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Dear Wendy: “I’m Moving In, But He Has A Bikini Poster In His Bedroom”

This weekend is an all “Shortcuts” weekend for Dear Wendy. For every question, I’ll give my advice in two sentences or less, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss moving in with a guy who has a bikini poster in his bedroom, how long is too long to wait for someone, moving for love, and dating a liar. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “How Do I Tell Him He’s Too Fat To Date?”

This weekend is an all “Shortcuts” weekend for Dear Wendy. For every question, I’ll give my advice in two sentences or less, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss dating a fat guy, balancing friends, work and relationships, meeting the family, and dealing with a boyfriend who constantly brags about being hit on. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend Refuses To Pay For Our Dates”

I recently started dating my best guy friend at school. We’ve had feelings for each other for months, have been together for about two months now, and are very much in love. I only have one qualm in the relationship, and I’m not even sure I have the right to have it. I’ve been raised with a more traditional view of dating, where the guy pays for dates and sort of “woos” the girl — at least in the beginning. All of the other guys I’ve dated have subscribed to this, and I feel pressure from my family and friends to be in a relationship with these roles. While I’m okay with the guy not paying for everything, I feel like at the beginning of the relationship, at least, the guy should take the girl on dates. But my boyfriend strongly disagrees with this point of view, and whenever we go out, we split everything. I’m okay with this being the norm eventually, but it sort of feels like how we used to go out to dinner and do things when we were just friends. It’s not about me not wanting to spend money; it’s more of a respect/chivalry/tradition thing that I want. Does it seem entitled or wrong that I think maybe he should be taking me out on dates? He’s explicitly expressed his point of view, but I haven’t had the guts to tell him I disagree. Should I bring it up? How could I approach it? — Traditionalist

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Dear Wendy Updates: “Ego Pumper” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from Ego Pumper, who was dating a longtime friend who happened to be shy with women. She went on three dates with him, without so much as holding hands, and he refused to ever call her, saying, “he only talks to his mother and grandmother on the phone and he didn’t want to put a girlfriend in the same category as them.” The final straw came when he sent Ego Pumper a late-night drunken text, which infuriated her. I suggested maybe she overreacted to the text and perhaps she should either make a move on him, or accept that they aren’t a good match and move on. So, did she put the moves on him? Are they still together? Is he still sending her late-night drunken texts? Find out after the jump. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “My Maid Of Honor Is Blowing Off My Bachelorette Party”

I grew up and went to school on the east coast but now live in California. I recently got engaged and was thrilled to ask my best friend from college, who now lives in Maryland, to be my maid of honor. Because all my bridesmaids are scattered across the U.S. and the majority of my bridesmaids are on the east coast, I decided to have my bachelorette party in NYC (where one of my bridesmaids lives) over Labor Day weekend so that they wouldn’t be burdened to fly out to California. My sister from California and I booked our tickets back in June. Recently, my MOH emailed me to tell me that she doesn’t think she can make it because she’s breastfeeding her newborn and doesn’t think it would be a good idea to stay overnight in NYC. While I understand her situation, it really bothered me that she is just coming to me now. I don’t think that I could — nor do I want— to plan my own bachelorette party and I really don’t want to burden the other girls with that. Her backing out of the party = no party because no one else has planned anything. I tried to talk to her about how I was feeling and I got the impression that she thought this was beneath her because she was a “new mom” with “more important things” to worry about. I’m really saddened by the entire thing and wonder if I should still keep her as a maid of honor. What do you think? — Sad Bride

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Dear Wendy: “I Had A Threesome And Got Knocked Up”

I’m 25 years old and just found out that I’m pregnant … after having a threesome with an old fling and his roommate one drunken night. People don’t know about this secret sexual life I lead, and it’s truly going to rock the world of my conservative family. I’m against abortion and at a loss for how to handle this. How the hell am I supposed to tell my mother why I don’t know who the father is? Do I tell the guys? Could I keep this baby and have to explain that I need a paternity test to figure it all out? I know I got myself into this mess and I fully take responsibility. I’m just in need of some guidance on how to tackle it. I want what’s best for the baby. — Three’s a Crowd

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