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15-Year-Old Girl Plays Dead After Abusive Ex-Uncle Murders Her Whole Family

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Here’s a story that has me heavy in the heart:

Last night in Spring, Texas, a man looking for his ex-wife — whom he had beaten in the past — tied up and murdered the ex-wife’s sister, brother-in-law, and four of their children “execution-style” after they would not reveal his ex-wife’s location.

Ron Lee Haskell forced himself into his sister-in-law’s house near Houston while looking for his ex-wife Melanie Haskell (who was not there). He reportedly tied up everyone in the family and asked them to reveal his ex-wife’s location. When they couldn’t or wouldn’t answer, he shot six of them to death and wounded another, a 15-year-old girl named Cassidy Stay.

Cassidy told police she played dead until her ex-uncle left, at which point she called 911 and reported that Haskell was on his way to murder her grandparents. That phone call by Cassidy — who is currently in critical condition — appears to have saved her grandparents’ lives. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: 5 Red Flags That Told Me To Leave

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He seemed sweet at first. In fact, he had many sweet moments. But then there was the other stuff …

Abusive behavior isn’t as simple as we, as a society, want it to be. We often think that the kinds of signs that tell you a man could be abusive are very obvious. We imagine monsters, overtly misogynist thugs. We think of extreme physical violence as being the key – or the only – signifier. But often the violence doesn’t start until a relationship is already established – sometimes not until after a woman has moved in with her boyfriend, marries him, or becomes pregnant. In fact, the leading cause of death in pregnant women is domestic homicide, which is to say they are killed by their intimate partners. If we limit our understanding of abusive behavior to physical violence, we risk ignoring other red flags we should be heeding. Keep reading »

Artwork Depicting Nigella Lawson Being Strangled Is Posted On Her Ex-Husband’s Website

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The image of Nigella Lawson with her then-husband’s hands around her throat is seared into my memory. If you remember, back in 2013, Lawson and businessman/art gallery owner Charles Saatchi were seated in a London restaurant, arguing, when he placed his hands around her neck as if to choke her. A photographer happened to catch the incident, which went on for close to 30 minutes, as Lawson cried. The fact that it was caught on camera was a rare and disturbing reminder of the ubiquity of domestic violence, even among the wealthy and powerful.

So what are we to think then, exactly, when several artists have created artwork depicting Nigella Lawson being strangled and posted it on Saatchi’s web site? Keep reading »

This #StandUpWorldCup Domestic Violence PSA Reminds Us That The Event Has A Dark Side

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This short, simple PSA says so much in just a few seconds. It’s easy to forget that the World Cup often correlates with increased levels of domestic violence (as I’d imagine many major sporting events do). For some people, the games are less about fun and more about living in fear. The PSA is part of Tender Education and Arts’ #StandUpWorldCup campaign, which aims to spread awareness about domestic violence during the World Cup, and to remind fans that a loss (anything else for that matter) is no excuse for hurting someone.

The World Cup should be a carefree time for every fan, but until that day arrives, it’s important to keep sharing ads like this one. If you’re interested in helping, more information about the campaign is available here. Victims shouldn’t have to suffer in the dark while the rest of the world celebrates. [Tender UK]

Soccer Star Hope Solo Arrested For Domestic Violence

Soccer Star Hope Solo Arrested For Domestic Violence

Friday night, United States women’s national soccer team star Hope Solo, 32, was arrested on two counts of domestic violence in Kirkland, Washington, and being held without bail. According to The Seattle Times, Solo allegedly struck her sister and her nephew during a family gathering at the home she shares with her husband, former Seattle Seahawks tight end Jerramy Stevens. According to Kirkland police Lt. Mike Murray, there were visible injuries on Solo’s sister and nephew. You may recall, this isn’t the first time that Solo has been involved in a domestic altercation. Back in 2012, Stevens was arrested for allegedly hitting Solo; they were married hours after his court appearance. The case was eventually dropped. [Bleacher Report]

This Is How A Domestic Violence Victim Falls Through The Cracks

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Berryville, Arkansas — Two days before she died, Laura Aceves stood on the side of the road and frantically dialed the police for the last time.

It was early afternoon and the 21-year-old had finished her shift at the Berryville Tyson Foods plant, where she worked on an assembly line deboning chicken. Moments after pulling out of the parking lot, her car broke down. At the nearest service station, a mechanic identified the problem: Someone had poured bleach in her gas tank. Read more on Huffington Post…

This Is How A Small Town In Arkansas Failed A Domestic Violence Victim

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  • My friend Melissa Jeltsen has a piece on The Huffington Post about how the local criminal justice system in Arkansas failed Laura Aceves, a 21-year-old woman who was murdered by her abusive ex-boyfriend. When she was killed, her ex had been out on bail for two prior attacks on Aceves, including aggravated assault; he had also repeatedly violated the no-contact order. The local sheriff is utterly unconcerned with the problem of domestic violence, telling Huffington Post that there should be more focus on “what’s wrong with the women.” Yes, really. [Huffington Post] Keep reading »

PurrVerse: I Don’t Need Male Protection, Thanks

PurrVerse: I Don't Need Male Protection, Thanks

Women are given mixed messages on a regular basis. We’re told that we’re shattering glass ceilings and are independent ladies, while at the same time we’re told we’re a mess barely keeping ourselves together. Just today I got a Facebook advert demanding my attention so I can discover the newest fad diet that doesn’t really work. I’m told I should love my body and loathe it on a regular basis. I’ve come to expect that kind of thing.

Recently The Washington Post cited a study by the Bureau of Justice purportedly telling women that we should stop taking so many lovers and instead marry our “baby daddy.” That choice of words speaks rather clearly about the fundamental racism and classism indicated within the article and the logic being displayed. We are not talking about wealthy white women here, are we? Keep reading »

The Washington Post Says Women Should Stop Slutting Around And Get Married If They Want To End Violence Against Women

Just a day after columnist George Will wrote about the “privileges” rape victims receive, The Washington Post has seemingly doubled down on the victim-blaming with an article in their (crowd-sourced but still edited) Post Everything section which says women would be safer from domestic violence if they got “hitched to their baby daddies.” Above, the original headline on the bullshit data-filled article written by two conservative (and male) university professors, which has since been altered to be sliiiiightly less loathsome (gone is the racially-charged phrase “baby daddies”). See, the “data” shows that by being around less men, women are less likely to encounter one who will hurt them (and their children), or something. And bonus! According to the two dipshits behind this awful piece, ”marriage also seems to cause men to behave better” so, you know, they’re less likely to beat their wives. I. CANNOT. WITH. THIS. [The Washington Post via Gawker]

18-Year-Old Girl In Pakistan Survives Attempted “Honor Killing”

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  • An 18-year-old girl in Pakistan survived an attempted “honor killing” for marrying the man she loved. Her father, brother, aunt and uncle shot her twice, stuffed her body in a sack, and dumped her body in a canal. Luckily, the victim was helped to safety by two passersby. However, recently a pregnant 25-year-old woman in Pakistan was murdered in an “honor killing” because she married a man of her own choosing. [New York Daily News]
  • R. Kelly’s 14-year-old teen son, Jay, has reportedly been outed as transgender. Not so surprisingly, some of the media coverage is pretty terrible. [ColorLines]
  • New Hampshire’s governor is expected to sign a bill that would mandate 25-foot “buffer zones” outside of reproductive health clinics to keep anti-abortion protesters from harassing staff and patients. [Boston.com] Keep reading »
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