Warning: this clip from a new ABC TV show called “What Would You Do?” is hard to watch, even though I know the “abusive boyfriend” and the “abused girlfriend” are only actors.
On four different occasions, “What Would You Do?” filmed diners at a restaurant watching two “couples” — one white, one black — sit down at a table when the “girlfriend” has obviously just been beat up. In both cases the “girlfriend,” who has cuts on her face and bruises on her arms, is terrified of her “boyfriend” and tells him to stop making a scene in public. Of course, he does not stop making a scene at all and only escalates his anger in front of all the other diners.
Good Samaritan strangers step in to help these abused “girlfriends.” Except when they are dressed provocatively, that is. Keep reading »
It’s been almost two weeks since Yeardley Love, a 22-year-old UVA student and lacrosse player, was allegedly killed by her ex-boyfriend, George Huguely. (Huguely was charged with first-degree murder in her death.) As the weeks wear on, more details have emerged about Huguely’s alleged violence and partying, including whispers from his lacrosse teammates that Huguely attacked a fellow student last year. Several UVA lacrosse players told The Washington Post, under the condition of anonymity, that in February 2009 Huguely had heard a fellow teammate kissed Love and then, after “a night of partying,” Huguely attacked the teammate while the guy was sleeping. According to the players, UVA’s lacrosse coach Dom Starsia disciplined both Huguely and his teammate. However, both still played in games that week. Keep reading »
“You’ve got nothing to worry about, son. I’d suggest going out on a rampage with the boys, getting on the booze and smashing anything that moves. Then, when some bird falls for you, you can turn the tables and break her heart. Of course, the other option is to cut your ex’s face, and then no one will want her.”
— Advice columnist Danny Dyer in the UK’s Zoo magazine when asked by 23-year-old “Alex” from Manchester how he can get over his ex-girlfriend. Bauer Media, which publishes “Zoo,” called the unfortunately timed joke about domestic violence a “regrettable production error.” [Guardian UK] Keep reading »
Look, I watch “The Hills.” I’m not ashamed, but I’m not proud either. I’m especially not proud now that the Heidi Montag and Spencer Pratt subplot has taken a decidedly new agey and potentially abusive turn. Spencer is definitely a complete attention whore — the only one who could compete with him is his wife — and he’s always given me the skeeves. But on last night’s episode — and the preview for next week — it’s clear that Spencer is either losing his mind and treading into potentially scary and abusive territory or just pretending to
for the show. Keep reading »
More details have emerged about George Huguely, the University of Virginia lacrosse player accused of murdering his ex-girlfriend, Yeardley Love, who also played UVA lacrosse. Apparently the pair had broken up in recent weeks and on Sunday evening, police say Huguely entered Love’s apartment through an unlocked front door and then kicked down her locked bedroom door. Huguely admitted to police that the pair had an argument and he shook Love and slammed her head against the wall. He allegedly grabbed Love’s computer and retreated to his place, leaving his ex-girlfriend with a bruised face and a swollen eye, where she died lying face down on her bed in a pool of blood on her pillow.
Not surprisingly, police are investigating reports that Huguely had been drinking on Sunday when he allegedly killed Love. But I so very much hope that Love’s murder does not get chalked up to “a hard-partying lacrosse lunkhead drank too much and killed his girlfriend.” On the contrary, Huguely’s behavior was textbook: it is a fact acknowledged by advocates for domestic violence victims that a woman is most at risk when she tries to leave an abusive relationship. Keep reading »
Shock fell over the University of Virginia campus yesterday when students and faculty learned Yeardley Love, 22, a member of the lacrosse team, had been killed. Police charged George Huguely, a member of the #1-ranking men’s lacrosse team, in her death.
Police responded at 2:15 a.m. on Monday morning to a possible alcohol overdose at Love’s apartment, after her body had been found by her roommate. But police said Love had “obvious physical trauma” to her body, although it did not appear a weapon was used. Huguely, who was found at his apartment nearby, was questioned and charged with first-degree murder.
Police told reporters Love and Huguely “have had a romantic relationship” in the past, but it was unclear what their status was at the time of her death. This morning, Huguely’s lawyer, Francis Lawrence, said, “We are confident that Ms. Love’s death was not intended, but an accident with a tragic outcome.”
Love, a member of Kappa Alpha Theta sorority, who was originally from Cockeysville, Maryland, was only weeks away from graduation. Keep reading »
Police responded to a 911 “disturbance” call at porn star Jenna Jameson‘s home yesterday — and her boyfriend, UFC fighter Tito Ortiz, was led away in handcuffs for felony domestic violence. According to TMZ, police observed “visible injuries” on Jameson when they arrived at the couple’s Huntington Beach, California mansion yesterday morning at 9:52 a.m. Last night, Jameson told the gossip site TMZ that the couple argued on Monday morning because she “said something very hurtful to his ego.” She then alleged that Ortiz grabbed her and “threw me into the bathtub and tore two ligaments in my shoulder.”
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