacher Report]
Berryville, Arkansas — Two days before she died, Laura Aceves stood on the side of the road and frantically dialed the police for the last time.
It was early afternoon and the 21-year-old had finished her shift at the Berryville Tyson Foods plant, where she worked on an assembly line deboning chicken. Moments after pulling out of the parking lot, her car broke down. At the nearest service station, a mechanic identified the problem: Someone had poured bleach in her gas tank. Read more on Huffington Post…