Everyone has their own special way of trying to cope with a breakup. It’s a long, fruitless process of trying to find some way, any way to break the pain into manageable bites until it’s small enough to swallow. And naturally, each individual’s method is as unique as a snowflake. These little mechanisms we employ for ourselves may seem crazy to outsiders, but make perfect sense to us in our raw, recently broken up state. Say, for instance, deciding to time yourself each night, giving yourself a 4 minute limit to be sad about being dumped by a man you thought you were going to marry in your 20′s. This seemed like the only manageable solution to me at the time, but in retrospect, maybe it was odd. Who cares though, it worked eventually (although not in the mandatory 90 day time table I set forth). Keep reading »
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Clarity often comes like a bolt of lightning out of the blue. It’s a shock that opens your eyes to a whole new perspective. A client of mine called hers a miracle. Mine was like waking up — the kind where you sit straight up, instantly awake, and look around, not recognizing where you are, even though it’s the bedroom you’ve slept in for years.
My bolt of lightning struck after nine years of marriage. I was having a reunion lunch with a very dear friend of mine from college. We had gone our separate ways and hadn’t been in touch since well before either of us had gotten married. It was one of those long, catch-up conversations where we tried to cram in as much as possible about the last ten years of our lives. And then it happened. I saw myself through his eyes. It was the old me that he was seeing. The girl I used to be when I was single, who loved traveling, seeing bands, curled up in a corner reading, or staying up late into the night in deep conversation with friends. It was a shock because I hadn’t recognized her. Read more on Your Tango…
Employing the healing power of touch, masturbation/self-pleasuring during divorce and separation. Read more on Your Tango…
In this age of the Internet, people have some curiously wacky ways of getting over their breakups. Remember the guy who posted the Craigslisted about the mattress? What a way to call out your cheatin’ ex! Now, one business-savvy ex-spouse has thrown a pretty snazzy divorce yard sale to celebrate their split. How is it “snazzy,” you ask? Read more on The Stir…
Nearly forty-five percent of American marriages are projected to end in divorce. It’s sad, it’s unfortunate, but it’s true: failed marriages are a major theme in our current social age. In “A.C.O.D.,” Adam Scott stars as Carter, an A.C.O.D. himself, who must revisit the chaos and confusion of his parents’ bitter separation fifteen years prior when his younger brother decides to get married only to discover that his former therapist, played by Jane Lynch, wasn’t a therapist at all, but a researcher studying the effects of divorce on children … but what of the adult children of divorce, the product of the least-parented generation ever? Director Stuart Zicherman’s debut production also stars Richard Jenkins and Catherine O’Hara as Carter’s parents, Amy Poehler as his stepmother (Dad’s wife #3), and Jessica Alba as his love interest. The promising cast is just the beginning — the trailer in and of itself is at once funny and touching, realistic and poignant. A must see!
- Khloe Kardashian reportedly told Lamar Odom on their fourth anniversary that she would be filing for divorce. Guess she’s not going to stand by her man after all? After all the rumors of cheating and crack addiction, we can’t blame her. [Radar Online]
- The final coroner’s report in the death of “Glee” star Cory Monteith has been released and his death has been ruled an accidental overdose. According to the report, drug paraphernalia, “including a spoon with drug residue and a used hypodermic needle,” was found in the room. [Us Weekly]
- Arnold Schwarzenegger’s love child, who is now 16, inherited some huge-ass muscles. [US Weekly]
- Here’s Laura Carmichael from “Downton Abbey,” on Lady Edith’s evolution from jilted-at-the-altar dork to budding feminist journalist with a taste for married men. [Cosmopolitan]
- The New York Times‘ ombudswoman addressed that uncomfortable “Vows” column where the bride had accidentally killed a small child. [The Atlantic Wire]
- This letter from a grandpa to his daughter after she kicked his gay grandson out of the house is AMAZING. [Huffington Post] Keep reading »
If a woman has had an abortion, does that means she’s unfit for custody of her two children? That is what the lawyer for a high-powered investment banker appears to be arguing as she defends her client in family court.
Manuel (John) Mehos, a Houston banking bigwig, divorced Lisa Mehos after six years of marriage in October 2011. Now he has subpoenaed his ex-wife’s medical records and his lawyer wants her abortion to be used as evidence in a custody hearing. Lisa Mehos’ unplanned pregnancy was reportedly the result of a “one-time fling with a longtime friend”; she had the abortion over Easter weekend in 2012 while her mother babysat the kids and would not allow her ex-husband to watch them because it was Easter he was an “atheist.” John Mehos’ lawyer claims all this stuff about the abortion is pertinent because Lisa Mehos has said her ex-husband caused stress in her life, but the court should know she may also have been stressed by having an abortion.
Oh sure. I’m sure the stigma against women who terminate pregnancies — they’re selfish, they’re immoral, they’re slutty, they’re unfit mothers — has nothing to do with why this might come up in a custody hearing. Keep reading »
It all started with a cat.
I used to like cats. Or I didn’t totally despise them. They can be super cute when they act like dogs.
I stopped liking cats on my second date with Jerry* (as in Springer, as in the show he totally is going to be on someday). We had made pre-dinner, “hmm this sounds tasty” chit-chat, ordered some chicken fried rice and had finally moved on to serious second dates topics like favorite TV shows, embarrassing childhood stories and oh, how his fantasy is to have sex with lots of girls at one time. Also, we talked about cats.
“I used to live with a cat,” he told me in the most awkward way possible.
“Like … you had a cat as a roommate?” I asked, totally making fun of the way in which he phrased that statement.
“Well, it was actually my wife’s cat.” Keep reading »
By now you may have seen a video, which made the rounds on Monday, of a woman throwing a crazy-ass temper tantrum in the car while her husband films her flipping out. Jim Mongiat and his wife, Whitney Styles Mongiat, from Knoxville, Tennessee, were fighting because she wanted to spend the weekend at the lake, while he wanted to get chores done.
As Mongiat films away, Whitney screams, cries, kicks the seat and makes melodramatic over-the-top pronouncements. (Clips of it are in the Right This Minute segment above.) The video — which, Godwilling, is a hoax, although she seems to be a real nurse in Knoxville — is utterly appalling. And while I can’t believe an adult woman actually screams at her husband like this and flops her legs out the car window, I’m just as disgusted that he filmed a marital spat in which both of them are behaving like tremendous douchebags and posted it on the Internet assuming we would all “side” with him. Keep reading »
A wife committed an Oreo cookie crime so heinous, so unimaginable that her husband threatened to divorce her. The woman licked the creme-filled center out of an entire box of Double Stuffs and put the box back in cupboard, leaving only the less desirable cookie outsides. The Oreo offender posted the evidence of her crime and the her husband’s subsequent Post-It retaliation on Reddit with the caption: “Ate the cream from the oreo and put the cookies back in the bag — Woke up to find this note … I’m a monster.” Keep reading »