A wacky new study called “What’s Love Got To Do With It?” followed 2,500 couples who are married or have lived together for at least six years and discovered there are, gasp, lots of factors that lead to the success (or failure) of a relationship besides just falling in or out of love. For example — this is going to shock you — women who want babies much more than their husbands are more likely to divorce than women who marry men who want kids just as much as they do! People whose parents divorced are more than 50 percent more likely to divorce or separate than those whose parents stayed married. And people who are on their second or third marriage are 90 percent more likely to divorce than spouses who are both on their first marriages. One in five couples who have children before marriage, either from a previous relationship or their current one, will separate, compared to just one in ten couples who do not have children before getting married. Just one in ten? That figure seems to contradict the finding that a quarter of all relationships will end within six years and half within 25, but maybe I’m splitting hairs here. Age is another factor that determines the success of marriage — men who marry before 25 are twice as likely to get divorced as those who marry after turning 25, as are men who are more than nine years older than their wives. Stuff that doesn’t matter so much? A woman’s employment status, country of birth, religious background and education levels. [via Daily Mail]
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Paris, the city of l’amour, saw its first ever Divorce, Separation and Bereavement Fair over the weekend. Attendees learned about solutions for easing the pain of separation, including financial and legal counseling, life coaching, seduction tips, and cellulite removal methods (because that’s the first thing on the mind of a divorcée). They could even hire private detective agencies to discover their partners’ infidelities or hidden financial assets.
“To move on, people have to go through a process of grieving for their past life, for the hopes they had, for the image they had of themselves and of their relationship,” said event organizer Brigitte Gaumet to Reuters. One 46-year-old woman went to the fair looking for ways to cope with her difficult teens now that her divorce is finalized, but, instead, ended up booking a wardrobe makeover with an image consultant. She said she needed to boost her confidence. Here are some of the workshop titles: “How to bounce back,” “How to love yourself in order to bounce back,” and “The role of plastic surgery in reconquering one’s self-image.” I don’t think cosmetic surgery is necessary for building self-confidence, but it is interesting that newly single or soon-to-be single people could find this many resources under one roof. So, if this phenomenon of the divorce fair came to the States, could you see yourself attending? You know, if you were unfortunately (or not-so-unfortunately, depending on the circumstances) going through a separation. [Reuters] Keep reading »
No matter how old you are, it must suck to find out your parents are getting divorced. And it must suck even more for Radar Online to get a hold of your parents’ divorce papers, and reveal that part of the reason for said divorce is because your dad was arrested in a massage parlor in Utah, allegedly soliciting a prostitute. This is exactly what has just happened to “American Idol” season seven contestant David Archuleta. We feel terrible for him that this is now public knowledge. [Popeater]
It seems like we always get a little too much information when divorce papers get leaked. Here are a few of the dooziest. Keep reading »
Do you remember Tricia Walsh Smith, aka the “YouTube Wife”? Last year, she made a video rant (relive the glory, after the jump) about her husband that went viral, probably because she talked about their sexless marriage and called him out on his porn stashes. Tricia’s husband is the wealthy New York president of the Shubert Organization, Philip Smith, who hid a clause in her pre-nuptial agreement that stated he could give her a “notice of termination” and throw her out whenever he’d like. And that he did. Her video didn’t get Tricia any money in the divorce proceedings, but it caused the divorce judge to accuse her of orchestrating a “calculated and callous” campaign of harassment against her ex. Oops.
Well, Tricia is back, and now she’s made a frickin’ music video. The song sounds a bit like old Pet Shop Boys, and I’m psyched for the inevitable remixes. This is a preview of the musical she’s working on called “Incredibly Brilliant Play.” Someone get this woman an agent! Keep reading »
Stop the divorce presses! We’ve heard via Popeater that Jon Gosselin has had a change of heart and now no longer wants to divorce Kate, who just a few weeks ago he accused of verbally abusing him and said he “despised.” Jon’s lawyer has put in a request that the divorce be stalled for 90 days. “I regret my conduct since Kate and I separated…I used poor judgment in publicly socializing with other women so soon,” he’s supposedly told In Touch magazine. “[This time will] enable Kate and me to restore our relationship as cooperative parents and to open up our lines of communication…Even though we were heading for a divorce, it appeared that Kate had been suffering from this divorce as much as I had. That’s why I asked my attorney to put the brakes on this divorce so I could try to regain control over the future of our family. So Kate and I could join on a cooperative course that would benefit our family—not destroy it.”
I don’t know, buddy. The skeptic in me says that the media frenzy has died down and he got the word that TLC was changing the show’s name from “Jon & Kate Plus Eight” to “Kate Plus Eight,” and asked himself, “What can I do to stay in the spotlight? Begging for forgiveness could work.” [In Touch via Popeater] Keep reading »
London jewelry designer Gisèle Ganne has created a line of divorce jewelry, because people who are giddy with love shouldn’t be the only ones allowed to wear a nice-looking ring. “I use union and marriage symbols and subvert them to show the inevitability of the breakup, but also show that from these ashes may raise new life,” Ganne writes on her website. This, along with her reminder that 42 percent of U.K. marriages end in divorce, kind of depresses us. If breakups are inevitable, then what’s the point in starting a new relationship? But wearing her eerie jewelry, which Edgar Allan Poe would have appreciated, the next time we split up with someone could be a good consolation prize to go along with a broken heart. [Gisèle Ganne via Trendhunter] Keep reading »
We thought they’d last “Forever” after a viral video of a bride and groom dancing down the aisle hit YouTube. But, alas, a new video has surfaced with the couple in divorce court. Well, not really, but a production company wanted to continue the fun and choreographed a divorce parody version of the wedding original. Check it out. Keep reading »
One of the big bombshells my ex dropped the day he decided he needed a break was, “I don’t know that we’re in love anymore.” I didn’t buy it. I was in love and I was certain he was too. He was confused, he needed space, and I was going to give it to him, despite the fact that for many, his words would have been the final nail in the coffin. So I was fascinated to read Laura Munson’s “Modern Love” column in Sunday’s New York Times about her refusal to fight with her husband when he declared he no longer loved her. Keep reading »