Posts tagged "dealbreaker"

Dealbreaker: The Thief

As a broke, 27-year-old graduate student slowly recovering from a messy break up, I posted a profile on OkCupid in hopes of meeting a guy who did his own laundry and didn’t kill animals. Despite my Baptist parents’ and grandparents’ longstanding encouragement to find a God-fearing gentleman, my standard was slightly lower. A man who…
By: Mary Adkins / May 17, 2011

Dealbreaker: He Doesn’t Believe In Global Warming

I should have known the relationship was doomed the moment he brought up his all-consuming hobby: race car driving. I spent an entire summer in the sticks of Ohio and Pennsylvania, feeling like an idiot as my then-boyfriend Sam, his dad, and a friend worked on the car, which was black and blue with a…
By: Marisa R. Cordova / April 22, 2011

Dealbreaker: The Dirty Talker

After a slew of flings that consisted of more games than the World Cup, I was practically in heaven when I met Jake – an intelligent, successful, Southern gentleman who eerily resembled New York Mets heartthrob David Wright.
By: Brittny Drye / April 18, 2011

Dealbreaker: He Made Me Mail My Half Of The Bill

I met Donny* for a drink at 6 p.m. on a Sunday. When I walked into the deserted restaurant, soaked from the downpour outside, I didn’t know he was destined to become the pettiest, stingiest and most pitiable man I’ve ever gone out with.
By: Christiana Yiallourides / March 16, 2011

Dear Wendy: “I’m Stressed That My Boyfriend Smokes Pot”

I met a wonderful guy a little over a year ago and we started dating casually and taking things very slow. During that time I discovered that he occasionally smokes pot. I didn't catch him doing it nor have I ever seen any paraphernalia anywhere — I just heard some stories through a mutual friend.
By: Wendy Atterberry / January 4, 2011

Did Michael C. Hall & Jennifer Carpenter Split Because He Changed His Mind About Having Kids?

I gotta say, even though I'm rarely surprised when a celebrity couple splits, I was pretty shocked when "Dexter"'s Michael C. Hall and Jennifer Carpenter announced they were divorcing. They'd only been married a couple years! They weathered through his battle with cancer! Surely they had the stuff that makes relationships survive? Apparently not.
By: Amelia McDonell-Parry / January 4, 2011

Dealbreaker: The Obnoxious Social Media Oversharer

Newly returned to New York after a two-year sojourn abroad, I was eager to make friends (or more than friends), so I turned to my Facebook, FourSquare, Twitter, Tumblr, and OkCupid accounts. At some point, social media savvy became a legitimate dating skill and I was ready to showcase mine to the…
By: Youyoung Lee / December 7, 2010

Dealbreaker: He’s Saving Himself For Marriage

I sat at the airport, waiting to board Virgin Airlines flight 451 traveling non-stop to my sunny destination ... to a friend's wedding. I exhaled. It had been too long since I had been on a real vacation. All my vacation days seem to be designated to other people's weddings. In the terminal, I replayed…
By: Josephine Ledger / November 3, 2010

Dealbreaker: Drunk On A First Date

I should have known better than to meet handsome Dan at one of the seediest bars in Brooklyn, but looking into those baby blues that were a good four or five inches above mine, I couldn't help but feel weak in the knees. He took my number and after a few texts we decided o…
By: Jessica Mahler / September 3, 2010

Dealbreaker: The Checkbook Balancer

I was in my early 20s, living in New York City and barely scraping by. Even though I was making ends meet by some combination of waiting tables/temping/focus groups, I still always had enough money to pay my rent and indulge in highly caloric, fruity martinis. Before I was on my own, my father instilled…
By: Margot Leitman Curry / August 30, 2010

Dealbreaker: The “Rate Me” Guy

The first fire-red flag with Jack should have come across loud and clear when he asked me -- in our very first email exchange – to “rate” his online dating profile picture. This is Match.com, I thought, not one of those sort-of-creepy hot-or-not sites. I wanted a guy to take me out for dinner, a…
By: Anonymous / August 27, 2010

I Can’t Be With Someone Who …

Over on Twitter right now, one of the trending topics is #Icantbewithsomeone, and people are giving all sorts of funny, honest and, of course, offensive, reasons why they couldn't be with a particular person. It got me thinking about what would keep me from being with someone. Sure, I'm married and not looking for a…
By: Wendy Atterberry / August 5, 2010

Dealbreaker: He Told Me to Lose Weight

Dan had a big grin in his profile picture, like he’d just said something super funny. He liked foreign novels, old buildings, and could spell in complete words. He looked like a cute professor. Could this be … my guy? I’d been online dating for a few months – long enough. There were the guy…
By: Anna Sofia Martin / July 21, 2010

What’s Your Dealbreaker?

I've written about a few dating dealbreakers I've encountered -- the virgin; bad sex; the dumb guy -- and my friends and Frisky commenters are always quick to jump in with their own list of turnoffs that will make a guy undateable. We hate their below-the-belt grooming (or lack thereof), their…
By: Diana Vilibert / May 24, 2010

Dealbreaker: The Guy Who Just Wants Sex

Have you ever scooped a red jellybean out of a bowl, expecting it to be sweet and cherry-flavored and instead you've shocked your tongue with a hot cinnamon surprise? Whenever this happens to me, I feel sort of betrayed – expecting something and getting something drastically different in its place. And sure, it’s one thing…
By: Natalie Krinsky / May 5, 2010

Dealbreaker: He Was Dr. Jekyll & Mr. Hyde

Chris brought me flowers every week. Chris wined and dined me and took me on spontaneous romantic getaways. Chris called when he said he would, made plans in advance, opened doors, and held hands. But when he wasn't doing all of those things, Chris was also kind of an a**hole. There is a moment i…
By: Dorothy Pontellier / April 27, 2010

Dealbreaker: He Said I Needed Grooming

Tobey* was the perfect guy to date right after my divorce. He was cute, fun, and had a body like a gymnast. He was younger than I was, but not too young. He liked the same things I did: eating good food, going to the movies, and strolling around Manhattan. He was a great kisser…
By: Angela Tung / April 8, 2010

Dealbreaker: The Moralizer

James was the boyfriend who did everything right. He asked me out first, and asked me out again the very next day. He didn’t play games. He called if he’d be late, if he missed me, just to say hello. He listened patiently. He dressed well. He told me I was beautiful whether I wa…
By: Lindsay Allen / March 22, 2010

Dealbreaker: The Loveless Man

If you saw Derek* and me on the streets of New York, you might have thought we were a normal couple. You might have seen us sipping cocktails at a bar with our hands intertwined, lip-locked on the sidewalk. We might have been gazing into each other’s eyes so intently that we didn’t notice you…
By: Ami Angelowicz / February 1, 2010

Dealbreaker: He Hated My Clothes

I am newly single (again). After a fun, but exhausting, up-and-down five months, my boyfriend-ish-person and I broke up this week. I'm sad about it -- I really did fall for him and had so much fun with him. But I'm also a little relieved. The drama was wearing thin. Plus, he hated my clothes.
By: Amelia McDonell-Parry / January 29, 2010