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A Picture A Day, In The Year Of A Domestic Violence Victim

Domestic Violence Advice
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... from a prosecutor who has seen it all. Read More »
Domestic Violence & Guns
Vice President Joe Biden says we need to reduce domestic violence via guns. Read More »
I Witnessed DV
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Jessica watched a man commit domestic violence while bystanders did nothing. Read More »
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Domestic Violence Escalates

There was an air of mystery surrounding the alarming video “One Photo A Day In The Worst Year Of My Life” that went viral after it was posted on Reddit. People wondered, Is it real or fake? Devastating personal story, or gripping public service announcement? One thing that we were sure of: it was powerful, upsetting, and had people talking.  The time-lapse-style video chronicled a Serbian girl as she went through the downhill spiral of abuse, as illustrated in one photo per day.   Keep reading »

The Soapbox: Tyler Perry Has A Rape Problem In “Temptation”

Rick Ross Rape Rap
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Rick Ross rapped about drugging a woman and raping her. Read More »
Not Diverse Enough?
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"Think Like A Man" allegedly banned in France because it's not diverse. Read More »
Is This Film Racist?
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This Dutch film about black women's asses looks pretty racist. Read More »
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Usually movies like Tyler Perry’s “Temptation: Confessions of a Marriage Counselor” are right up my alley. You don’t see a Tyler Perry film because you’re under any illusions it will be good. At their best, Perry movies excel at hitting the sweet spot of terrible, the kind of bad movie you can’t wait to pick apart with your friends afterward. Why else did I go see “Twilight: Breaking Dawn — Part 2″ in theaters? I was under no illusions I was seeing a good film. I wanted a glorious waste, and boy, did I get my money’s worth. Michael Sheen’s evil laugh was worth the price of admission alone.

Like Tommy Wiseau’s “The Room,” Perry’s films aren’t so much made as they are loosely cobbled together, and it’s fun to point out the seams in his craftsmanship. The sound design is terrible, the acting is all over the place and the film takes place in about seven different genres simultaneously. “Temptation” can’t decide if it wants to be a melodrama, high camp, a morality play, a broad comedy, a Lifetime movie or a potboiler, so it makes the proceedings into a $5.99 buffet — a little bit of this, a lot of that, doused with camp and unintentional humor. Douglas Sirk would have loved Tyler Perry.

However, despite my best efforts to find the film funny, there’s something immensely troubling about the morality slopped in with Perry’s genre stew. The film is about a Christian woman’s destructive sexual awakening and an affair that leads her away from her marriage. “Temptation” initially feels like a rebuttal to readers of Kate Chopin (or, heaven forbid, E.L. James) showing how passion can destroy the stability we take for granted. The main character is the therapist for a “Millionaire Matchmaker”-type who has her wandering eye on a billionaire client. He looks like a male model, is named Harley and drives a red sportscar. He espouses the belief that humans should have sex like animals. [Spoilers after the jump!] Keep reading »

Please Tell Me This Bra-Clad “Zombie Ex-Girlfriend Shooting Target” Is An April Fool’s Day Joke

Meet Natalie Foster
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The NRA thinks Natalie Foster will make women want to buy guns. Read More »
Domestic Violence & Guns
Vice President Joe Biden says we need to reduce domestic violence via guns. Read More »
Fearing Guns
How a gun-loving West Texas girl learned to fear assault weapons. Read More »

I really, really, really want this to be an April Fool’s Day joke.

ZMB Industries, which manufactures shooting targets which all resemble zombies, has a “zombie ex-girlfriend” target of a bra-clad woman for presumably-male shooters to “kill.”

Put another way: practice murdering your ex-girlfriend, men! It’s okay! Because she’s a “zombie!”

The Bleeding Ex-Girlfriend Target sells for $89.99 and each one is “hand painted to accurately resemble an infected human that just finished gnawing on his trusted courier’s leg, to give you that realistic look so you genuinely feel the hate.” A site that sells the ex-girlfriend target, Motorcycles & Outdoors, also sells Arab “terrorist” and North Korean soldier targets.  My brain can’t even process it all. I’m so disgusted at the cavalier disregard for violence against women that I don’t know what to say. [Motorcycle & Outdoors via Salon]

NYPD’s Misguided Strategy To Get Domestic Violence Victims To Cooperate

Domestic Violence Arrest
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Chad Ochocinco was arrested for domestic violence this weekend. Read More »
On Abused Women
Facts about why abused women stay with their abusers. Read More »
Abuse Registry?
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Should there be a registry for people who commit DV? Read More »
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If you abuse your partner you deserve some serious jail-time.  Nobody could argue with that.  Yet, according to The New York Post, the New York Police Department’s method of getting a victim to cooperate and close a case could potentially do more harm than good.

According to the Post, a March 5 memo written by Chief of Detectives Phil Pulaski outlines the tactic: background check both the victim and perp.  If the victim has any outstanding warrants use that to sway them from backing out of police cooperation.  According to the Post’s source, “They want us to use that as leverage to force them to remain cooperative,” close a case and put an abusive partner behind bars. Keep reading »

Addressing Domestic Violence Means Addressing Gun Violence, Says Joe Biden

  • Vice President Joe Biden announced 12 grants to programs around the country to protect potential victims of domestic violence at the hands of their abusers. Noting that between 2009 and 2012, 40 percent of mass shootings began with a man shooting an intimate partner, Biden emphasized, “The issue of domestic violence and reducing gun violence are connected.” [Think Progress, USA TodayWhite House]
  • Survivors of military sexual violence testified before the Senate this week. [Los Angeles Times]
  • Anna Wintour got a promotion within Conde Nast and already people are “concerned” about what this powerful woman is going to do. [Madame Noire] Keep reading »
Domestic Violence Advice
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... from a prosecutor who has seen it all. Read More »
I Witnessed DV
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Jessica watched a man commit domestic violence while bystanders did nothing. Read More »
I Was Abused
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Judy McGuire was physically abused by a boyfriend. Read More »

The Soapbox: On Abuse Within Kink (Or This One Time Some Really Bad Stuff Happened To Me)

On BDSM
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BDSM is not "consensual domestic violence." Read More »
I Was Date Raped
Amelia was date raped in college by a guy she liked. Read More »
Fat Mike On BDSM
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NOFX's Fat Mike talks about his BDSM lifestyle and persecution for kink. Read More »
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Recently I went home with a kinky man after our first date. The experience phased in and out of being consensual throughout the night. I distinctly left his apartment feeling violated and I continued to feel violated for several days after.

We found each other online because both of us were interested in dominant/submissive (D/s) sex, particularly in spanking. I thought this man would be dominant in bed, as per his online dating profile and a conversation we’d had about it on our date. But instead of just dominant, he was controlling. Before we started playing, I told him the “safe word” I wanted to use. A safe word is a word or phrase used by kinky people during sexual play that they want the play to stop immediately; I never play with a partner without one. To my surprise, this guy told me that safe word I chose was “terrible” and to use something else. That raised a red flag right off the bat.

Another red flag came at one point during play when he called me a “bitch.” I’m not against being called names in bed. In fact, with a partner whom I know and trust, being called a “bad girl” or a “slut” can be really hot! But we never had a conversation about using words like that, and if we had, I would have told him that the word “bitch” was not OK with me.   Keep reading »

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