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Dear Wendy: “My Booty Call Got Me Pregnant”

I have been (VERY) casually dating this guy since March. I met him at a bar and started to hang out every week or so — nothing too serious. I work all the damn time and I really don’t want a relationship, so this has been fun, plus the sex is really amazing. Anyway, I felt something was up with my body and I missed my period two weeks ago, so I decided to take a pregnancy test. I took two and both turned out positive. He’s the only person who could have gotten me pregnant. I’m going to get an abortion, no doubt. I know I’m going to call him and ask him to come over and tell him, but what if he freaks out? Or what if he’s against abortion? This talk is truly terrifying in my eyes. How do I approach him without scaring him? — Pregnant and Terrified

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Dear Wendy Updates: Married Man’s Girlfriend Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from Married Man’s Girlfriend who had been dating a man for six months who was separated from his wife but still very entangled in a relationship with her and unwilling to move forward in filing for a divorce. She wondered if, after six months, it was too soon to ask him what was up with that. I told her it wasn’t too soon to have that conversation on the first date and if her guy couldn’t give a concrete answer as to why he hasn’t begun taking steps to legally separate from his wife, she should quit dating him until he is emotionally available for a new relationship. So, did she ever talk to him? Has he legally separated from his wife yet? Is the letter writer still with him? Find out after the jump. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “My 31-Year-Old Boyfriend Still Lives At Home”

Wendy is on vacation, so we’ll be posting some of her more popular past Dear Wendy columns (that some of you may have missed!) to get you through the week.

My boyfriend is 31 and still lives at home. While this is not a dealbreaker at the moment, I worry that it will become one in the future. I know that he has moved out before, but I do not know why he moved back home. For a while, I believe it was because he was helping to take care of his sick grandmother. His grandmother passed away a year ago, so I don’t know what the reason is now. He has a steady, well-paying job and a life outside of home, so I know he can afford to move out of the house. In our near two years of dating, he expressed once that he needs to move out, but I have not heard about it since.

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Dear Wendy: “Now That I Have A New Boyfriend My Ex Won’t Leave Me Alone”

Wendy is on vacation, so we’ll be posting some of her more popular past Dear Wendy columns (that some of you may have missed!) to get you through the week.

I dated a guy back in 2006 and part of 2007 who eventually broke up with me. I was upset at the time but then moved to another city so I could move on with my life. Well, I have moved on with my life; I am currently dating a man I care about deeply. My current boyfriend and I have been together since late December 2009 and official since January. Since I started dating him, the old boyfriend has been occasionally sending me texts, writing on my Facebook, calling my phone and when I don’t pick up, leaving voice mails that send the message he’s desperate to talk to me. I feel it is clear the old boyfriend has feelings for me — there was one phone call where in one sentence he used every old inside joke we ever had. I am exceedingly content in the relationship I have with my boyfriend now and have no plans to wreck it. I have no ill feelings towards the old boyfriend; in my mind, he is something of what now feels like a past life. However, my current boyfriend is upset and angry that the old ex keeps trying to get in touch with me. I have no desire to create unnecessary drama and just want a peaceful life. How might I best handle the situation with no animosity directed at me as a result? — Happier Now

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Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend’s Moving Out. Can Our Relationship Survive?”

Wendy is on vacation, so we’ll be posting some of her more popular past Dear Wendy columns (that some of you may have missed!) to get you through the week.

I’m 28, my boyfriend is about to be 27, and we’ll be celebrating our 5 year anniversary in a few months. We’ve been living together for about three years now and about a year ago I started bringing up buying a house, marriage and kids. I am not in a huge hurry to start a family, but I want to make sure my man wants to move in the same direction I do. I can never get a real answer from him about this. He always shrugs at me and says, “I’m not ready and I don’t know what I want yet, but I know I love you and want to be with you.” Soon after I broached these topics, my boyfriend got VERY mopey and down about his life. It has been very hard on the relationship, but I have been understanding because he finally started to go to counseling. I thought things would start getting better, but he dropped a bomb the night before last. He says he wants to get his own place so he can “find himself.” BUT, he says he does not want to break up with me and expects that things won’t change.

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Dear Wendy: “What’s The Kindest Way To Break Up With Six Men?”

Wendy is on vacation, so we’ll be posting some of her more popular past Dear Wendy columns (that some of you may have missed!) to get you through the week.

I’ve recently started dating in a normal, orderly way like other people date; formerly, I have only had long-term relationships which just sort of happened, no dates required. I’ve gone on dates with many men, with the goal of getting to know each of them before I choose to make a more serious commitment to any particular one. The problem is that they all seem to be really, really into me. As in, they want to bring me home to meet their parents. They call me pet names, they call me every day, my ears get sore from staying on the phone all night. They wonder what our babies would look like. It’s too much. And, just for the reference, these are all men I have known for less than one month, some I have not even kissed.

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