Let’s say you’re dating a guy and things are going great with one small exception — he has a friend you absolutely can’t stand. There could be a multitude of reasons you don’t like this person; maybe he makes nasty sexist or racist or homophobic remarks all the time and being around him just makes you feel really uncomfortable. Maybe you can’t stand the way he leers at you when your boyfriend isn’t looking. Maybe he dated a dear friend of yours and treated her like crap. Maybe he treats your own significant other like crap, but for whatever reason, your boyfriend is willing to put up with it. Does that mean you should? Even if it means watching this guy talk down to your man, belittle him, and say offensive things? Are you obligated, as a dutiful girlfriend, to spend time with everyone your significant other hangs out with simply because you’re part of a couple? Keep reading »
OMG, you guys. Katy Perry and Russell Brand have hit a bit of a snafu in planning their wedding. According to “sources,” Katy wants to invite her ex, Travis McCoy of Gym Class Heroes, to the wedding. Russell is like, “Hell no, girl.” What to do?! Luckily, we investigated this important issue a few months ago, asking two women for their opinions on the subject. Katy and Russell. Take notes. Keep reading »
Dating, though full of ups and downs and highs and lows, is something that most of us do to find that special person who thinks you’re a lovely creature even after oral surgery, when your face is swollen and you’re drooling on the pillowcase every night for a week. When dating leads to marriage, some will enter into married life with a fair share of sexual experiences under their La Perla thongs. Maybe your love life looked something like this: a nerve-wracked first date, an optimistic second date, and a third date that began with telling your girlfriends, “I will not sleep with him,” and ended with you waking up next to a guy with a back mole that freaked you out, staring at the ceiling, thinking, “Why did I sleep with him?”
Despite the regret that comes from sleeping with various Mr. Wrongs, there’s a plus side to sowing your wild oats, like not wondering “shoulda, coulda, woulda.” On the flip side, there are plenty of ladies out there who save themselves for The One, resolute in the belief that anyone worth spending eternity with is worth waiting for until “I do.” Of course, there are those who, by nothing more than coincidence, end up marrying the first person they slept with. I posed the question to a group of both sexually active folks and those who waited for Mr. Right, and got some very thoughtful (and funny) responses. Keep reading »
It doesn’t matter whether you have a significant other or not, there’s no avoiding Valentine’s Day’s red roses, candy hearts, sexy lingerie, or cheesy cards (about one billion Valentine’s Day cards are sent each year, according to the Greeting Card Association). So we asked two writers whether they think the holiday is totally lame or super awesome, after the jump. Keep reading »
Watching the recently released Nancy Meyers flick “It’s Complicated” got me thinking: Wow, Meryl Streep has beautiful skin. It also got me thinking about the notion of a relationship reboot. Not to be confused with backsliding, where you ill-advisedly reconnect with a very recent ex after a breakup, the reboot presupposes that a goodly amount of time has passed, as it did in the movie when two middle-aged divorcees tried to give it another go after ten years apart. It’s no surprise that the relationship reboot has become a rom-com trope – it fulfills a fantasy that a lot of us have about the “what ifs” of relationships that have ended for one reason or another, and exploits hopeful ideas of personal growth and fate. There’s an undeniable allure and romance to reviving those lost loves, but does it work in practice? Or is it true that everything ends for a reason? Two women debate whether relationship redos are worth it or not.
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Having sex while Aunt Flo is in town is definitely a love it or hate it situation — friends and fellow bloggers Twanna Hines and Desiree Moodie were on opposite sides of the fence on the subject and asked to argue their viewpoints for The Frisky. Read both of their extremely convincing arguments after the jump (who knew there were so many benefits to period sex?!), then tell us what you think in the comments. Keep reading »
All manner of experts are asserting that the wheels have come off our already craptacular economy and no imminent signs of an upturn are apparent. Massive layoffs across all sectors are forcing even the most resourceful among us to tighten belts and come up with innovative ways to earn extra scratch. Which is why it’s not altogether shocking that in the midst of this fiscal catastrophe, there’s been a marked uptick in women signing on to donate eggs. At roughly $8,000 a throw, it certainly seems like a viable option for fertile ladies, and an act that was once relegated to cash-strapped college girls looking for ways to pay off their debt has spread to folks with more pedestrian monetary needs, like making rent. Keep reading »
No one will dispute the importance of good girlfriends – they support your delusional hopes of one day being Mrs. Sam Kass, listen to you vent about your idiot boss and evil ex, and assure you that you haven’t gained an ounce despite that steady diet of french fries you’ve been adhering to, as a coping mechanism for the aforementioned idiot boss and evil ex. But it goes without saying that no modern woman’s circle of friends is complete without at least one gay bestie. The unique bond between a straight woman and a gay man is a many splendored thing, one that’s inspired sonnets (not really), TV shows, books, and the true barometer of mainstream credibility, a possible incarnation as a Bravo reality show. A new study conducted by Nancy H. Bartlett of Mount Saint Vincent University in Canada (and covered in the December issue of Allure magazine) suggests that having a large contingent of gay male friends may actually be good for you.
With this in mind, we asked women we knew if they felt that gay men made better best friends than girls. Two women share their opposing views, after the jump … Keep reading »
This debate ran on The Frisky a year ago. Given the Tiger Woods controversy, we’ve decided to re-run it, so that the readers we’ve gained since can chime in.
We’ve all heard some variation on the maxim “once a cheater, always a cheater.” In my personal experience, the decision to heed or not to heed said aphorism seems directly related to just how sprung one is on the guy in question. But nine times out of ten, the truth will come out. And that truth generally involves a wandering eye.
I’m not the only one who thinks so. Relationship expert Dr. Gilda Carle, who’s written a book on the matter, How to Win When Your Mate Cheats, thinks that without the genuine desire to reform and a good therapist, a habitual cheater is doomed to repeat him- (or her-) self: “If they’re willing to put in the time and effort and acknowledge they have an issue, then there’s a chance they won’t cheat again. But if they think, ‘I can get away with this. My father was like this, my uncle was like this, all my buddies are this way,’ then you don’t have a shot in hell of reforming this guy. And no woman should try to reform a guy anyway because it’s a lost cause.” Of course, every relationship is different. Take a gander at two women who represent both sides of the debate, after the jump …
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Until you decide to settle down and start making babies, you’re probably doing whatever you can to prevent the formation of zygotes. If you’re in a serious, long-term relationship, this can be costly — a 24-pack of Durex Extra Sensitive Lubricated Condoms costs about $20, and, depending on factors like insurance and brand, a pack of birth control pills can cost between $5 and $50. Multiple that by 12 and you have enough to buy a pair of Christian Louboutins [Or two abortions! Kidding! -- Editor]. Unlike the pill, condoms are something that either person can pick up at the drugstore, so sharing that cost is a no-brainer. But if your protection of choice is the pill, should your boyfriend contribute to the cause? We asked a bunch of sexually active folks — both male and female — whether it’s appropriate for the guy to pay for part of the prescription. Keep reading »