Usually movies like Tyler Perry’s “Temptation: Confessions of a Marriage Counselor” are right up my alley. You don’t see a Tyler Perry film because you’re under any illusions it will be good. At their best, Perry movies excel at hitting the sweet spot of terrible, the kind of bad movie you can’t wait to pick apart with your friends afterward. Why else did I go see “Twilight: Breaking Dawn — Part 2″ in theaters? I was under no illusions I was seeing a good film. I wanted a glorious waste, and boy, did I get my money’s worth. Michael Sheen’s evil laugh was worth the price of admission alone.
Like Tommy Wiseau’s “The Room,” Perry’s films aren’t so much made as they are loosely cobbled together, and it’s fun to point out the seams in his craftsmanship. The sound design is terrible, the acting is all over the place and the film takes place in about seven different genres simultaneously. “Temptation” can’t decide if it wants to be a melodrama, high camp, a morality play, a broad comedy, a Lifetime movie or a potboiler, so it makes the proceedings into a $5.99 buffet — a little bit of this, a lot of that, doused with camp and unintentional humor. Douglas Sirk would have loved Tyler Perry.
However, despite my best efforts to find the film funny, there’s something immensely troubling about the morality slopped in with Perry’s genre stew. The film is about a Christian woman’s destructive sexual awakening and an affair that leads her away from her marriage. “Temptation” initially feels like a rebuttal to readers of Kate Chopin (or, heaven forbid, E.L. James) showing how passion can destroy the stability we take for granted. The main character is the therapist for a “Millionaire Matchmaker”-type who has her wandering eye on a billionaire client. He looks like a male model, is named Harley and drives a red sportscar. He espouses the belief that humans should have sex like animals. [Spoilers after the jump!] Keep reading »
I really, really, really want this to be an April Fool’s Day joke.
ZMB Industries, which manufactures shooting targets which all resemble zombies, has a “zombie ex-girlfriend” target of a bra-clad woman for presumably-male shooters to “kill.”
Put another way: practice murdering your ex-girlfriend, men! It’s okay! Because she’s a “zombie!”
The Bleeding Ex-Girlfriend Target sells for $89.99 and each one is “hand painted to accurately resemble an infected human that just finished gnawing on his trusted courier’s leg, to give you that realistic look so you genuinely feel the hate.” A site that sells the ex-girlfriend target, Motorcycles & Outdoors, also sells Arab “terrorist” and North Korean soldier targets. My brain can’t even process it all. I’m so disgusted at the cavalier disregard for violence against women that I don’t know what to say. [Motorcycle & Outdoors via Salon]
If you abuse your partner you deserve some serious jail-time. Nobody could argue with that. Yet, according to The New York Post, the New York Police Department’s method of getting a victim to cooperate and close a case could potentially do more harm than good.
According to the Post, a March 5 memo written by Chief of Detectives Phil Pulaski outlines the tactic: background check both the victim and perp. If the victim has any outstanding warrants use that to sway them from backing out of police cooperation. According to the Post’s source, “They want us to use that as leverage to force them to remain cooperative,” close a case and put an abusive partner behind bars. Keep reading »
NO MORE. It is a simple, direct message representing a broad and pervasive issue. No more sexual assault. No more violence against women. Today, March 13 marks NO MORE day, a day to join the movement to stop domestic violence and sexual assault, and launch the organization’s new symbol — a thick “O” of light blue. Keep reading »
“Every nine seconds in the United States a woman is assaulted or beaten. Every nine seconds. Violence against women is the single greatest human rights violation of our generation. This is a call to action—not an action that will make things better in six months’ time or a year’s time, but action that might save someone’s life and someone’s future this afternoon, tonight, tomorrow morning.”
– I’m still on vacation in Paris, but I always can find time to post about my favorite Starfleet captain — Captain Jean Luc Picard, I mean. Sir Patrick Stewart, who of course portrayed Picard on “Star Trek: The Next Generation,” was the host for the launch of “Ring The Bell,” a global campaign calling on one million men to make one million “concrete, actionable promises” to end violence against women. Stewart also spoke from his own experience with domestic violence, which he witnessed between his mother and father as a child. Keep reading »
I don’t want to write this post.
I really don’t want to write this post.
I really don’t want to write this post because all the ways that Slate columnist/link-baiter William Saletan is wrong about BDSM are so numerous and so glaringly inaccurate that I have half a mind not to dignify it with a response.
Alas, here I go:
Saletan asks whether, between 50 Shades of Grey and various colleges starting their own BDSM clubs, kink is going “mainstream,” as if sexuality is like rap music or the Atkins diet which spreads around the country once it becomes “cool”. He quickly concludes no, BDSM won’t ever be accepted by your Great Aunt Myrtle in Iowa City, because it’s actually “dangerous” — actual quote — and actually “consensual domestic violence” — actual quote.
His viewpoint only serves to further stigmatize what’s barely even taboo anymore, promoting the Dark Ages/maybe-in-rural-Alabama idea there’s “right” and “wrong” sexuality between consenting adults.
To which I have to say, shut the fuck up, William Saletan. Keep reading »
Last week, a 15-year-old girl in the Maldives was sentenced to being flogged with 100 lashes for having consensual sex outside of marriage. Now the Islamic ministry and judiciary are being pressured to halt the public flogging or at least wait to carry it out until the youngster turns 18. If the criminalization of a woman’s sexuality is not bad enough (and yes, the AP confirms that it is usually the women who are flogged), it actually gets worse: the Muslim teen complained about sexual abuse by her stepfather and another man. In other words, she is allegedly the victim of sexual abuse by older men and now could be physically punished for having consensual sex. This is completely disgusting. [Seattle Times]
This sent shivers down my spine. A moving photo essay by the photographer Sara Naomi Lewkowicz on TIME magazine’s website follows a young couple’s relationship, culminating in the man beating his girlfriend. As she explains in a piece accompanying the piece, Lewkowicz originally meant to document Shane’s life as an ex-con. But it turned into something entirely different when Shane, 31, began physically abusing Maggie, 19, the mother of two young children, with the photographer and kids present. Keep reading »