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True Story: A Subway Car Full Of People Watched A Woman Assault A Man And Did Nothing

On Male DV Victims
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A prosecutor weighs in on male domestic violence stats. Read More »
I Witnessed DV
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Jessica watched a man commit domestic violence while bystanders did nothing. Read More »
Domestic Violence Advice
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... from a prosecutor who has seen it all. Read More »

When you live in New York City, it’s impossible not to find yourself inadvertently in the middle of someone else’s crazy. Sometimes it’s a domestic dispute and sometimes it’s a person in the throes of a psychotic break — either due to mental illness or substance use. You learn to assess these situations as best as possible and take your best guess as to whether to call the police or keep the hell out of it. This becomes even more difficult when you find yourself trapped in a subway car with a threatening situation. This happened to me this morning.

A visibly intoxicated 30-something woman got on my train. I’m guessing she was intoxicated because of the water bottle full of what looked and smelled like whiskey she was carrying and the way she was stumbling and slurring. As she pushed her way onto my subway car, she began ranting immediately. This happens a lot — ranters on the train. You usually move as far away from them as you can, avoid eye contact and hope for the best. It’s harder at rush hour when the train is crowded, as it was this morning. My personal motto when it comes to crazies on the train is: “Don’t poke the mad dog.” Keep reading »

Accused Witch Is Burned Alive

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Nope, this is not a headline from Salem, Massachusetts, in 1692. People really did put to death a woman accused of being a witch in 2013. A town in Papua New Guinea, which is in the South Pacific Islands, publicly tortured and then murdered a 20-year-old woman by setting her on fire in a public square. The government and local police condemned this act of violence against women, but that didn’t stop it from happening: the young mother had been accused of sorcery by the family of a six-year-old child who had recently died and townspeople took matters into their own hands. The details of how she was killed are grisly and gross and I won’t recap them here. Alas, the embassy in Papua New Guinea has called for a closer look into gender-based violence and police are pursuing the as-many-as-50-suspects who had a hand in putting the young mom to death. This barbarity is frankly disgusting. [ABC News]

90 Women Murdered By Intimate Partners Or Family Members In The 8 Weeks Since The Newtown Massacre

Today's Lady News
  • The gun lobby says us ladies need guns to protect ourselves. But reporter Melissa Jeltsen at the Huffington Post paints a different picture: guns in the hands of abusive partners kill women. A lot of women. People who have been convicted of misdemeanor domestic violence or who have a DV restraining order against them can’t legally purchase guns — so how do you explain far too many women being murdered with guns by partners or family? [Huffington Post]
  • Did former Secretary of State Hillary Clinton just launch a website for her her 2016 presidential run? Or is it just, you know, a pretty website? [The Stir]

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Color Of Domestic Violence
On Kasandra Perkins and the color of domestic violence. Read More »
DV Advice
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... from a prosecutor who has seen it all. Read More »
Helping DV Victims
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Should we ask victims of domestic violence why they stay? Read More »

Rihanna Talks A Lot About Her Reunion With Chris Brown In Candid Rolling Stone Interview

Chris Brown & Abuse
On why our culture must take domestic violence more seriously. Read More »
Chris & Rihanna Back On?
And having bathroom sex? Read More »
Rihanna Talks To Oprah
A preview of Oprah's interview with Rihanna! Read More »
Chris And Rihanna
A timeline of Rihanna and Chris Brown's relationship. Read More »

Welp. There’s no denying it now. Rihanna is officially back together with Chris Brown, less than four years after he assaulted her to the point of hospitalization the night before the 2009 Grammy Awards. In the new issue of Rolling Stone, on stands this Friday (but excerpted quotes are already making the rounds), the singer is pretty straight up about her reasons for taking back her abusive ex. Check out some quotes from the interview, after the jump… Keep reading »

Violence Against Women Act Reintroduced In Congress

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  • The Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) was reintroduced in the Senate this week. House Republicans blocked VAWA, making it the first time the bill has not been renewed since 1994, because they  balked at VAWA’s inclusions for Native Americans, immigrant women, and LGBTQ folks. The bill was reintroduced, with bipartisan support, removing a provision that would have provided visas to immigrant victims of domestic violence. [New York Times, Huffington Post]
  • Victims of “revenge porn” have banded together for a class action lawsuit against GoDaddy and Texxxan.com. [BetaBeat]
  • I would love for conservatives to introduce me to some ladies who carry 30-round assault rifles “for self-defense.”  [Feministing]
  • A Catholic hospital in Colorado is claiming fetuses aren’t people in a medical malpractice suit. [Feminist.org] Keep reading »

Girl Talk: My Roommate’s Boyfriend Stalked Her

Domestic Violence Advice
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... from a prosecutor who has seen it all. Read More »
I Witnessed DV
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Jessica watched a man commit domestic violence while bystanders did nothing. Read More »
On Abused Women
Facts about Rihanna and other abused women. Read More »
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A few years ago, I posted a roommate request on Craigslist. I received a handful of responses, and after weeding out the crazies, I invited a few people to come see the apartment. One afternoon, a girl I had contacted stopped by with her boyfriend. She seemed nice, respectful and she really liked the place. I remember her boyfriend walked around the whole time with a look of delight on his face, as if to say, “Wow, you could actually live here!” Shortly after meeting them, I told the girl she could have the place. This is how Tam and Fred* came into my life.

At first things went really well. Tam was a very sweet person and a considerate roommate. Fred spent a lot of time at our apartment, but he was so friendly I didn’t mind his presence. He would go out of his way to talk to me when he was over and to see how I was doing. If Tam was busy, he would watch TV with me and talk. During these conversations, I learned something important about Fred: he was an idiot. Keep reading »

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