With Chris Brown and Rihanna releasing two remixes together and rumors of them seeing each other flying, it’s understandable to feel disappointed in Rihanna. It’s hard watching anyone step into such an obvious trap, especially when she’s been warned repeatedly of how dangerous it is. Add to that the fear that Rihanna’s choice to forgive Brown sends a signal to young fans that domestic violence is no big deal, and you have more than enough justifications to be upset with Rihanna.
But if you sincerely want to reduce the incidence of domestic violence in our society, I beg you to refrain from judging her. Strange as it may sound, judging women who return to their abusers only makes the problem worse. Keep reading »
When the internet started to buzz with the rumor that Rihanna had invited Chris Brown to guest on the remix of her song “Birthday Cake,” my instant reaction was disbelief. She wouldn’t… I thought. Sure, there had been signs that Rihanna had rekindled a bit of a friendship with her ex, who famously beat her to the point of being hospitalized in 2009, but to collaborate with him? A recent video for the song “We Found Love” seemed to reference the unhealthy and abusive nature of that relationship — surely the next step wouldn’t be to make music with the guy?
Alas, it appears the rumors are true. The song is set to be released this week [UPDATE: Two songs have been released, which you can listen to here.] and it’s all but confirmed that Brown appears on the track, allegedly recorded without her label knowing about it. (Brown has also hinted that Rihanna appears on the upcoming remix of “Turn Up The Music.”) Rihanna has tweeted a number of messages that suggest she’s aware of the negative response the collaboration is garnering; “Go head talk shit…its all in da paper!!! Lemme grab my dick while ya sit on top!!!” she wrote late last week. Sigh. She can be dismissive of the criticism, but I am going to do my best not to be dismissive of her in mine. Keep reading »
Yesterday, I wrote this throwaway post about how Chris Brown said “fuck the haters!” in which I pointed out that people don’t hate him because he was a scrappy underdog, they hate him because he beat his ex-girlfriend and that police reports made it very clear that he was trying to kill her. And then I got this e-mail from a woman:
Hi. I just wanted you to know that this is bullying . Chris brown made a mistake which he has apologized and is reaping the consequences for those actions. Let the man live his life before he decides to do something drastic that he thinks will get everyone’s off his back. Your no better than people who bully others because they’re gay or different. You need to look into the NoH8 (no hate) campaign to learn something.
And then I took a second and thought “I didn’t know that the lobotomobile was making its rounds again.” Read more…
Oh, New Hampshire. There you go, sitting around thinking, You know what we don’t have enough of? Wife beatings!
Clearly that’s the only explanation for a piece of legislation proposed by state Republicans. According to the Concord Monitor newspaper, House Bill 1581 sought to require police officers to obtain a warrant in a domestic violence case unless they witnessed the crime themselves.
So if Jane called 911 because Bob punched her in the face? (Or Bob called 911 because Jane punched him in the face?) The cops could see the blood or bruises, but would have needed a warrant for arrest. Keep reading »
A recent segment on NPR about the rehabilitation of Chris Brown’s career is cause for alarm. No, not because we should care about Chris Brown’s career as a pop singer — but because his young (mostly female) fans, as fervent as ever, continue to support him not only as an artist but as a person.
After his brutal beating of his then girlfriend Rihanna in 2009, one would hope that young people would place responsibility for the violence squarely on Chris Brown. But that’s not the case. Brown’s young, female fans, who continue to support him, blamed Rihanna then and still blame her now for the violence he inflicted upon her. One young fan interviewed by NPR outside of one of Brown’s recent concerts said of the incident, “Obviously she played a part in getting beat, or whatever … However you want to put it.” Keep reading »
A California woman has been forced to pay her rapist — who happens to be her ex — a monthly living stipend. Say what?
Such is the ruling of a Judge Gregory Pollock. Crystal Harris successfully convicted her ex-husband Shawn Harris of forced oral copulation and he is now serving time in prison. But upon his release from jail, she’ll have to pay him $1,000 a month in alimony. Pollack cited Harris’ higher income — 11k a month —as the main reason. But in the state of California, attempted murder (!) is the only crime that forgives the alimony program. (Harris, sensibly, wants to change that.)
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