I was in an online networking group, for a while, in which there coincidentally happened to be many, many children of narcissistic parents, mothers especially. Well, either it was a coincidence, or there are more narcissistic parents in the world than one would imagine. It sounds horrible. Apparently, narcissistic parents rely on their children for their own self-esteem, keep their kids possessively close to them, and then when the child starts to branch out and become independent, the parent gets jealous. It can be, and apparently often is, abusive. It leaves those children with a lot of baggage. (The link above has good information and resources for adult children of narcissistic parents.)
It got me thinking, though: My mom is kind of awesome. Well, no, she just is awesome. During the conversations about narcissistic mothers in that networking group, I’d just think, “I should probably show myself out.” I didn’t want to rub my awesome mom in the faces of people who struggled with their mothers. Keep reading »
Weeks ago, we met the evangelical housewives who submit to their husbands. Now let’s meet the evangelical “stay-at-home daughters” — young women who forgo higher education and a career to stay close to their fathers and learn how to be a good homemaker and helper before they are getting married.
Writing in Bitch Magazine, author Gina McGalliard explains how these young women claim all women are much happier submitting to a family-focused life, rather than getting their own careers and jobs. Whether the woman needs “special protection” from her husband or her father, it’s all part of the same “Christian patriarchy movement.” Keep reading »
A benefit to raise awareness sounds like a good thing, but sometimes even a ball can be bad. Case in point: The Chastity Gala, a trend of father/daughter dances across the nation, aka the most uncomfortable parties we’ve ever heard of. Recently, in Colorado Springs, 150 fathers with girls from grade school to college attended such a purity ritual at a local hotel. Now, slow dancing with your pop at weddings can be sweet, but making a teenage girl swear to her daddy that she’ll carry her V-card until she marries sounds like cruel and unusual punishment (not to mention totally ludicrous). But even dumber than having to dance about virginity is the idea that these poor misguided dad’s think by taking a vow, “Before God to cover my daughter as her authority and protection in the area of purity,” they’re precious little flowers won’t grow up and put out. According to The New York Times, statistics have shown that teenagers who practice abstinence will eventually have sex before they wed and are unfortunately more likely to forgo protection. What’s really safer: upholding your daughter to an unrealistic moral standard so you can avoid the awkward sex talk or teaching her how to take care of herself and her needs in a way where she can respect her sexuality? Either way, no one should be forced to put on a fancy dress and parade around chanting promises they can’t keep. [Trend Hunter] Keep reading »
While my Jewish mother would do almost anything to marry me off, apparently I should thank my lucky stars that she hasnâ€™t put me up for sale! Although, Iâ€™m already past peak for this eBay-style site of teen brides — MarryOurDaughter.com. On the page, parents advertise their young daughters and sell them through an online form to turn a profit. Like happy mother, “Mrs. James P”, who wrote this testimonial: â€œOur 15-year old daughter Mary wasnâ€™t very popular and did nothing but mope around the house bringing everybody down, so we decided to marry her off through your site. Now our house is a lot cheerier and we love our new swimming pool and Jacuzzi! Weâ€™ve told our youngest that when she turns 15 weâ€™re going to marry her off too!” Satisfaction guaranteed has never sounded so disgusting. [Via Nerve Scanner] Keep reading »
Denzel Washington’s kids are growing up and he’s getting a little nervous. “My oldest girl has got a boyfriend, who is at the school where she is. He is obviously very bright, but has too many earrings for my liking.” How many earrings does Denzel think is too many? We’re guessing one. But despite sending his oldest son to terrorize his daughter’s Yale boyfriend, he admitted that he has a bit of a double-standard. When it comes to his sons dating, he praised them when they started, saying, “That’s my boy.” [Star Pulse] Keep reading »