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The Soapbox: Misunderstanding “50 Shades” & Kink Is Hurting Those Of Us Who Practice

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I haven’t exactly kept it a secret around here the way that I’m sexually wired. For the most part, though, the only person whose opinion matters on the subject is my sexual partner. (And any roommates who have to listen to occasional smacking.) Yet, every so often, BDSM — that’s bondage, dominance, sadomasochism — pops up in mainstream popular culture and us kinksters and spankos get to hear the mainstream’s opinion on our lives.

“Secretary,” starring Maggie Gyllenhaal and James Spader, a flick about a secretary who enters into a dominance/submission relationship with her boss, came out while I was in college. Although the flick was understandably controversial, it explained to a lot of people, “Hey, we’re just regular folks like you. Except, you know, not so regular!”

More recently, it’s the BDSM erotic novel 50 Shades Of Grey that has people talking. It seems everyone has an opinion on the subject — including those who are completely misguided about who kinksters are and what we do. Take, for instance, feminist blogger Morgane Richardson and a piece she wrote calling 50 Shades “a glimpse into domestic violence.”

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Violence Against Women Is Oh-So-Glamorous!

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It’s almost too easy to get angry about fashion editorials that glorify violence against women — especially so grotesquely, as in this Bulgarian magazine 12. Six different photos depict gorgeous models staring blankly into the camera, each sporting a serious injury. Here’s the black eye image, but the others are all quite graphic: one a slit throat, another has a mouth ripped open, and yet another looks as if her face has been burned with acid. Keep reading »

Evening Quickies: Dominic Monaghan Accuses “Lost” Co-Star Matthew Fox Of Beating Women

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  • Dominic Monaghan accused his former “Lost” co-star Matthew Fox of beating women up multiple times in some totally WTF tweets on Sunday. A random woman tweeted at Monaghan asking him to get Fox on Twitter. Monaghan replied to her, “he beats women. no thanks.” The woman then asked him, “I know it was wrong but what?! what about all those good times you had together?!” Then Monaghan responded, “How do you know we ever did. You don’t know either of us. He beats women. Not isolated incidents. Often. Not interested.” Not surprisingly, some folks on Twitter started trashing Monaghan for “defamation,” to which he replied, “It’s very difficult to sue someone for speaking the truth.” It’s unclear which women Monaghan is referring to specifically. But Matthew Fox was accused last year of climbing aboard a party bus, uninvited, and punching the female bus driver in the breasts and crotch when she tried to make him disembark. We’re going to watch this story closely. [Jezebel, TMZ] Keep reading »

Today’s Lady News: Women’s Experience Of Violence Linked To Risky Sex

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  • Women who’ve experienced violence — whether it’s watching a violent crime or being abused themselves — are more likely to engage in risky sex, according to a new study. The journal Psychology of Violence found that women who’ve experienced violence are more likely to have unprotected sex and have a high number of sex partners. [Huffington Post]
  • The House Armed Services Committee advanced an amendment to the 2013 defense authorization bill that will protect service members, including chaplains, from getting in trouble for opposing gays serving openly the military. I see what you are doing there, folks, and it’s sneaky. [Navy Times]
  • Actresses Julianne Moore and Fran Drescher are two more celebs standing up for Jennifer Tyrell, the lesbian mom who was ousted from her son’s Boy Scouts troop for being gay. [Queerty] Keep reading »

Richelle Says: HLN Host Asks Why Professional Athletes Receive Special Treatment When It Comes To Domestic Violence Charges

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Emmy award-winning television journalist for HLN, Richelle Carey will be weighing in weekly on the latest headlines Frisky readers care about. In her role as journalist and anchor, Carey advocates for teen girls and women on issues that we all care about. 

