Bye Felipe is an Instagram collection of Tinder creeps curated by Alexandra Tweten, an Los Angeles-based journalist inspired by her own bad experiences on Tinder. The difference between Bye Felipe (the name is inspired by the “Bye, Felicia” meme) and other blogs dedicated to exposing assholes on dating sites is the particular kind of asshole they expose: The guys who escalate and get angry reallllly fast if women reject them, don’t answer them, or simply exist, in some cases.
The Atlantic is calling this a “feminist” initiative. It pains me to think that asking men to be basically decent and polite is part of a non-mainstream political effort to erase the gender gap, because it seems like it should just be something that everyone does for the sake of doing it. But it’s women, not men, who are experiencing sexual harassment online — in dating apps less of the time and on social media more often. That gender difference means something about men’s attitudes toward sex and women, specifically that they feel entitled to sex and entitled to women. In that context, sexual rejection isn’t just a normal part of human interactions, it’s a denial of something they perceive to be rightfully theirs. Keep reading »
Sometime last week, I read a short little gossip item about how Adam Levine is apparently apologizing to all of his exes for his past behavior in advance of his upcoming wedding to Behati Prinsloo. I didn’t think much of it, because who really cares about Adam Levine outside of his adorably homoerotic relationship with fellow “Voice” judge Blake Shelton? But then I saw a teaser for a segment on a morning news show about how apologizing to your exes is a “trend” or something, so I did some Googling to see what Adam hath wrought. And lo and behold, according to The New York Post, NYMag.com and Fox News NY, going on an “ex apology tour” is a THING now. I’m not sure how I feel. Keep reading »
Global law firm Clifford Chance is under fire for distributing a five-page memo to female employees with specific dress code critiques and advice for how to conduct themselves professionally. Not surprisingly, the firm is now being criticized for a “sexist” focus on only their female employees.
I don’t disagree that a focus soley on the behavior and appearance of only female employees is sexist. Specific pieces of the advice are problematic.
But taken all together, is the advice Clifford Chance gave to its female employees wrong or bad? Nope. Keep reading »
I’ve written before about how much I appreciate people who go balls out on Halloween, and I even put together a slideshow of scary Halloween decoration ideas that included a doll in a blood-filled bathtub, but even so, something about these “decorative” fake dead bodies a man set up in his Oklahoma driveway kinda rubs me the wrong way. Maybe it’s because they are SO realistic, or because there’s no supernatural element to it (like zombies, ghosts, or demons), or that the police have been called to the scene by concerned neighbors. “Just trying to scare people,” says Johnnie Mullins, the mastermind behind the bloody decor, “that’s what I like to do.” The scene is definitely scary (hence the 911 calls), but the fear comes from a very realistic portrayal of violence and death. It’s also not in the context of a Halloween party or some other situation where you might expect the host to try to freak out their guests — anyone walking by will see these bodies. What do y’all think about this? Are these fake corpses brilliant or in bad taste? Sound off in the comments! [News 9]
In a move that is sure to cause ripples in some dark corner of the Internet hive mind, the A-list subscription service on OK Cupid includes a robust search function that lets you sort by body type and attractiveness rating. To those of you prepping your pitchforks and strapping on your combat boots to storm the castle, hold off. I know what this sounds like, but trust me, it’s not necessarily as bad as it seems.
This feature has been available for months, and it’s only now gained traction, but it’s just a recognition of the way human minds work. There is nothing worse than being on a date with someone who is clearly not interested in you, whether you are fat or thin or covered in scales. Life is short! If you find yourself sitting across the table from someone that’s too short or too tall or bald or you’re just simply not attracted to them, that’s just a free beer and a waste of time. Imagine the new heights of success your dating life could reach if you were able to sort out by what you knew you weren’t attracted to! Imagine not feel weirdly obligated to at least mouth kiss some dude that bought you a lot of drinks, despite the fact you’re not attracted to him. Keep reading »
I was absentmindedly flipping through the massive October issue of InStyle magazine over the weekend when I paused on a page in the “Beauty At Any Age” section. Titled, “Pucker Up! Secrets To Full, Smooth Lips,” the page included recommendations for skincare products and lip gloss for women of different ages. Pretty standard fashion magazine fodder. But down at the bottom of the page was something that wasn’t so standard: recommendations for plastic surgery procedures. “Lusting after lush, pillowy lips and a dramatically smoother smile?” the text read. “All it may take is a few quick shots.”
Say whaaaaaat?! Keep reading »