Earlier this week, we asked a bunch of guys on our IM what they want and do not want to see on the bookshelves of the women they date. Their answers were interesting and varied (Hide your copy of The Notebook! Books about soccer are sexy!) and so we decided to turn the question, somewhat, around on ourselves: do we judge guys who either don’t read or by what they read? Our conflicting views are after the jump — plus, share your thoughts in the comments! Keep reading »
After watching the most recent episode of “Girls,” I came to a rather interesting conclusion. I think the world can safely be divided up into two types of people: 1) People who would laugh if their significant other peed on them (on purpose, as a surprise) in the shower and 2) people who would be mad if such a thing occurred. I am firmly in Camp Laugh Out Loud, along with Julie and Ami, while Winona and Jessica are in Camp Be Furious. (For those of you wondering where Option 3 — “would be turned on” — is, erotic golden showers are another subject entirely.)
Personally, I would laugh at the utter ridiculous ballsiness of such a prank. Plus, I’m not a germaphobe and even if I was, I figure urine is sterile and besides, I am in the shower cleaning already anyway. What’s NOT funny about that? Well, Hannah on “Girls” didn’t find it funny when new official boyfriend Adam pissed on her as a joke, but perhaps that’s because she’s young. Come to think of it, Jess and Winona are younger than Julie, Ami and I, so maybe appreciating a surprise golden shower for what it is — hilarious! — comes with age and maturity. Yes. That must be it.
Sunday night’s episode of “Mad Men” was a climactic one, and possibly the best episode of the season. Peggy, fed up with being taken for granted by Don, landed a new job at a rival firm and resigned by Sterling Cooper Draper Price. Meanwhile, SCDP’s deal with Jaguar seemingly hinges on Joan sleeping with an exec from the car manufacturer. That Pete dared to bring this proposal to Joan was loathsome. The other partners’ (save Don’s) begrudging support of pimping out one of their most loyal and hardworking employees was disgusting. Even Don’s plea to Joan that sleeping with the exec “wouldn’t be worth it” (which came, unbeknownst to him, just a little too late) was not without room for criticism — his primary motivation was likely his ego’s desire to land the deal on his own merit.
But what of Joan’s decision to sleep with the Jaguar exec in exchange for partnership in SCDP (with a five percent stake)? We got a glimpse at Joan’s current home life as a single mom (her husband, Greg, having filed for divorce last episode), living with her judgmental mother, and it was clear that it’s not an easy, comfortable one. Was Joan’s decision to use her sexuality in the most blatant of ways to get ahead (exchanging sex for money) ultimately a feminist decision? Or was the fact that she was clearly conflicted — and certainly not “enjoying it” — a sign that she was clearly disempowered, whether she came out better financially or not? Jessica and I both had really strong opinions on the subject, so we decided to talk it out over IM. Read our convo after the jump and then share your views in the comments! Keep reading »
In a recent Dear Prudence column, a woman wrote in, concerned about her fiancé’s aversion to her scent. She wrote:
“Last night, a bit too much wine prompted my fiancé to tell me a secret he’s been keeping for years: He thinks I smell bad. And that’s why our sex life has been on the decline. I know I do sweat more than some people, but I shower daily and always use deodorant. I can’t figure out if I am actually as bad as he says or if he just thinks I’m stinky because he is lucky enough to have totally odorless sweat. I am seriously considering calling off the wedding because of this.”
Prudence advises her to seek medical evaluation for her odor, adding, “If you feel your fiancé told you in a cruel or malicious way, or you think he is establishing the groundwork for breaking up with you, then you need to engage in a frank discussion about where your romance is headed.” Keep reading »
Jeggings, the love child of jeans and leggings, are a huge point of contention in the fashion world. Some people think they’re the best thing to happen to denim since the advent of the dark wash boot cut. Others find them more offensive than mom jeans, acid wash skinny jeans, and men’s jean shorts combined. Here are 10 arguments for jeggings, and 10 arguments against. Make your own informed decision and share your opinion in the comments! Keep reading »
In Dominique Browning’s New York Times piece “Alone Again, Naturally“, she explores why being alone after a divorce or breakup seems to be more unbearable for men than it is for women:
“Judging by statistics, to say nothing of the glaring evidence around me, men do not have any problem remarrying. In fact, most men seem unable to live alone for longer than, say, at the outside … three months.”
I had always assumed that it was the other way around, but reading her piece made me question whether or not my perception was a faulty gender stereotype. I decided to canvas some men I know and get their thoughts. Keep reading »
Every winter the Great Ugg Debate is reignited and the population splits into two groups: those who love Uggs, and those who think Uggs represent the downfall of civilization. Just in case you’re still on the fence, here are 10 arguments for Uggs and 10 arguments against — make your own informed decision, and let us know in the comments which side you’re on! [Full disclosure that might ruin my career: I own two pairs of Uggs and I wear them in public.] Keep reading »
Earlier this week, Forbes.com’s blogger Susannah Breslin — who used to be one of The Frisky’s own! — wrote a piece called “How to Get a Job If You’re a Twentysomething Woman,” after a reader named Frances asked her for advice on the topic. Susannah’s first bit of advice — and the one that has garnered a whole boatload of varied reactions — was “be attractive.” Keep reading »
On last night’s episode of “The Bachelorette,” the four remaining bachelors took Ashley home to meet their families. You can read all about the details of the episode in Kate’s recap, but the thing that stuck out most to me was the fact that each of the guys made sure to emphasize just how essential it was that their families approved of Ashley. And if they didn’t? Each dude seem to imply that not getting the thumbs up from mom, dad, and their siblings would make pursuing a more serious relationship impossible.
This was fascinating to me. There’s no doubt that having your parents like — and even love — your significant other is a wonderful thing, but I don’t know that it’s essential for me. Keep reading »
In a recent Slate article, bookstore employee, Emma Straub, talks about bookstores being a perfect setting to find true love:
“There are many reasons why bookstores are naturally romantic environments: the smell of paper, the soft lighting, the baseline understanding that those inside like to read, and are therefore probably not morons. Browsing customers often circle each other like timid sharks, the piles of books in their hands their only weapons.”
As a book-loving single woman, you’d think bookstores would be my ideal place to meet guys. Not even close. When I shared my own reasoning (which you can read, after the jump), with the Frisky staff, a lively debate ensued. Check out our editors’ respective camps after the jump. Tell us what you think in the comments. Are you pro or con bookstore romance? Keep reading »