This week on Date-Ade, the advice series for all your existential dating dilemmas, I address the issue loving someone, but hating the way they chew.
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Today in strange dating surveys that someone commissioned to promote an app: “dream dates” and imaginary beverage orders. Huh? Yes, exactly. What exactly qualifies a “dream date?” I’m not sure because it’s not specified. And who’s put thought into what their “dream man” or “dream woman” will be drinking? Not I. But if you have, no shame. Maybe you’re just more imaginative than me. According to a survey of 1,000 singles conducted by Wist, an app that makes personalized food and drink recommendations (huzzah!), a lot of daters have spent time considering what beverage their “dream person” would order on their imaginary first date. I’m personally partial to ordering water on a first date like Steve and Linda did in “Singles,” but sadly,the daters surveyed didn’t seem to share my enthusiasm for H2o. Find out what you are hypothetically supposed to drinking when that imaginary person you’ve never met spots you in the corner of a dark bar and finds your drink incredibly sexy… Keep reading »
“I don’t think you’d make a very good ‘Bachelor,’” Jessie says to me, halfway through the second episode of the current season. (“The Bachelor” is appointment snuggle viewing in our marriage.) For some reason, it really bristles me.
“What, you don’t think I could show a couple dozen ladies a good time?” I remember asking. “I would be a great ‘Bachelor’! I’m a fun date! I’m a good time guy! You should know that about me by now.”
“Of course you are,” she reassures me. “I just meant I don’t think you would fall in love with the kind of girls who end up on ‘The Bachelor.’”
“Well … fine, I guess you’re right,” I admit. “Just don’t forget: good time guy. I could date the shit out of these women if I wanted to. They would know they were being romanced and they wouldn’t forget it.”
“They would like it, too.”
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No one really likes first dates because they are the most stilted of all human interactions, second only to that thing that happens when you’re trying to pass someone on the street, and you keep feinting the same way. As a result of this intense and horrible discomfort, people try to avoid dating at all costs, citing excuses from “washing their hair” to “rearranging all their books by color and alphabet.” It’s even harder to be encouraged to participate in these sorts of activities, because if you’re out of practice, a first date seems like the worst possible thing in the entire world. It’s a whole thing. What do you wear? How do you act? What on earth do you talk about or do? How do you handle the stranger sitting across from you? Common sense gets replaced by sheer panic and feet get firmly planted in mouths. And worst of all, what happens if you really seem to like the person, but are just so out of practice that you bungle the thing? Oh, the things you might say! As a person who abhors the notion of first dates, I’ve figured out four relatively solid tips for those out there who fear them just as much as I do. Keep reading »
Quick! It’s Valentine’s Day! If you are planning to run to CVS for a schmoopy card and a box of chocolates during your lunch hour, you are shit out of luck, my friends. That place is going to look like a tornado ripped through it. How about an e-card instead? How about a free e-card instead? You won’t look cheap, you’ll look thrifty. Here’s four different sites with diverse cards for all different types of relationships you have this Valentine’s Day. Send one to your mom! And your best friend! And me!
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