First Ray Rice, then Adrian Peterson, now Brandon Marshall: A third NFL player in just 10 days has been brought into the spotlight for allegedly abusing someone close to him.
It’s not that September 2014 is just the equivalent of a full moon for NFL players, when all of a sudden they become violent toward their girlfriends, fiancées, wives, and children. It happens year round. Ten NFL players in the last two years have been arrested on domestic violence charges. Keep reading »
Megan MacKay, can we be friends? Because your “Ray Rice makeup tutorial” (hey, watch it first before you get offended!) is the most cutting commentary of our complete cultural fucktitude over Ray Rice that I’ve seen. You can watch more of Megan’s work on YouTube for her takes on LEGO’s female scientists, Hobby Lobby and Planned Parenthood. [UpWorthy]
Given the dismal state of international headlines these past few weeks, the Miss America pageant had a whole host of issues to draw from when putting together the question and answer portion of the competition. The question judge Kathy Ireland asked Miss Florida during the Sunday night competition started off with an impactful topic — Ray Rice’s dismissal from the NFL for beating up then-fiancee Janay Rice (nee Palmer) last February. Things could’ve gone in a powerful direction from there and the pageant could have served as a platform to raise awareness about domestic violence. Instead, Ireland asked the most useless question of all:
“We were all rocked by the video of football star Ray Rice punching his wife Janay. She’s standing by him. As a woman, what do you think of her decision?”
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“It’s the reason why so many people stay. That whole hashtag #WhyIStayed that happened last week, you saw how many of those responses were about feeling trapped financially … I think people just aren’t as aware of financial abuse. If a woman isn’t even aware of the dynamics of financial abuse — what it looks like, what it is — she may not even know that that’s part of the tools being used to control her and manipulate her and keep her trapped. When there is more information around it, people can begin to identify it and then get the help they need.”
In an interview with the Huffington Post, the amazing Kerry Washington kept the recent public conversations about domestic abuse in the spotlight by addressing the financial side of the situation. Financial abuse is talked about far less than physical violence, but it occurs in 98 percent of violent relationships, and can leave victims feeling just as trapped as a fist. Abusers can try to get their victims fired, accrue mountains of debt in the victim’s name, or hoard the couple’s finances leaving a victim with no cash of her own. Even after escaping the relationship, a victim can be left with a destroyed credit score or a wiped out savings account that could take years to recover from and leave them with little means to build a new foundation on their own. Kerry is the spokeswoman for The Allstate Foundation’s “Purple Purse” campaign, which aims to raise awareness of abuse and provide options to victims look for a way out. She specially designed a limited-edition purse for the initiative in hopes that it will serve as a symbol of a woman’s financial power. As if there weren’t already enough reasons to love her, she also recorded a kick-ass PSA for the organization, after the jump! [HuffPost] [Image via AKM-GSI] Keep reading »
“I think it’s all about the choices you make. With me, I deal with a lot of anger issues from my past – not knowing how to express myself verbally and at the same time not knowing how to cope with my emotions and deal with them and understand what they are. So I think help is great. I still talk to my therapist twice a week, and it helps me to…if I’m frustrated and I’m dealing with something, to vent and say what I’m going through so I can hear from an actual clinical person, ‘this is how you should react,’ or ‘it’s good to feel this way’ because feelings, emotions, and energy are supposed to come and go. It’s not supposed to stay there, you’re not supposed to keep it inside, because it’ll bottle up and you’ll become a monster. For me, dealing with my anger issues and understanding myself and the life I’ve been through, where I’m headed and where I want to be has helped me focus on what’s really important and not F up. For anybody who’s going through that situation or anybody who’s dealing with it — it’s all about the choices. Every situation is different but it’s all about the choices you make and how you control your anger. To Ray, or anybody else — because I’m not better than the next man — I can just say I’ve been down that road. I deal with situations and I’ve made my mistakes too, but it’s all about how you push forward and how you control yourself.”
Wow. This is the first time that Chris Brown has publicly spoken about self-control struggles and abusive behavior and I actually feel that he has shown growth. Brown spoke yesterday with MTV News’ Sway about Ray Rice, the former Baltimore Ravens player who was terminated from the team this week after TMZ released a gruesome video of Rice punching his then-fiancée, Janay Palmer Rice in the head, knocking her unconscious, and then dragging her unconscious body out of an elevator. There’s been many reactions this week from domestic violence victims, including the hashtags #WhyIStayed and #WhyILeft. But Chris Brown is in a unique position to explain the serious underlying psychological issues that lead abusers to harm others. I’m actually glad he weighed in here. (Not that I think Ray Rice, who recently announced he would give up hard liquor and became a born-again Christian, is willing to listen.) [MTV]
Pressure is mounting every single day against NFL commissioner Roger Goodell over his handling of Ray Rice, the former Baltimore Ravens player who assaulted his now-wife. The NFL has insisted it had never seen the brutal video in which Rice punches his then-fiancée Janay Palmer in the head, knocking her unconscious, until TMZ released it on Monday. But on Wednesday, the Associated Press confirmed that a law enforcement official said that the NFL was sent the video in April and someone there acknowledged that it had been received and viewed.
Goodell has been sharply criticized for how he punished Rice, who received only a two-game suspension by the league (before he was dropped by the Ravens this week). Only in late August did the NFL update its personal conduct policy: now players will be suspended for six games for a first offense and banned by the league for a year for a second offense. Keep reading »