Today’s topic: Boxer Floyd Mayweather’s domestic abuse charges. Instead of serving a 90-day jail sentence for assaulting his ex-girlfriend in September of 2010, Mayweather was in Las Vegas this past weekend, boxing a highly publicized fight against Miguel Cotto. The fight earned Mayweather a guaranteed $32 million (not including the cut he received from the pay-per-view subscribers). So why was he in the ring instead of the slammer? A judge granted him a six-month delay on his jail sentence based on the fact that this fight would bring in over $100 million for the city of Las Vegas, some of which Mayweather promised to donate to a breast cancer charity.  Keep reading »

Today’s Lady News: Afghan Teen Flees “Honor Killing”

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  • If you read one news article today, read this one: NPR has a powerful story about a teenage girl in rural Afghanistan who ran away from her family after she feared a so-called “honor killing” by her brothers because she talked to a boy on her cellphone. The girl ended up staying on a military base until she could be placed in an Afghan women’s shelter, where she eventually was matched up with a husband. It’s a bizarre happily-ever-after story, but one I found extremely touching. [NPR]
  • Minnesota Governor Mark Dayton (D) vetoed an anti-abortion bill that would have increased restrictions on abortion providers and limited access to the morning-after pill by requiring doctors to be present for both the prescribing and taking of the pill. [Huffington Post
  • Techies! Ever wondered how many women hold IT jobs, run tech startups, or earn degrees in computer science? Women Who Tech has a handy-dandy infographic with all the details. [Women Who Tech]
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Evening Quickies: Loretta Devine Defends “Youthful Boy” Chris Brown

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  • “The Client List” actress Loretta Devine defended her “This Christmas” costar Chris Brown on Bravo’s “Watch What Happens Live” last night, saying, “Love is love, you know? And he wasn’t the first one to hit somebody.” She also called him a “very youthful boy,” which I suspect is her way of saying he was/is as immature as we all suspect. [Clutch Magazine]
  • Seal who? Heidi Klum might already have a new dude: sources say she’s dating ad exec Thomas Hayo, a fellow judge on “Germany’s Next Top Model.” [NYMag.com]
  • Victoria Beckham’s birthday cake was a depressing pile of fruit. I mean, a healthy pile of fruit. [BuzzFeed]
  • Well, Nelly Furtado’s new song “Big Hoops” doesn’t leave much to the imagination, does it? [PopBytes]
  • IKEA is introducing flat-screen TV sets. Don’t worry, you don’t need to assemble it yourself. [The FW] Keep reading »

About Those Michael Fassbender/Domestic Assault Rumors

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It’s no secret that we’re big fans around here of Michael Fassbender’s smoking hot body and drool-worthy mug. But it has come to our attention from commenters, both on past posts about Fassbender and on a slideshow we did yesterday in honor of his 35th birthday, that all is not roses in Fassyland. According to a March 2010 blog post on TMZ, an ex-girlfriend accused Michael Fassbender of being violent towards her and filed a petition for a restraining order against him. Keep reading »

British Actor Helpfully Explains Why “It’s Not Difficult For A Woman To Make A Man Hit Her”

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“It’s not difficult for a woman to make a man hit her. … The problem with strong, intelligent women is that they can argue well. And if there is a time where you can’t get a word in … and I … I lashed out. I couldn’t end the argument. Something must have brought it on. When frustration builds up and you can’t think of a way out… It happened and I’m very, very ashamed of it. … She certainly wasn’t a beaten wife, she was hit and that’s different.”

I don’t know who the British actor Dennis Waterman is, but his why-I-punched-my-wife logic makes him sounds like he’s the Mel Gibson of the UK. The actor was on Piers Morgan’s talk shows discussing his rough 1998 divorce from actress Rula Lenska, who claimed he had a drinking problem and that he beat her. Dennis doesn’t dispute he had a hand in the drinking, but the hitting? Well, that’s just not his fault. (Of course not.)

Dennis has been condemned by the British anti-violence group Refuge, which issued a no-duh statement “No one can make their partner hit them.”  [The F Word via Mirror UK]

Why New “Clare’s Law” On Domestic Violence In The UK Doesn’t Have Advocates Thrilled

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You might think that advocates for victims of domestic violence might be thrilled about a proposal that would, in theory, positively affect their life’s work. So why is a new pilot program called “Clare’s Law,” spearheaded by the father of a woman murdered by her abusive partner and set to go into effect this summer, getting a cool reception?  Keep reading »

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