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Why I Married My Abuser

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My ex-husband was the most romantic person I’ve ever met. He also hit me on the day we got married, while I was wearing my wedding dress.

That’s why when I saw the footage of ex-Baltimore Ravens player Ray Rice punching his then-fiancée Janay Palmer, I wasn’t surprised that she was now his wife. It isn’t — as many of the commenters on the original TMZ video have said — “all about the money,” or “she doesn’t care about taking a punch,” and it’s especially not that “she is telling all women it’s okay for your man to beat you.”

Domestic violence is so much more complicated than a lack of money, or not having self-respect, or feeling like it’s OK for your man to beat up on you. I’m not an expert on what makes women stay in abusive relationships or even marry their abuser. But I did both of these things and I can speak to my particular story. Keep reading »

“Fox & Friends” Hosts Joke About Ray Rice Beating His Fiancée, Don’t Apologize

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  • “Fox & Friends” host Brian Kilmeade joked yesterday that the message behind the brutal video released by TMZ depicting since-terminated Ravens player Ray Rice beating his then-fiancée Janay Rice was “take the stairs.” His co-host Steve Doocy quipped, “The message is, when you’re in a an elevator, there’s a camera.” On today’s show, Kilmeade addressed the response to their tasteless jokes, claiming the show takes domestic violence “seriously” … but did not actually apologize for cracking wise about violence against women. Typical! [Raw Story]
  • Broadway executives decided not to dim the lights for Joan Rivers, who died on Thursday, after they concluded that her career did not meet the criteria for this honor. Pfffffft. [New York Times] Keep reading »

TMZ Releases Video Of Ray Rice Punching Then-Fiancée Janay Palmer Out Cold [UPDATE]

UPDATE, 2:45p.m.: The Baltimore Ravens terminated their contract with Ray Rice today following the release of the video by TMZ.  According to ESPN, the Ravens had no other comment. [ESPN]  

  • TMZ released a video of Baltimore Ravens player Ray Rice punching his then-fiancée Janay Palmer out cold during an argument in an elevator. The video appears to have been shot by asecurity system in the Revel Hotel and Casino in New Jersey, where Rice attacked Palmer on February 15th. In the video, Rice is seen shoving or slapping Palmer against the wall of the elevator. She responds by lunging towards him, but Rice punches Palmer so hard she knocks her head on the side of the elevator and hits the ground. (What is perhaps most gut-wrenching is that Rice doesn’t look particularly shocked at what he just did.) When the elevator doors open, Rice drags her lifeless body from the elevator and she lies facedown on the floor. Within a few seconds, someone appears outside the elevator doors talking to Rice. Palmer eventually sits up, but appears to be in pain. The whole video — which resulted in a paltry two-game suspension for Rice back in July  — is extremely disturbing. But you know what? This is what domestic violence looks like, people. [TMZ] Keep reading »

NFL Institutes Six-Game Suspension For Domestic Violence

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The NFL has updated its personal conduct policy to suspend any player or personnel without pay for six games if he commits an act of domestic violence. If there is a second incident, he would be banned by the league or a year before he could petition for reinstatement. The policy applies to domestic violence, assault, battery and sexual assault. Both changes will be effective immediately. Keep reading »

ESPN’s Stephen A. Smith Apologizes For Remarks About Domestic Violence

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So, Stephen A. Smith had a bust weekend. The ESPN panelist kicked off Friday with some what-the-fuck-did-he-just-say? remarks about victims who “provoke” domestic violence and all Internet hell broke loose. On the show “First Take,” Smith and other panelists were discussing Ray Rice, an NFL player who physically assaulted his now-wife and has been suspended for two games. (By the way, the NFL is quite rightly being criticized for this slap on the wrist punishment — another player is currently being suspended for a full year for smoking pot.)  In seeming sympathy with abusers, Smith shared his opinion at two different points in the conversation that some DV can be provoked.

“Let’s make sure we don’t do anything to provoke wrong actions,” he said, adding later, “We … got to make sure [victims] can do your part to do whatever you can do to make, to try to make sure it doesn’t happen.” Keep reading »

ESPN’s Stephen A. Smith Suggests To Abused Women: “Let’s Make Sure We Don’t Do Anything To Provoke Wrong Actions”

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  • Hoo boy. So, on the ESPN program “First Take,” panelist Stephen A. Smith was discussing the suspension of NFL player Ray Rice for two games in the upcoming season. Rice faces jail-time for aggravated assault on his wife, Janay Rice. In discussing Rice’s suspension, Smith oh so helpfully turned it around on women, imploring “let’s make sure we don’t do anything to provoke wrong actions.” Smith also suggested, “We … got to make sure  [women] can do your part to do whatever you can to do make, to try to make sure it doesn’t happen.” Yeah, he actually went there with suggesting that potential victims could have just prevented what happened to them by not pissing their violent offender off! Anyway, today, in a huffy series of tweets in which he whined about getting called out by “Sports Nation”‘s Michelle Beadle, Smith complained that what he said was “misconstrued.” Then he repeats almost as many times as he did in his original speech that domestic violence is wrong wrong wrong. It’s bad enough to blame victims of violence. But then he has to try and twist his words as if he didn’t really mean what he actually said? I mean, if you’re going to be a shithead, at least stand by it. [Deadspin (1), Deadspin (2), SB Nation] Keep reading »
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