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Dear Wendy Updates: Fat Guy’s Girlfriend Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from Fat Guy’s Girlfriend, a woman whose boyfriend quickly gained 20 pounds shortly after they started dating. She said that while there was no way she’d break up with him because of the weight, she was becoming less attracted to him and worried about what might happen if they married since he’d already let himself go so much (she suspected a proposal was on the horizon). So, did she ever broach the subject of his weight gain with her boyfriend? Are they still together? Is he still overweight? Find out after the jump. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “I Want To Skip My BFF’s Wedding”

My best friend in the whole wide world has been away for about two years, and now she’s back and in love with a guy from her childhood and getting hitched. I barely know the guy, but I don’t have a good feeling about him, and worse, she “changes” for him. Meaning her values may have changed as a result of his influence. I’m uncomfortable with the whole thing because I feel like she’s rushing into it. She’s never lived with the guy, and they’ve only been dating long-distance for six months or so. I’m finding it difficult to be genuinely happy for her, and what’s worse, I feel super guilty about it. Correct that: I AM happy for her, but I still need some time to get used to the idea. But I don’t have time: the wedding is set for October, and she’s assuming I’ll be in it. Already, I feel overwhelmed. I thought the wedding would be at least a year away; in fact, she assured me it would. The fact that I just found out that the wedding going to be alcohol free is making things worse. Yikes. How am I going to get through it? Is there any way I can get out of it without destroying our friendship? Moreover, am I a bad friend for not acting thrilled about the whole thing and jumping in head first to support her? We’re like sisters, and now I just feel terrible. — Losing Sleep in LIC

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Dear Wendy: “My Fiancé Always Wants Threesomes”

It’s time again for “Shortcuts,” wherein I answer readers’ letters in two sentences or less. Sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss manipulative men (the first letter is a doozy, my friends), living under parents’ rules, and one-night stands. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “He Wants To Wait Until Marriage, But I Don’t!”

I’m almost 20, and I have been dating my current boyfriend, who’s 21, for almost a year now, and even though it hasn’t been that long, I feel like he is “the one.” Before him, I was never able to stick around in a relationship for more than a month, and any talk of anything even remotely related to the future would send me running off. But imagining a life with him is one of the easiest things, and he’s told me he can see himself marrying me, having kids, and retiring and spending the rest of our lives together. Everything’s perfect except he’s a faithful Christian and wants to wait until marriage for actual penetration, although he’s fine with everything else, including oral sex. And the problem is, I’ve always told myself that I would not wait until then. This isn’t a matter of whether or not I love him enough to stay with him, to wait for him — I simply cannot imagine entering a marriage without knowing if I am compatible in that sense, because I know that I don’t want to get a divorce. I probably would not be able to live with myself if I managed to persuade him, especially if he regretted it afterward, but I also cannot imagine us having a life together if I don’t know that we’re sexually compatible. What should I do? — Lose-Lose Situation

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Dear Wendy Updates: Newly Single Responds

In a new(ish) feature called “Dear Wendy Updates,” people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from Newly Single, a woman who had just met a man in an open relationship after ending things with a long-term boyfriend. His situation appealed to her on one hand because she wasn’t looking to jump into anything serious so soon, but she also worried about potentially falling for him and getting tangled up in a messy love triangle. Find out after the jump whether she pursued the guy in the open relationship and how she’s doing today. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “Am I Just Being Crazy Jealous?”

I’m 25 and my husband is 23 and we have been married nine months, known each other for nearly five years, and dated for two before we got married. In the whole time I’ve known him, he has never done anything to make me not trust him: no weird texts and not a single white lie; I have never found anything he was hiding. But lately, I have been feeling a little uneasy about a girl he works with. He used to hang out with a certain group of people at work and then this new girl came into the group. She got transferred into a different department and now he wants to get into that department, too. She is going to an event this weekend — an event I used to go to every year and that my husband, in the five years I’ve known him, had no interest in at all — but now he wants to know “if I want to go.” One day I stayed home from work and we made plans to go to lunch, but he decided that, instead, we were going with the work friends, including her, and I got angry after I realized we weren’t doing what we had planned. He turned the car around halfway to lunch with his friends and brought me back home and left me there a crying mess, letting me know, “I was just being a bitch and he wasn’t going to let me just have my way.” Am I just being crazy, jealous and insecure? The nagging feeling won’t go away. — Nervous Newlywed

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