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On Men As Victims Of Domestic Violence — From A Prosecutor

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A prosecutor's professional point of view on domestic abuse. Read More »
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Jessica saw a man commit domestic violence in public. Read More »
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Last week an anonymous prosecutor who has prosecuted a domestic violence caseload explained to us, from her professional point of view, how we should respond when we have friends or family members in abusive relationships. Some of the comments objected to her use  of the pronoun “he” as the aggressor and “she” as the victim. Here the prosecutor, who requested anonymity, is back to respond. 

Absolutely, men can be and are victims of domestic violence. The choice to use the pronoun she exclusively was a choice that I made as the author because the majoriy of reported domestic violence victims are women. The data also shows that women are more likely than men to report incidents of domestic violence, according to Measuring Intimate Partner Violence by National Institute of Justice. Keep reading »

The Soapbox: On Kasandra Perkins And The Color Of Domestic Violence

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... from a prosecutor who has seen it all. Read More »
Helping DV Victims
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Should we ask victims of domestic violence why they stay? Read More »
Kasandra Perkins Murder
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NFL player Jovan Belcher murdered his girlfriend and then killed himself. Read More »

On December 1st, the sports world was in shock as reports came in that Jovan Belcher, a linebacker for the Kansas City Chiefs, died in a murder-suicide, killing himself at the Chiefs training facility after murdering the mother of his three-month-old child in their home. Most people tried to figure out what would make a good kid like Belcher, who appeared to “have it all,” end his life in this way. But I found myself asking, “But what about the girlfriend? Does she even have a name?”

Her name was Kasandra Perkins. The 22-year-old mother had given birth in September and now she was dead. Gone. Keep reading »

Kansas City Chiefs Player Jovan Belcher Kills Girlfriend, Then Himself

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Jessica watched a man commit domestic violence while bystanders did nothing. Read More »
Helping DV Victims
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Should we ask victims of domestic violence why they stay? Read More »
On Abused Women
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Saturday morning, Kansas City Chiefs football player Jovan Belcher, 25, drove to the team’s training facility and shot himself in the parking lot, in front of the Chiefs’ general manager and head coach, who he thanked for all they had done for him. But prior to that? Belcher allegedly shot and killed his girlfriend, Kasandra Perkins, 22, mother to his three-month-old daughter. The child and Belcher’s mom were allegedly witnesses to the murder. While details surrounding the crime are murky, one report said that Belcher was upset that Perkins had gone to a Trey Songz concert the night before, leaving the baby at home. Keep reading »

True Story: Everything You Need To Know About Domestic Violence — From A Prosecutor

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Jessica watched a man commit domestic violence while bystanders did nothing. Read More »
On Abused Women
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I Was Abused
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Judy McGuire was physically abused by a boyfriend. Read More »
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Two weeks ago, I wrote an essay about how I witnessed a man committing domestic violence against a woman outside my apartment. I received many incredible emails from readers, including one from a prosecutor who has previously had a DV caseload. She advised me to contact my local precinct and give a statement about what I saw; in her experience, that witness testimony has helped put the abuser behind bars. I asked this prosecutor — who requested anonymity — if she had any advice about how to help victims of DV from a professional standpoint. Here’ what she is sharing with readers of The Frisky. — Jessica 

When I read Jessica’s article on domestic violence, I didn’t think of the victim, the bystanders and their inaction, or the abuser. I thought about the prosecutor on whose desk that case would land. I knew statistically speaking, by the time the prosecutor sees the case, the victim has likely recanted. I thought about the volume of evidence that was right before me, in Jessica’s article. I thought about that prosecutor because I am a prosecutor. Keep reading »

Bangladesh Woman Forced To Remarry Husband After He Threw Acid In Her Face

Why Domestic Violence Victims Stay
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Should we ask victims of domestic violence why they stay? Read More »
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Jessica watched a man commit domestic violence while bystanders did nothing. Read More »
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Beauty vlogger covers up to expose domestic violence. Read More »
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As if dealing with a cheating and violent husband is not enough to endure, a Bangladeshi woman had acid thrown into her face by her husband when she dared to divorce him.

Nurbanu, 36, discovered her husband with another woman and divorced him — only to find herself doused in acid by him eight days later. Now, blind and with a completely scarred and mutilated face, Nurbanu has been forced to remarry her husband. Keep reading »

Female Basketball Star’s Arrest Shows Domestic Violence Isn’t Just a Guy Crime

When you hear about domestic violence, it’s not usually a woman who’s on the offender end of the situation. But this time, the alleged offender is not only a woman, but she’s a woman who should be a role model for girls everywhere. On Thursday evening, former WNBA player Chamique Holdsclaw was arrested and charged with two counts of aggravated assault for allegedly bashing in the windows of her ex-girlfriend’s SUV with a baseball bat — and then shooting at the car with a gun. Holy crap. Read more …

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