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Debate This: Is Apologizing To Your Exes Before You Tie The Knot Really Necessary (Or Just Really Self-Absorbed)?

Debate This: Is Apologizing To Your Exes Before You Tie The Knot Really Necessary (Or Just Really Self-Absorbed)?

Sometime last week, I read a short little gossip item about how Adam Levine is apparently apologizing to all of his exes for his past behavior in advance of his upcoming wedding to Behati Prinsloo. I didn’t think much of it, because who really cares about Adam Levine outside of his adorably homoerotic relationship with fellow “Voice” judge Blake Shelton? But then I saw a teaser for a segment on a morning news show about how apologizing to your exes is a “trend” or something, so I did some Googling to see what Adam hath wrought. And lo and behold, according to The New York Post, NYMag.com and Fox News NY, going on an “ex apology tour” is a THING now. I’m not sure how I feel. Keep reading »

Debate This: Is “Don’t Giggle” Really Terrible Advice For A Law Firm To Give Women?

Equal Work, Equal Pay
But not if you're an insurance agent or any of these other careers. Read More »
On The "Office Mom"
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The WSJ thinks offices have their own "moms." Read More »
"Seduce" the Boys' Club
Merrill Lynch Advises Female Employees To "Seduce" The Boys' Club
Merrill Lynch advises female employees to "seduce" the men. Read More »
Is “Don’t Giggle” Really Terrible Advice For A Law Firm To Give Women?

Global law firm Clifford Chance is under fire for distributing a five-page memo to female employees with specific dress code critiques and advice for how to conduct themselves professionally.  Not surprisingly, the firm is now being criticized for a “sexist” focus on only their female employees.

I don’t disagree that a focus soley on the behavior and appearance of only female employees is sexist. Specific pieces of the advice are problematic.

But taken all together, is the advice Clifford Chance gave to its female employees wrong or bad? Nope. Keep reading »

Debate This: Do These Gruesome Halloween Decorations Go Too Far?

Debate This: Do These Gruesome Halloween Decorations Go Too Far?

I’ve written before about how much I appreciate people who go balls out on Halloween, and I even put together a slideshow of scary Halloween decoration ideas that included a doll in a blood-filled bathtub, but even so, something about these “decorative” fake dead bodies a man set up in his Oklahoma driveway kinda rubs me the wrong way. Maybe it’s because they are SO realistic, or because there’s no supernatural element to it (like zombies, ghosts, or demons), or that the police have been called to the scene by concerned neighbors. “Just trying to scare people,” says Johnnie Mullins, the mastermind behind the bloody decor, “that’s what I like to do.” The scene is definitely scary (hence the 911 calls), but the fear comes from a very realistic portrayal of violence and death. It’s also not in the context of a Halloween party or some other situation where you might expect the host to try to freak out their guests — anyone walking by will see these bodies. What do y’all think about this? Are these fake corpses brilliant or in bad taste? Sound off in the comments! [News 9]

Debate This: You Can Filter Matches By Body Type On OKCupid — But Is That Such A Bad Thing?

Niche Dating Sites
16 Niche Dating Sites You Didn't Know You Needed
You can find a gluten free farmer with a mullet on one of these dating sites. Read More »
Online Dating Lies
The top 10 white lies people tell on their profiles. Read More »
Avoid Online Dating!
Finding love online is not for everyone. Read More »

In a move that is sure to cause ripples in some dark corner of the Internet hive mind, the A-list subscription service on OK Cupid includes a robust search function that lets you sort by body type and attractiveness rating. To those of you prepping your pitchforks and strapping on your combat boots to storm the castle, hold off. I know what this sounds like, but trust me, it’s not necessarily as bad as it seems.

This feature has been available for months, and it’s only now gained traction, but it’s just a recognition of the way human minds work. There is nothing worse than being on a date with someone who is clearly not interested in you, whether you are fat or thin or covered in scales. Life is short! If you find yourself sitting across the table from someone that’s too short or too tall or bald or you’re just simply not attracted to them, that’s just a free beer and a waste of time. Imagine the new heights of success your dating life could reach if you were able to sort out by what you knew you weren’t attracted to! Imagine not feel weirdly obligated to at least mouth kiss some dude that bought you a lot of drinks, despite the fact you’re not attracted to him. Keep reading »

Debate This: Do Plastic Surgery Tips Belong In Fashion Magazines?

