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On Seeing A Bruised Woman On The Train

Riding on the train home from work last week, the woman sitting next to me caught my eye. It wasn’t just her bright red lipstick or her retro dress that I noticed — it was a large, ugly, blue-brown-yellow bruise on her upper arm. As covertly as I could, I looked at the bruise, then at her face. She seemed smiley and happy, an otherwise normal woman coming home from work just like me. I turned back to my magazine. But a few minutes later, something on her leg distracted me: yes, it was another ugly-looking blue-brown-yellow bruise. Now I couldn’t read. I looked at her face again and thought about how “normal” she seemed. For half a second, I considered saying something to her about her bruises, but didn’t know what to say. So I sat there next to her for the rest of the train ride, awkwardly looking at the bruises on her leg and arm with my side-eye. We got off at the same stop, but walked off in different directions. I’m still wondering what her story was. Keep reading »

Hair Salon Defends Domestic Violence-y Ad

“Look good in all that you do” is not a slogan you expect to see next to a woman with a nasty-looking black eye. Then again, no one denies the Fluid hair salon in Edmonton, Alberta, was not trying to shock. The ad depicts a woman with a funky hairdo and a black eye sitting on a couch, while an attractive man in a suit stands behind her holding a diamond necklace. For myself and many others, the ad suggests domestic violence — gratuitous domestic violence, actually, because it’s an ad for a freakin’ hair salon.

Insinuating domestic violence is perfectly within Fluid’s rights, of course, and as to be expected, the salon owner is getting huffy about free speech. Keep reading »

Today’s Lady News: Jay-Z Wouldn’t Clap For Chris Brown At VMAs

  • Jay-Z wouldn’t clap for Chris Brown when he performed at last night’s VMAs, presumably because he discovered Rihanna. Now that’s a strong statement right there. Go you, Jay. [TMZ]
  • Today in “no duh” news: elderly women with a more active sex life report a higher quality of life and age more gracefully. Stay tuned while scientists study whether calling your grandma makes her happy. [U.S. News & World Reports]
  • What a kickass idea: a new cooking school called Culture Kitchen in California focuses on ethnic cuisine and classes are taught by immigrant women from Colombia, Mexico and Thailand. [Los Angeles Times]

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Why Aren’t News Stories About “The Hurricane Killer” Calling It Domestic Violence?

While reading news reports this weekend about the hurricane that swept the East Coast, the phrase “the Hurricane Killer” caught my eye. With a moniker like that, I imagined some Jack The Ripper-esque figure killing people who were stuck in their flooded homes during or after Irene. But reading just one news story about Leonard John Egland, 37, who killed four people this weekend, I learned he wasn’t some random murderer at all but someone who knew his victims. Leonard John Egland killed his ex-wife, Carrie Egland, 36, of Chester, VA; her boyfriend, her boyfriend’s son, and his ex-mother-in-law, Barbara Ruehl, 66, of Doylestown, PA. That’s not a random act of violence; that’s domestic violence. Why, then, does news report after news report simply say “four people” were killed instead of acknowledging the specific nature of the crime? Keep reading »

From What We Can Tell, Tyler The Creator Is Kind Of Stupid

Waka Flocka Flame: Do y’all actually do any of the stuff y’all talk about in your lyrics?
Tyler the Creator: Well, I don’t rape chicks … I have punched a girl in the eye … Um … What else? I say a lot of s**t and it just depends . . . Sometimes it’s just ’cause s**t is funny.

That’s hip-hop darling Tyler the Creator on how hilarious it is to hit girls. Other gems from his interview with rapper Waka Flocka Flame in this month’s Interview magazine? Tyler explains that the band name Odd Future came from a time that dragons tried to kill him: “Well, we were at a skate park on just a regular skate day, and this dragon just came out of nowhere and tried to attack me, so we killed the dragon. That’s how we got the name.” Sure! More delicious excerpts after the jump: Keep reading »

#ReasonsToBeatYourGirlfriend Trended This Weekend On Twitter

My love/hate relationship with Twitter grew ever-so-slightly more complicated this weekend when the hashtag #ReasonsToBeatYourGirlfriend trended on Sunday. (For the Twitter-uninitiated, a hashtag is a word or phrase prefaced by the # sign, which usually describes a theme people are talking about — for example, #JetsGame or #AmericanIdol.) When a hashtag or phrase becomes so popular that it is one of the top 10 topics people are discussing, it is listed for all to see on the homepage of Twitter. This is called “trending.” Now, to be fair, part of the reason that #ReasonsToBeatYourGirlfriend was “trending” was because people were criticizing the subject. But #ReasonsToBeatYourGirlfriend would not have attracted so much attention in the first place if people weren’t actually tweeting responses to it. Keep reading »

Is Lauren Astley, 18, Teen Dating Violence’s Latest Victim?

Just weeks ago, 18-year-old Lauren Astley of Framingham, Massachusetts, graduated from Wayland High School. On Sunday night, she was reported missing after she didn’t return home from her job at a local mall, where she had told co-workers she was meeting her ex-boyfriend after work. On Monday morning, her body was found in a marsh by a passing cyclist and her ex Nathaniel Fujita, 18, is the main suspect. Keep reading »

Did Rihanna Tweet That She “Provoked” Chris Brown? Or Was She Hacked?

Rihanna Twitter

Please tell me this is a Twitter hack: Popdust reports that this morning, Rihanna tweeted “I admit it, I provoked Chris to hit me. I’t was not entirely his fault. #ImSORRY.” Huh? Keep reading »

Boyfriend Buys Billboard To Humiliate Ex After Her Alleged Abortion

abortion billboard

The biggest a**hole in the world is this guy: Greg Fultz took out a billboard in New Mexico with a photograph of himself holding the outline of a baby, which reads, “This Would Have Been a Picture Of My 2-Month Old Baby If The Mother Had Decided To NOT KILL Our Child!” The kicker? Greg Fultz said he does not know if ex-girlfriend’s pregnancy ended because of an abortion or a miscarriage, but he doesn’t care. The humiliating billboard, he said, is “inspired” by his life events. Keep reading »

Rihanna Kills Her Rapist In “Man Down” Video


Rihanna kills her rapist in her new music video, “Man Down,” a reggae-influenced song about a woman who gets revenge on “somebody’s son” “in front of a crowd.” It’s a head-scratching song and music video from a woman who is perhaps most famous for getting the crap beaten out of her. Is this supposed to be “feminist” Rihanna who murders the man who hurts her? Sorry, RiRi, but I don’t think perpetuating violence is “edgy,” even for a survivor of domestic violence. [YouTube] Keep reading »