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Men Also Feel The Emotional Pain Of A Miscarriage

New research has dispelled the assumption that men don’t bond with an unborn child as much as women do and, therefore, don’t feel as depressed after a miscarriage. According to a study conducted in Hong Kong, men feel the same emotional pain as women, but are able to heal faster. Researchers followed 83 couples for one year after a miscarriage and found that 40 percent of the men suffered significant psychological distress immediately after the loss of their unborn child, but after a year, only five percent felt the same distress. Fifty-two percent of women, on the other hand, suffered significant psychological distress immediately after the miscarriage, and eight percent reported distress after a year. Men who had helped plan the pregnancy were more likely to experience high levels of depression after the miscarriage. So researchers conclude that the psychological impact of miscarriages is “less intense and enduring” for men, but since both sexes are distressed after the loss of pregnancy, help for the couple should be offered soon after the pregnancy loss. Are these findings surprising to you? Do you think a study of 83 couples is enough research to accurately come to these conclusions? [Reuters] Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend Dumped Me Because I’m Depressed”

I’m one year out of college and really struggling with anxiety. It recently got to a point where I would talk about suicide with my (now ex) boyfriend and my mother, and I felt I couldn’t function in daily life as far as doing my work or waking up at a decent hour. My boyfriend moved away for a new job, and told me he wanted us to break up for awhile until I got better. We were still talking on the phone, but I told him it was too hard for me — not knowing where we stood — to be talking and that we should just completely breakup. In my head he was still my boyfriend, and it was hard hearing him talk about us “not being together” that way. A few weeks before he left, when things were better, we’d talked about moving in together. Is it right, in a relationship, for one person to tell the other to sort of “go off and get better”? Aren’t you supposed to stick together through hard times? We had been together for about a year. Also, I’m seeing a therapist and working hard on improving and being positive about the future, but when we did talk about it he wasn’t very encouraging and didn’t seem to want to know what I was going through or whether I was feeling better. He’s been too busy settling into his new life, and it’s just been so hard. What should I do? — Left Behind

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How To Deal With Depression When You’re Trying To Get Pregnant

I try to divorce Michael at least once a month. I blame this on my PMDD (premenstrual dysphoric disorder, or what I like to call “PMS on crack”), though I’ve also been diagnosed with chronic depression and anxiety and, once, a psychopharmacologist told me I had obvious bipolar tendencies. Either way, I’m not the easiest person to live with (as if you didn’t already feel bad enough for my husband, due to my sexual issues). Sometimes, I fling my wedding band across the room, or lock myself into the bathroom, or scream myself raw. And once, I dumped a freshly-baked pan of cookies on top of his freshly-cleaned clothes and stomped up and down on them. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “I Can’t Climax On My Meds”

I’m a 25-year-old single woman with diagnosed clinical depression. I received this diagnosis about five years ago and have been on the same medication off and on since. It has many side effects, but one of the most frustrating is that it kills my ability to orgasm. I still have a healthy libido and enjoy sex, but the big finish just doesn’t happen. Obviously that’s a medical issue, not a relationship issue, but my question is: how do I handle this when I’m with a new guy? For most of the last five years I was in a long relationship, so he knew about it when I did. But now I’m interested in someone new and don’t know what to do. Should I fake it? I don’t want to mislead anyone but I worry that if I disclose the situation he won’t be interested in me. Maybe he’ll think, “What’s the fun in getting off with someone who can’t get off at all?” Also, I don’t necessarily want to discuss my illness with someone I’m only seeing casually. FYI: I’ve considered switching meds, but I don’t want to change something that works very well for me, and the medication I’m on actually has the lowest instance of sexual side effects of any on the market; I’m just part of the very unlucky 0 percent of the population. — No O

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I Have Depression

We tend to think of the concept of “pain” as something physical—something that involves blood, bruises or casts. But people with mental illnesses struggle with this entirely other debilitating concept of pain, one that literally saps the life out of them. I have struggled with depression, or unipolar depression. The National Institute of Health says major depression is when a person has five or more symptoms for at least two weeks. Symptoms include: fatigue or lack of energy; feelings of hopelessness or helplessness; feelings of worthlessness, self-hate or guilt; inactivity or withdrawal from activities that used to be pleasurable; trouble sleeping or sleeping too much; loss of appetite or dramatic gain in appetite; agitation; difficulty concentrating; and thoughts of death or suicide.

For me, depression has manifested itself in all these ways. Sometimes I can sleep for 12 hours straight and still want to spend the rest of the day in bed. Other times, I can’t sleep and seem to be living on my own anxiety-fueled adrenaline. The only common thread is feeling like a human being with all the joyful parts of humanity leeched out of her. Keep reading »

14 Things I’m Done Being Afraid Of

Years ago, I used to have this mantra: “The things you worry about usually don’t happen.” It was true. The fears never, ever materialized: I was never fired from a job; a roommate never kicked me out of my apartment; no one ever climbed up my fire escape in the middle of the night and broke in. Instead, of course, an entirely different set of bad things happened to me, stuff that I hadn’t anticipated or prepared for. And you know what? Everything turned out OK. More than OK, really: I love my job; I met my partner for life; I earn enough money to live on; and everyone I care about is healthy. I’m so OK it’s boring — and all the time I spent worrying about the now ex-bosses and ex-roommates seems, well, wasted. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: I Dated A Psychotherapist

If you had brain cancer, would you date a neurologist? Would you sleep with a chiropractor to ease your chronic back pain? Around my twentieth birthday, I was hit with a sudden onset of crippling depression and anxiety. After two years, several doctors and a veritable rainbow of colored mood-altering capsules, I still felt hopeless. With no cure in sight, I fell for a psychotherapist. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: I’m On Anti-Depressants

I was standing in front of a table lamp display in Crate & Barrel when I decided maybe I needed to be on psychiatric medicine. I had been alternating between staring at the display and wandering around the store helplessly for the last two and a half hours and was no closer to making a decision on what table lamp I was going to buy than I had been when I walked in. My heart was beating fast, my mind was racing, and I simply could not concentrate on making what should have been a very simple decision. I was thisclose to a full-blown panic attack. Instead, I walked out of the store, went home empty-handed, and told my therapist that Tuesday that I needed a referral for a psychiatrist. I seriously could not take this s**t anymore. Keep reading »

People Are Talking About Amanda Seyfried’s Pill-Popping

In the new issue of Esquire, Amanda Seyfried not only gabs about her new “spinach and seed”-eating diet, she also scandalously pops pills in front of the interviewer! A birth control pill and the anti-anxiety med Lexapro, that is. Here’s how it’s described in the story:

The anxiety rises in her as she speaks, and she cracks open her purse, shakes a Lexapro into her hand. She halves it, then pops a birth-control pill from its foil pack and swallows both. “Yeah, yeah, I’m anxious,” she says. “And yes, I use birth control.”

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Does The Internet Depress You?

Since you’re reading The Frisky right now, I hope that means you’re a fan of the site. But it may also mean you could be depressed. Researchers have discovered that the more time people spend on the internet, the more depressed they are. Yes, even if they happen to be spending their time on cool sites like this one. Researchers questioned 1,319 people, ages 16 to 51, and discovered a high correlation between amount of time spent online and depression. In fact, among what the researchers characterized as “internet addicts,” the “average depression score was more than five times higher than that of non-addicted users.” Keep reading »

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