Posts tagged "dealbreaker"

Dealbreaker: He Wore Three Condoms

I am a woman 33 years of age who practices safe sex. But it wasn’t always that way. As a woman of 19, 20 and 21, I was in no uncertain terms an idiot where safe sex was concerned. Sometimes I forced a guy to wear a condom, sometimes I didn’t. But that all changed…
By: Sara Barron / September 24, 2012

Dealbreaker: I Got The Runs

I met Cute Train Guy en route back to New York just after Thanksgiving. (I’m nothing if not completely uncreative with my nicknames.) With the annual tradition of overcrowding and delays, Thanksgiving travel gives me major agita. So, that evening I was relieved to secure a window seat on the Amtrak train and beyond pleased when a…
By: Selena Coppock / August 30, 2012

Dealbreaker: His Ex Had A Restraining Order Against Him

When I was in college, I was obsessed with this one guy. OB-SESSED.  He had a girlfriend, but he was just so dreamy, and I had concocted this fantasy that he would break up with her and be with me.  (Shut up. I was 18.)  I was messed up in the head over this fool for the longest…
By: Jessica Wakeman / August 13, 2012

Dealbreaker: He Talked Smack About My Hometown

Like Brigham’s Ice Cream, Dunkin’ Donuts, and Neco Wafers, I hail from Boston.  I am a proud native of Kickassachusetts and I will defend my hometown as though it’s my somewhat slutty younger sister--I can see her issues, but I will have her back to the death. Right after college, I moved to Chicago and…
By: Selena Coppock / August 10, 2012

Dealbreaker: I Didn’t Like Who I Was When I Was With Him

When I started dating Tim, I thought he was interesting and creative, but I hated the fact that he smoked, and his apartment was always a mess. Nevertheless, we had fun on our dates and he was really attractive, so I continued to see him and figured I would play it by ear (hey, we’ve…
By: Caitlin Abber / August 6, 2012

Dealbreaker: He Wanted Me To Be His Pimp

On occasion, I get mildly – just mildly – depressed. That sort of depressed where you can’t quite pin it on one particular thing, where it’s more a general, ambiguous malaise. On the occasions when I find myself feeling this way, and as a single woman in her 30's who lives alone and works from…
By: Sara Barron / July 19, 2012

Dealbreaker: He Lied About His Height

In the summer of 2006, after having recently endured a breakup, I decided to bite the bullet, finally hopping on the online dating bandwagon. I chose Nerve as the site, and “Sara_B” and “This is really awkward” as my username and headline. Because, well, I am. And because, well, it was. I downloaded this one photo…
By: Sara Barron / July 9, 2012

The Soapbox: Since When Is Wanting An Intellectually Equal Partner “Elitist”?

I am fan of GOOD's dating dealbreaker series (eerily similar to ours, but whatever) because I think it does a good job of looking back on past failed relationships and identifying the reason(s)  things just didn't work out. Sometimes these dealbreakers can seem insignificant on the surface, but actual indicate a larger problem; other time…
By: Amelia McDonell-Parry / June 7, 2012

Girl Talk: I Don’t Have A Dating Checklist

In the preview for Bravo's upcoming reality show "Miss Advised," internet personality Julia Allison boldly exclaims that she's looking for a husband and has a 73-point checklist. When I heard that, my immediate thought was that I've never had a checklist, and even when I've set vague goals for the types of people I wanted…
By: Rachel Kramer Bussel / June 4, 2012

Dealbreaker: He Brought A Dog On Our Date

"How about the Belmont at 8? It'll be you, me, and Lulu," he said. "Who?" "Lulu, my dog? The Belmont has outdoor seating, so I thought it'd be fun to bring her along." That bitch, I thought, but agreed to the plan nonetheless.
By: Leonora Epstein / May 22, 2012

Dealbreaker: He Didn’t Dance

I met Brian*, on OKCupid. He was a handsome blonde with fantastic taste in clothes. Heliked to cook, had a stable, admirable job, and played the ukulele on the side. It was all very cute. And so was he. I imagined myself dating him for a long time, setting up a little homestead and writing…
By: Caitlin Abber / May 3, 2012

Is Your Dog An Online Dating Dealbreaker?

Have you ever come across a gorgeous man's profile picture who seems to have everything you've ever wanted in life — except he has a cat? How about that handsome, mysterious James Bond type who claims the hobbies of cliff-diving and extreme snowboarding excites him? Crap ... he's into exotic snakes.  In the online…
By: YourTango.com / April 17, 2012

Dealbreaker: The Woman Who Loved Me Was Also A Racist

My online-dating profile was an exercise in what I hoped was witty sarcasm; I opened by noting that people usually just click on the pictures of people they find attractive and hope to find an interesting profile behind them. It was an approach that got me a couple of hate e-mails, but it also helped…
By: Markham Lee / March 16, 2012

Dealbreaker: He Had Low Self-Esteem

“You must think he’s better looking than me,” Brian said, motioning to our waiter. Brian started most conversations this way. I shifted my gaze and looked intently at my menu, pretending to study it, just to avoid continuing this conversation -- a conversation I was no longer interested in having. Brian was a guy I’d…
By: Kristol Roberts / March 15, 2012

Dealbreaker: He Brought His Grandma On Our Date

On the latest season of "The Bachelor," contestant Brittney showed up armed with an escort to meet Ben Flajnik -- her 72-year-old grandmother Sheryl, who hobbled out of the limo on crutches. An adorable little stunt for "The Bachelor," where it's customary for women ride in on horses or do back flips to win a…
By: Josephine Ledger / January 26, 2012

Dealbreaker: He Wanted A Mommy

I did not want to be in college and be a mom. And I'm not talking about having a baby, I'm talking about dating one. Tom and I were just barely in our 20s and our wants were few. Most of the time, just being together was enough. So when he told me that he…
By: Lorraine Duffy Merkl / December 15, 2011

8 Hook-Up Dealbreakers

I could write a book filled with my friends’ hook up horror stories, but that would be ugly and unproductive. So in the spirit of Liz Lemon, I decided to make a list of dealbreakers to prevent said horror stories. Unfortunately, many of my friends have followed through with a hookup despite a definite deal…
By: College Candy / December 11, 2011

Dealbreaker: The Guy With Remedial Grooming Skills

My fairly new boyfriend Todd was a nice-enough looking guy with some questionable grooming habits. I tried to tell myself that these minor, easily fixable flaws shouldn’t influence how I felt about him. But instead of gazing into Todd’s eyes, I found myself staring at his nose hair, fixated. Brownish-grey tufts looking like steel wool…
By: Cristina Fahrbach-Connors / November 29, 2011

Dealbreaker: The Unmedicated Guy

It didn't take long for me to figure out something about Nick* was different. Everything about him was outsized, super-charming and a bit impulsive. For our second date, he seriously considered whisking me away to Atlantic City for the weekend to go gambling. After only two weeks of dating, he told me he thought I…
By: Jessica Wakeman / September 13, 2011

Is Porn A Relationship Dealbreaker?

My mother and many of her second-wave feminist peers view pornography as an institutional ill that is degrading to women and damaging to developing sexuality. She believes that the camera-ready angles, waxed and plastic body parts and pervasive depiction of extreme acts as “normal” distort human sexuality and give young porn-viewers a whole bunch of…
By: Emily Heist Moss / July 12, 2011