I haven’t exactly kept it a secret around here the way that I’m sexually wired. For the most part, though, the only person whose opinion matters on the subject is my sexual partner. (And any roommates who have to listen to occasional smacking.) Yet, every so often, BDSM — that’s bondage, dominance, sadomasochism — pops up in mainstream popular culture and us kinksters and spankos get to hear the mainstream’s opinion on our lives.
“Secretary,” starring Maggie Gyllenhaal and James Spader, a flick about a secretary who enters into a dominance/submission relationship with her boss, came out while I was in college. Although the flick was understandably controversial, it explained to a lot of people, “Hey, we’re just regular folks like you. Except, you know, not so regular!”
More recently, it’s the BDSM erotic novel 50 Shades Of Grey that has people talking. It seems everyone has an opinion on the subject — including those who are completely misguided about who kinksters are and what we do. Take, for instance, feminist blogger Morgane Richardson and a piece she wrote calling 50 Shades “a glimpse into domestic violence.”
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It’s almost too easy to get angry about fashion editorials that glorify violence against women — especially so grotesquely, as in this Bulgarian magazine 12. Six different photos depict gorgeous models staring blankly into the camera, each sporting a serious injury. Here’s the black eye image, but the others are all quite graphic: one a slit throat, another has a mouth ripped open, and yet another looks as if her face has been burned with acid. Keep reading »
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Today’s topic: Boxer Floyd Mayweather’s domestic abuse charges. Instead of serving a 90-day jail sentence for assaulting his ex-girlfriend in September of 2010, Mayweather was in Las Vegas this past weekend, boxing a highly publicized fight against Miguel Cotto. The fight earned Mayweather a guaranteed $32 million (not including the cut he received from the pay-per-view subscribers). So why was he in the ring instead of the slammer? A judge granted him a six-month delay on his jail sentence based on the fact that this fight would bring in over $100 million for the city of Las Vegas, some of which Mayweather promised to donate to a breast cancer charity. Keep reading »
It’s no secret that we’re big fans around here of Michael Fassbender’s smoking hot body and drool-worthy mug. But it has come to our attention from commenters, both on past posts about Fassbender and on a slideshow we did yesterday in honor of his 35th birthday, that all is not roses in Fassyland. According to a March 2010 blog post on TMZ, an ex-girlfriend accused Michael Fassbender of being violent towards her and filed a petition for a restraining order against him. Keep reading »
“It’s not difficult for a woman to make a man hit her. … The problem with strong, intelligent women is that they can argue well. And if there is a time where you can’t get a word in … and I … I lashed out. I couldn’t end the argument. Something must have brought it on. When frustration builds up and you can’t think of a way out… It happened and I’m very, very ashamed of it. … She certainly wasn’t a beaten wife, she was hit and that’s different.”
I don’t know who the British actor Dennis Waterman is, but his why-I-punched-my-wife logic makes him sounds like he’s the Mel Gibson of the UK. The actor was on Piers Morgan’s talk shows discussing his rough 1998 divorce from actress Rula Lenska, who claimed he had a drinking problem and that he beat her. Dennis doesn’t dispute he had a hand in the drinking, but the hitting? Well, that’s just not his fault. (Of course not.)
Dennis has been condemned by the British anti-violence group Refuge, which issued a no-duh statement “No one can make their partner hit them.” [The F Word via Mirror UK]
You might think that advocates for victims of domestic violence might be thrilled about a proposal that would, in theory, positively affect their life’s work. So why is a new pilot program called “Clare’s Law,” spearheaded by the father of a woman murdered by her abusive partner and set to go into effect this summer, getting a cool reception? Keep reading »