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Good News: The Senate Passed The Violence Against Women Act (Again)

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  • The Senate passed the reauthorization of the Violence Against Women Act by a wide majority of 78-22 yet again.  The measure first  passed in 1994 was up for reauthorization in 2012; however, in April 2012 the Senate passed a similar bill, which failed in the House of Representatives due to measures added to extend protections to Native American women, undocumented immigrants and same-same sex couples.  According to Politico, the 2013 bill has minimal changes besides dropping a portion that would “grant U visas to undocumented immigrant women who had been abused.”  Here’s hoping this finally passes the House! [Politico]
  • Reportedly there is some pressure from Republicans to get VAWA passed:  Speaker John Boehner and Majority Leader Eric Cantor were sent a letter by 17 Congressmen from their own caucus urging them to “immediately reauthorize the Violence Against Women Act.” [NYMag.com Huffington Post]
  • France’s legalization of same-sex marriage moved one step further: a measure extending marriage and adoption rights to gay couples passed the National Assembly 329-229. [CNN] Keep reading »

True Story: A Subway Car Full Of People Watched A Woman Assault A Man And Did Nothing

On Male DV Victims
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A prosecutor weighs in on male domestic violence stats. Read More »
I Witnessed DV
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Jessica watched a man commit domestic violence while bystanders did nothing. Read More »
Domestic Violence Advice
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... from a prosecutor who has seen it all. Read More »

When you live in New York City, it’s impossible not to find yourself inadvertently in the middle of someone else’s crazy. Sometimes it’s a domestic dispute and sometimes it’s a person in the throes of a psychotic break — either due to mental illness or substance use. You learn to assess these situations as best as possible and take your best guess as to whether to call the police or keep the hell out of it. This becomes even more difficult when you find yourself trapped in a subway car with a threatening situation. This happened to me this morning.

A visibly intoxicated 30-something woman got on my train. I’m guessing she was intoxicated because of the water bottle full of what looked and smelled like whiskey she was carrying and the way she was stumbling and slurring. As she pushed her way onto my subway car, she began ranting immediately. This happens a lot — ranters on the train. You usually move as far away from them as you can, avoid eye contact and hope for the best. It’s harder at rush hour when the train is crowded, as it was this morning. My personal motto when it comes to crazies on the train is: “Don’t poke the mad dog.” Keep reading »

Accused Witch Is Burned Alive

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Nope, this is not a headline from Salem, Massachusetts, in 1692. People really did put to death a woman accused of being a witch in 2013. A town in Papua New Guinea, which is in the South Pacific Islands, publicly tortured and then murdered a 20-year-old woman by setting her on fire in a public square. The government and local police condemned this act of violence against women, but that didn’t stop it from happening: the young mother had been accused of sorcery by the family of a six-year-old child who had recently died and townspeople took matters into their own hands. The details of how she was killed are grisly and gross and I won’t recap them here. Alas, the embassy in Papua New Guinea has called for a closer look into gender-based violence and police are pursuing the as-many-as-50-suspects who had a hand in putting the young mom to death. This barbarity is frankly disgusting. [ABC News]

90 Women Murdered By Intimate Partners Or Family Members In The 8 Weeks Since The Newtown Massacre

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  • The gun lobby says us ladies need guns to protect ourselves. But reporter Melissa Jeltsen at the Huffington Post paints a different picture: guns in the hands of abusive partners kill women. A lot of women. People who have been convicted of misdemeanor domestic violence or who have a DV restraining order against them can’t legally purchase guns — so how do you explain far too many women being murdered with guns by partners or family? [Huffington Post]
  • Did former Secretary of State Hillary Clinton just launch a website for her her 2016 presidential run? Or is it just, you know, a pretty website? [The Stir]

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Color Of Domestic Violence
On Kasandra Perkins and the color of domestic violence. Read More »
DV Advice
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... from a prosecutor who has seen it all. Read More »
Helping DV Victims
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Should we ask victims of domestic violence why they stay? Read More »

Rihanna Talks A Lot About Her Reunion With Chris Brown In Candid Rolling Stone Interview

Chris Brown & Abuse
On why our culture must take domestic violence more seriously. Read More »
Chris & Rihanna Back On?
And having bathroom sex? Read More »
Rihanna Talks To Oprah
A preview of Oprah's interview with Rihanna! Read More »
Chris And Rihanna
A timeline of Rihanna and Chris Brown's relationship. Read More »

Welp. There’s no denying it now. Rihanna is officially back together with Chris Brown, less than four years after he assaulted her to the point of hospitalization the night before the 2009 Grammy Awards. In the new issue of Rolling Stone, on stands this Friday (but excerpted quotes are already making the rounds), the singer is pretty straight up about her reasons for taking back her abusive ex. Check out some quotes from the interview, after the jump… Keep reading »

