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The Soapbox: You Are Not A Good Guy

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“It’s unfortunate because he’s a great guy, he just has stupid advisors around him.”

This is Reebok CEO Uli Becker, as tweeted by Footwear News, speaking about the rapper Rick Ross. Amongst Ross’ “great guy” credentials? Rapping in a song by Rocko the following lyrics about drugging and raping a woman: “Put Molly all in her champagne, she ain’t even know it/I took her home and I enjoyed that, she ain’t even know it.” When critics decried his rapey lyrics and he got dropped by at least one radio station, Ross called the whole thing a “misinterpretation” because he never said the word “rape.” (Ross also added he wants all the “sexy ladies, the beautiful ladies” to know rape is bad.)  After getting dropped as a Reebok spokesperson, two weeks after the initial kerfluffle, he finally issued an apology, calling rape a “crime” and “wrong.”

I was reminded of Rick Ross just yesterday when I read about Constable Jason Peacock, a veteran Toronto police officer who was found guilty of assaulting his then-girlfriend and damaging her home. On Christmas Eve morning 2010, Peacock showed up unannounced at her place and refused to leave; he punched holes in her walls, smashed glasses, overturned her kitchen island, and shook her hard by the shoulders. In her statement, his then-girlfriend wrote, “There was a period where I thought he was going to kill me.” The judge who sentenced Peacock to 100 community service and $4,300 in restitution fees called the officer “a good man who, but for his involvement with [the ex-girlfriend], led not only an unblemished by exemplary life.”

Or what about the late Penn State football coach Joe Paterno, who was defended by John Thompson, Jr., a former Georgetown coach, as a “good man” who did “something that he maybe would be sorry about.” That “something” that Paterno should “maybe” be sorry about was allowing child rape to happen.

Let me be the first (apparently) to tell you, guys. You are not good men.  Keep reading »

“No More Abuse” Campaign Launched In Saudi Arabia

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No More Abuse 5.1.2013

Th anti-domestic violence campaign, “No More Abuse,” has been launched in the desert of women’s rights: Saudi Arabia.  Saudi Arabia is not known for it draught of gender parity.  Just last month it was considered a “victory” of sorts that women were allowed to ride bicycles.  (Granted the privilege comes with a lengthy post script: in a full abaya, with a male relative present, in designated spaces.) Keep reading »

Domestic Violence Victims Screwed Over By PA Town’s “Three Strikes” Disorderly Behavior Ordinance

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Most folks would be happy if their neighbors got evicted after three different “disorderly behavior” instances in less than three months. No one wants to deal with that much partying, dog barking, or loud music, right? But a “three strikes” disorderly behavior ordinance in Norristown, Pennsylvania, is now being challenged by the American Civil Liberties Union of PA because instead of just evicting noisy nuisance neighbors, it is being used to evict innocent domestic violence victims for calling the police for help.

The ACLU filed this week on behalf of Lakisha Briggs, a domestic violence victim who called the police last year when her ex-boyfriend assaulted her; they arrived and arrested him. But police also told Briggs that if they kept returning to the residence over disorderly behavior calls, she would get evicted. Not surprisingly, Briggs was afraid to call the police regarding future incidents — including the time her ex-boyfriend attacked her with a brick — over fear that she and her three-year-old child would become homeless. And yet after a June 2012 attack from her ex-boyfriend that had Briggs airlifted to the hospital, police of Norristown threatened to evict them from their home because neighbors had called to complain.  Keep reading »

Rick Brainard, Colorado Councilman-Elect, Slapped Girlfriend To “Shut Her Mouth”

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You know those mouthy girlfriends! Sometimes they just need a good slap so she’ll “shut her mouth.” And throw in some hair-pulling and shoving, too.

Rick Brainard, City Councilman-elect of Grand Junction, Colorado, knows all about it. In fact, he admitted to slapping, pushing and hair-pulling to a police officer last Saturday when he was arrested for domestic violence against his girlfriend. Brainard initially denied the abuse, but then confessed that he slapped her because she needed to “shut her mouth.” He was charged with third-degree assault and harassment and spent three days, two nights, in jail. Brainard released a statement on Tuesday stating he still plans to serve on the City Council.

Methinks Rick Brainard is not so fit for public office after all. And, it turns out, so do the constituents calling for him not to be sworn into office in May — as are eight anti-domestic violence groups in CO. [The Daily Sentinel, KREX] (Thanks to reader Jim for the link!)

A Picture A Day, In The Year Of A Domestic Violence Victim

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Domestic Violence Escalates

There was an air of mystery surrounding the alarming video “One Photo A Day In The Worst Year Of My Life” that went viral after it was posted on Reddit. People wondered, Is it real or fake? Devastating personal story, or gripping public service announcement? One thing that we were sure of: it was powerful, upsetting, and had people talking.  The time-lapse-style video chronicled a Serbian girl as she went through the downhill spiral of abuse, as illustrated in one photo per day.   Keep reading »

The Soapbox: Tyler Perry Has A Rape Problem In “Temptation”

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Rick Ross rapped about drugging a woman and raping her. Read More »
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Usually movies like Tyler Perry’s “Temptation: Confessions of a Marriage Counselor” are right up my alley. You don’t see a Tyler Perry film because you’re under any illusions it will be good. At their best, Perry movies excel at hitting the sweet spot of terrible, the kind of bad movie you can’t wait to pick apart with your friends afterward. Why else did I go see “Twilight: Breaking Dawn — Part 2″ in theaters? I was under no illusions I was seeing a good film. I wanted a glorious waste, and boy, did I get my money’s worth. Michael Sheen’s evil laugh was worth the price of admission alone.

Like Tommy Wiseau’s “The Room,” Perry’s films aren’t so much made as they are loosely cobbled together, and it’s fun to point out the seams in his craftsmanship. The sound design is terrible, the acting is all over the place and the film takes place in about seven different genres simultaneously. “Temptation” can’t decide if it wants to be a melodrama, high camp, a morality play, a broad comedy, a Lifetime movie or a potboiler, so it makes the proceedings into a $5.99 buffet — a little bit of this, a lot of that, doused with camp and unintentional humor. Douglas Sirk would have loved Tyler Perry.

However, despite my best efforts to find the film funny, there’s something immensely troubling about the morality slopped in with Perry’s genre stew. The film is about a Christian woman’s destructive sexual awakening and an affair that leads her away from her marriage. “Temptation” initially feels like a rebuttal to readers of Kate Chopin (or, heaven forbid, E.L. James) showing how passion can destroy the stability we take for granted. The main character is the therapist for a “Millionaire Matchmaker”-type who has her wandering eye on a billionaire client. He looks like a male model, is named Harley and drives a red sportscar. He espouses the belief that humans should have sex like animals. [Spoilers after the jump!] Keep reading »

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