Growing up, I was occasionally threatened with “the belt,” or asked if I wanted a “patch on my tuchus” whenever I behaved extra naughty. But that’s all they were — threats. Instead, my parents sent me to my room, took away prized privileges, or assigned me extra chores. Now, with my own son, there aren’t even threats. There are other methods of discipline that are more than effective for us so I don’t need to hit, whip or spank my son in order to get him to behave.
I’ve never quite understood the idea of corporal punishment as a method of discipline. In my mind, discipline is used in order to shape good behavior while eliminating bad behavior. In the best case scenario, inflicting pain as punishment, especially when used on young children who may not quite understand what is going on, breeds fear and resentment. In the worst case scenario, it breeds the notion that physical violence is acceptable. In fact, studies have shown that the use of physical punishment actually increases violent behavior in children.
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I was spanked as a child, mostly for running away and for disobeying my parents. My brother got spanked for kneeing a classmate in the balls and trying to off me every couple months. I’m pretty well-adjusted, always did well in school despite my efforts to appear “punk rock,” and I certainly never thought ill of my parents for introducing me to the long arm of the law. I still meet people who I think could’ve benefited from a good (not sexy) spanking once in a while. And turns out, I’m right. A new study shows that children who are smacked by their parents might grow up to be happier and more successful than those who’ve never been hit. Children who are physically punished until the age of 6 perform better in school as teenagers and are more likely to do volunteer work and go to college. That said, those who got whipped into adolescence developed behavioral problems. [Times Online] Keep reading »
Betty Draper doesn’t take any crap. Well, until she booted Don out of the house last season, the “Mad Men” matron took a lot of crap from her two-timing husband. Rather, stay-at-home suburban mom Betty doesn’t take any crap from her two oldest children, Sally and Bobby, and that brand of maternalism would make her practically an endangered species in America today. In nearly every episode, Betty sternly barks: “No,” “Go upstairs and play,” or “Don’t touch that”—and the rugrats actually listen. Keep reading »
Janet Jackson released her 10th album, Discipline, on Tuesday, and while it has gotten some not-so-good reviews, Janet has staying power. She released her first record back in 1986, incited many grade-school girls to dance to “Rhythm Nation” or “Escapade” at a talent show, and forced us all get in touch with our sappy, emotional side when she breathed the lyrics to “Again.” Today, she’s back to looking amazing, rockin’ bod and all (we’re not so sure about the super streaky highlights or semi-wavy hair but LOVE her with bangs). Not only that, but Janet doesn’t mind making fun of herself to get a laugh. See her star in an mock episode of My Super Sweet 16 after the jump.
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