Violence Against Women Act Reintroduced In Congress

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  • The Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) was reintroduced in the Senate this week. House Republicans blocked VAWA, making it the first time the bill has not been renewed since 1994, because they  balked at VAWA’s inclusions for Native Americans, immigrant women, and LGBTQ folks. The bill was reintroduced, with bipartisan support, removing a provision that would have provided visas to immigrant victims of domestic violence. [New York Times, Huffington Post]
  • Victims of “revenge porn” have banded together for a class action lawsuit against GoDaddy and Texxxan.com. [BetaBeat]
  • I would love for conservatives to introduce me to some ladies who carry 30-round assault rifles “for self-defense.”  [Feministing]
  • A Catholic hospital in Colorado is claiming fetuses aren’t people in a medical malpractice suit. [Feminist.org] Keep reading »

Girl Talk: My Roommate’s Boyfriend Stalked Her

Domestic Violence Advice
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... from a prosecutor who has seen it all. Read More »
I Witnessed DV
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Jessica watched a man commit domestic violence while bystanders did nothing. Read More »
On Abused Women
Facts about Rihanna and other abused women. Read More »
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A few years ago, I posted a roommate request on Craigslist. I received a handful of responses, and after weeding out the crazies, I invited a few people to come see the apartment. One afternoon, a girl I had contacted stopped by with her boyfriend. She seemed nice, respectful and she really liked the place. I remember her boyfriend walked around the whole time with a look of delight on his face, as if to say, “Wow, you could actually live here!” Shortly after meeting them, I told the girl she could have the place. This is how Tam and Fred* came into my life.

At first things went really well. Tam was a very sweet person and a considerate roommate. Fred spent a lot of time at our apartment, but he was so friendly I didn’t mind his presence. He would go out of his way to talk to me when he was over and to see how I was doing. If Tam was busy, he would watch TV with me and talk. During these conversations, I learned something important about Fred: he was an idiot. Keep reading »

On Alisa Valdes’s Conflict With Feminism, Her Cowboy & Domestic Abuse

'50s Men Desirable?
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Dubiously sourced study says women find '50s-era men desirable. Read More »
Traditional Men
I'm a feminist, but I want to date a more traditional dude. Read More »
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... from a prosecutor who has seen it all. Read More »
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If you’ve been reading the blogosphere lately, you’ve likely heard about Alisa Valdes and her memoir, The Feminist And The Cowboy: An Unlikely Love Story. Valdes is the author several romance novels and the debut novel The Dirty Girls Social Club (as Valdes-Rodriguez), which landed her all kinds of accolades. She was even named one of the top feminist writers under 30 by Ms. magazine. Then, somewhere along the way, her feminist principles started to chafe: she felt like men were emasculated (“icky ‘liberal’ men,” she calls them in the book) and she resented feeling like women wore the pants. Soon Valdes fell for a Fox News-watching, macho cowboy who exuded an alpha male sexiness and she started to submit to him in their relationship. As the Amazon.com description of The Feminist And The Cowboy says, Valdes discovered ” “when men … act like men rather than like emasculated boys, you as a woman will find not only great pleasure in submitting to them but also great growth as a person.”

Alas, it didn’t quite work out the way. In fact, following the publication of The Feminist And The Cowboy, Valdes has now come forward to say the cowboy raped and physically and emotionally abused her.   Keep reading »

Pittsburgh Steelers Player Chris Rainey Arrested For Striking Girlfriend

  • Pittsburgh Steelers running back Chris Rainey has been arrested on one count of “simple violence,” which I guess is what they call “dating violence” in Gainsville, Florida, after hitting his girlfriend. The two allegedly fought over a cell phone and a witness saw Rainey slap the woman across the face with an open hand. She then ran off and Rainey chased her, eventually knocking both of them to the ground. Following the incident, the Steelers cut Rainey from the team. [USA Today] Keep reading »

Pics Surface Of Dina Lohan With A Black Eye

Dina Hates Cocaine
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You hear that? Dina Lohan HATES cocaine. Read More »
Michael Lohan Arrests
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The many arrests of Michael Lohan. Read More »
Lindsay Vs. Dina
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Cops were called over an early morning brawl. Read More »
  • “Entertainment Tonight” has exclusive photos of Dina Lohan’s black eye, allegedly given to her by Michael Lohan, taken many years ago when the Lohan children were still young (and Dina was still a brunette). In the pics, Dina is sporting a shiner underneath her right eye and holding babies. Dina supposedly released the photos to “explain” why Lindsay is so fucked up. As if we needed further confirmation that the Lohan family was a chaotic environment for the couple’s four kids or that Michael Lohan, who was arrested for domestic violence with ex-girlfriend Kate Major, is a crap human being … [Entertainment Tonight]
  • Amy Winehouse drank herself to death, a second coroner looking into the singer’s 2011 death has confirmed. [Newser]

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