Tag Archives: domestic violence

Usher Tops The “Worst Relationship Songs” List

Julie GersteinDecember 22, 2010 //

Here’s one year-end list we’d never want to be on. The Boston Public Health Commission ranked the top 10 worst relationship songs released this year; songs were ranked by the unhealthy messages they sent listeners about relationships and violence against women. At the top of the list? Usher, whose tracks “Lil Freak” and “Hot Tottie” occupied the number one and two spots.

Songs are scored based on their portrayal of relationships, sex, manipulation and disrespect. Songs are ranked by a panel of 100 teens, who, said director Casey Corcoran, “see which ones endorse a healthy or unhealthy relationships.”

Songs were NOT scored based on the reputation of the artists themselves (which is why Usher tops the list and not Chris Brown). Check out the rest of the list after the jump. Keep reading »

“Family Matters’” Darius McCrary & 4 More Formerly Famous Actors Accused Of Abuse Or Worse

Kelli BenderDecember 11, 2010 //

Former actor Darius McCrary, who played Eddie Winslow on “Family Matters,” was recently served with a restraining order. The legal action was the result of abuse accusations by his ex-wife Karrine Steffans. Steffans claims that McCrary beat her with a belt in front of her son and that this was not the first time he has harmed her. Currently, Darius is not allowed within a 100-feet of his wife, and she is looking to make the restraining order permanent with upcoming court appearances. [Huffington Post]

Unfortunately, this is not the first time a former actor has been accused of abuse later in life. Read on to see what past stars are sadly spending more time in court than on the screen. Keep reading »

Chile’s Domestic Violence PSA Fail

Jessica WakemanNovember 22, 2010 //

Guys who beat women are bad dudes? Sure. Guys who beat women are “fa**ots”? Chile’s National Women’s Service perhaps needs a refresher course on this whole “treating all human beings with dignity and respect” thing. [BuzzFeed] Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “My Ex Hit Me And Now He Wants Me Back”

Wendy AtterberryNovember 19, 2010 //

I started a long-distance (1,500 miles apart) relationship with a wonderful man in August of last year. Things were going great, but suddenly took a turn for the worse in January when he was diagnosed with cancer. I was able to take two semesters off from school to go be his caregiver. We continued to build our relationship and he constantly expressed his gratitude for my being there. Unfortunately, about a month into his treatment, he started to become verbally abusive, and began to pick fights. Months went by, and threats of hitting me turned into actually hitting me, on two occasions. I reached out to his family and friends for support, but he told them I was a crazy liar. I begged him to see a therapist, or to talk to his doctor about the medications and steroids he was on, but he refused. When he was done his last round of chemo and in remission, I ended the relationship, packed my bags and went home. We have stayed in contact, and he surprised me last weekend by driving out to visit me. He spent a few days at my apartment, and was once again the man I fell in love with. He told me that he’d told his family about the abuse, that he loved me, and that he wants to get back together. My friends think I should cut all contact with him, and that he lost his chance to be with me once he hit me. I think his behavior was caused by the drugs and steroids he was on, so my decision isn’t easy. Is it really as cut-and-dry as my friends think, or can I give him a second chance? — Abused Caregiver

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Mel Gibson Says Ex “Provoked Me” And “Pushed My Emotional Buttons”

Jessica WakemanNovember 13, 2010 //

Mel Gibson just got ickier, if that’s possible. In a court document defending himself from his ex-girlfriend Oksana Grigorieva‘s claim that he beat her while she was holding their baby daughter, Lucia, Mel also addressed the infamous phone calls she recorded where he hurls abuse at her. Really, you see, Mel’s outrage was Oksana’s fault. He states in the court filing, “I felt that Oksana repeatedly attempted to push my emotional ‘buttons’ to provoke me during the calls; of course, I had no idea at the time that she was taping them.” Oh, so if Mel had known he was being taped when she was “provoking” him, he might not have said “You look like a f**king pig in heat and if you get raped by a pack of n**gers it will be your fault,” or threatened to kill her and bury her in the rose garden? Got it. While I have no doubt that Oksana manipulated Mel into making these embarrassing racist, misogynist statements on tape, the dude just refuses take responsibility for himself like a grownup. Maybe after the beaver movie, his next role should be as a domestic abuser. He’s got it down pat. [Radar Online] Keep reading »

Police Subpoena “Teen Mom” Amber For Punching Her Baby Daddy

Kate Torgovnick/Kate-Book.comNovember 11, 2010 //

It’s hard to forget the episode of “Teen Mom” where Amber Portwood kicks out her baby daddy, Gary Shirley, for taking their daughter and threatening to call child services. As he leaves, they get into a big fight. During the scene, Amber gets in his face cursing. She hits him repeatedly, and calls him things like a “fat piece of s**t.” As he retreats down the stairs, she kicks him. The scene was shocking when it aired. And now the police are reviewing the unedited footage. Keep reading »

Obama And Biden Address The Nation About Violence Against Women

Jessica WakemanOctober 27, 2010 //

I know October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. But the 10th month of the year is another time for reflection on an issue that doesn’t get quite the attention it deserves: Domestic Violence Awareness Month. The Frisky has been re-posting some of our past content by our contributor Judy McGuire, a domestic abuse survivor, but we were pleased to see it’s being addressed on a national level, as well.

Today at the White House, Vice President Joe Biden and President Barack Obama made remarks about violence against women, which I’ve transcribed a bit after the jump: Keep reading »

Girl Talk: Should We Ask Victims Of Domestic Violence Why They Stayed?

Judy McGuireOctober 26, 2010 //
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October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. With that in mind, we’re reposting this article from Judy McGuire which originally ran in July 2009.

Yesterday, two of the other lady blogs wrestled over the politics of asking victims of domestic violence why they stayed with their abusers. Are you a bad feminist if you ask someone—say, someone like me—why she stayed with the guy who beat the crap out of her, nearly murdered her, and raped her on a regular basis? Keep reading »

Girl Talk: How To Avoid Dating An Abusive Freak

Judy McGuireOctober 25, 2010 //

The first thing anyone asks a battered woman is: “Why did you put up with that?” Domestic violence is the only crime I can think of—well, besides rape—where the victim is treated as complicit in her own abuse.

This is why I rarely talk about my two-year relationship with a batterer. I wasn’t a housewife with no resources, I was a teenager and he was my first boyfriend. He beat me, raped me and stalked me. After I escaped, it was years before I told anyone what I’d been through because I was so ashamed. I still avoid the topic with those close to me.

What people don’t understand is that abusers don’t generally punch you in the face on the first date. If they did, nobody would ever go out with them twice. But there are some early warning signs—and as much as you might hate to admit it to yourself, the fact is, even a strong, smart, independent woman can find herself on the wrong end of the fist. Here are some behaviors to watch out for … Keep reading »

Husbands Can Hit Wives As Long As They Don’t Leave Marks, UAE Court Rules

Jessica WakemanOctober 18, 2010 //

Good news, domestic abusers! An Islamic court in the United Arab Emirates has ruled a husband or father can “discipline” his wife and children as long as he does not leave any marks. This decision follows a ruling where a man was taken to court for slapping his wife, injuring her bottom lip and teeth, and kicking his 23-year-old daughter, causing her to bruise. Keep reading »

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