Dear Dress...
It's not me, it's you. Read More »
How-To: Make Lipstick Last
How to keep your lip color looking fresh all day long. Read More »
Feminism and Fashion
feminist fashion
Self-expression can be a powerful thing. Read More »
Fashion People Are Awful
Even after a natural disaster. Read More »

I was absentmindedly flipping through the massive October issue of InStyle magazine over the weekend when I paused on a page in the “Beauty At Any Age” section. Titled, “Pucker Up! Secrets To Full, Smooth Lips,” the page included recommendations for skincare products and lip gloss for women of different ages. Pretty standard fashion magazine fodder. But down at the bottom of the page was something that wasn’t so standard: recommendations for plastic surgery procedures. “Lusting after lush, pillowy lips and a dramatically smoother smile?” the text read. “All it may take is a few quick shots.”

Say whaaaaaat?! Keep reading »

Debate This: Are You Bothered By This AT&T 9/11 Twitter Post?

Debate This: Are You Bothered By This AT&T 9/11 Twitter Post?

Today is the 12th anniversary of the attacks on the World Trade Center and Pentagon on September 11, 2001. AT&T posted this advertisement, featuring a hand holding a smartphone with an image of the memorial lights for the Twin Towers against the NYC horizon, to their Twitter page, writing, “Never Forget.” Hmm, using a national tragedy to essentially advertise your products/services? Crappy business move, in my opinion. What do you guys think? Tacky, tasteless and offensive, or is this no biggie? [Twitter]

Debate This: Should Mothers And Daughters Be Best Friends?

8 Types Of Mothers
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We all agree that it’s lovely when mothers and daughters can maintain a close relationship, but we disagree when it comes to how close it should be — both as girls and adult women. There are some mothers and daughters who proudly call themselves “best friends,” others who always stay within their “parent” and “child” roles, and some mother/daughter relationships are so complicated they can’t even be labeled. Hey, whatever works for you! After the jump, we asked some women to share their thoughts about being best friends with mom: is it a heartwarming bond or just a major lack of boundaries? Weigh in with your opinion in the comments! Keep reading »

The Debate I Never Knew I’d Have: Oral Sex Vs. Cheese

Sex For Salad?
No way! Here are some things we would actually give up sex for. Read More »
I'm Dating A Cheeseman
The pros and cons of dating a cheesemonger. Read More »
Oral Sex Fails
Oral Sex Fails
Yes, there are actually ways you can do it wrong. Read More »

Columbia University’s blog, Bwog, makes it a tradition to ask graduating seniors if they’d rather give up cheese or oral sex. I don’t know why this is a question of interest, but it is. I chuckled as I read the headline, thinking to myself, Who in the world would choose cheese over oral sex? 

Apparently, 42 percent of graduating seniors from 2006 to 2013 prefer cheese. An anonymous senior with the handle “Fromage 13″ did a breakdown of the archives of oral vs. cheese responses and found that the Columbia student body had a predominantly “fromage-centric attitude.” I laughed again. Pshaw, those silly kids must not be doing it right.  Keep reading »

Debate This: Grandfather Posts Picture Of Himself With Grandaughter In Bath Tub — Inappropriate Or Not?

Calorie Mom
What calorie-obsessed Vogue diet mom ignores in her memoir. Read More »
Jada On Willow's Body
Jada defends Willows right to ownership over her own body. Read More »
On Attachment Parenting
One woman's opinion about attachment parenting. Read More »
bishop trotter bathtub photo

A mini-explosion occurred on the Internet this week when Bishop Larry Trotter, pastor of a Chicago mega-church, posted a picture of himself in the bathtub with his four-year-old granddaughter. Trotter sat in the tub smiling beside the little girl, whose face has been blurred out; both are covered in bubbles, so it’s impossible to tell whether he or she is naked (or wearing swimwear, or otherwise clothed).

Quite understandably, people got very concerned. Keep reading »

Debate This: Should Taxpayers Be Funding Sex Reassignment Surgery For Transgender People In Prison?

Inmate's Surgery Approved
Michelle Kosilek will transition from male-to-female on taxpayers' dime. Read More »
My Transition Story
What it's like to transition from female to male. Read More »
Transphobia
FHM magazine called Andrej Pejic a "thing." Read More »

Local news in my adopted state of Massachusetts is all abuzz lately with controversy over prisoner Michelle Kosilek, currently incarcerated for the 1990 murder of her spouse, and who has, after years of legal struggles, been awarded a court order mandating that she receive the surgery she so desperately needs, on the taxpayers’ dime.

The catch — and of course there’s a catch — is that Michelle Kosilek is transgender, and the court-ordered surgery is sex reassignment surgery. She was convicted of murdering her wife by strangling her with a wire (and, apparently, nearly decapitating her in the process), when her name was Robert Kosilek, and is now serving a life sentence for that crime. Kosilek began transitioning the same year as the murder, and has brought numerous lawsuits fighting for her right to trans-specific medical care, from hormone therapy to electrolysis treatments.  Keep reading »

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