For the majority of my last relationship, my partner was in the throes of a slowly unwinding nervous breakdown. He moved to New York at the same time I did, and lived for a brief period in a state of almost too much togetherness, bound because we loved each other, but also because we didn’t know what else to do. There is a strange thing that happens when you first move to a new city. Stripped free of your usual comforts, you cling readily and fiercely to whatever is available. For us, it was one another, and that felt fine to me, but less so to him. With the stress of living in a new city and delving into a new relationship, his anxiety and depression blossomed beyond the average quarter-life crisis into something much more serious. Keep reading »
According to a new poll done by Esquire, it’s totally “normal” for guys cry regularly, avoid strip clubs, and (gasp!) use moisturizer at least once a month. A whopping 62% of respondents even expressed “little to no” interest in watching sports on TV. Turns out they prefer cooking shows. Based on these results, the pollsters have concluded that guys are becoming more sensitive. We’re not sure that the use of moisturizer and an obsession with “Chopped” equates to sensitivity, but we certainly can’t complain. We’ve been scoping out sensitive, ponytailed types since the ’90s. These days, their ponytails are gone, but they still like to curl up in a ball on the couch and have a good cry after watching “Blackfish.” Bless their mushy lil’ hearts, we wouldn’t have them any other way. Below, the pros — and a few cons — of having a sensitive dude in your life. Keep reading »
We’ve specified dates from non-dates in the past, but according to a poll of 2,647 singles ages 18 to 59, daters are still totally confused. A staggering 69 percent claimed to be unsure about the formal status of spending time with someone one-on-one. Unacceptable. Let’s clear this up right now! Take our simple quiz to determine whether or not this thing is considered a date… Keep reading »
Tinder user, Kthnxbye, was swiping through potential matches on Tinder when she came across this picture of a naked man riding a unicorn. Sure, 32-year-old Mateo may not have been the unicorn that Kthnxbye was looking for, but at least he knows how to use Photoshop. Also, he doesn’t seem to take himself too seriously. A quality that should never be overlooked when it comes to dating. Unicorns may not be your style, but you can always play around with other photo concepts. Go wild! Your face in the center of a pizza! You cleaning your bathroom! You cuddling a baby sloth! Hey, whatever gets people to stop (even if for the wrong reasons) instead of swiping. There’s a lot of competition out there. [Metro UK]
It happens to everyone, eventually. You’re out with your friend and her new man, sitting across the table from them like a little girl out to dinner with your parents. The guy she’s seeing is nice enough, always kind to your friend, and pleasant to you, but you can’t help but shake a feeling of deep-rooted dislike. Her new man is nice, he’s kind, he’s always polite, but you don’t find yourself clicking. No matter, you tell yourself. I’m not the one dating him, she is. Who says I have to like him? Keep reading »
When I was in my early 30s, I started examining the data: Many years of unrequited crushes, mediocre dates and jittery mini-relationships that started off great but soured fast. I just seemed to suck at love.
I figured it must be me—after all, plenty of other women managed to find guys who they happily took to their parents’ houses and spent Sundays reading the paper with. So what was my problem?
As a journalist who frequently reported stories about relationships and personal growth, I interviewed a lot of experts, who had many theories about why some people have a hard time finding romantic partners. I studied their advice and began an ambitious self-renovation project so that I too could find love. My task list included the following: Keep reading »
Technically, there are four seasons, but I like to think of Winter and The Holidays as two distinct entities. The Holidays are their own special thing — a whirlwind of lights and fun and being hungover at the office on a Wednesday. The Holidays end with a splash, making a champagne fountain and entering the New Year clutching the hands of your friends, or making out with that dude you winked at, then cornered at midnight. After the dust settles, the fog lifts, everyone starts to make their way back to their regularly scheduled lives — that is Winter.
Winter is long, it is the interminable darkness of three to four months until Memorial Day weekend. Winter is losing gloves on the subway and runny noses, and spending time alone because it’s too cold to get anyone to leave their house. Winter is a time for introspection, reflection, eating a lot of cookies, and falling into a state of weird, depressive hermitude that may lead you to consider the Winter Boyfriend. Keep reading »
A new survey discovered what we’ve known since our middle school boyfriend bought us an ugly-as-fuck but well-intentioned heart bracelet: despite their most focused efforts, the majority of men suck at picking out presents. According to research done by StyleCard, this year, about 42 percent of women are stuck with a holiday gift from their S.O. that they don’t want. Ladies, we feel your pain. Keep reading »
Theres something about twinkly lights and snowflakes falling on a hushed street that can send even the most confident woman into a free-fall, scrambling for the nearest warm body to spend the holidays with. This time of year lends itself nicely to reflection, to family, to untold amounts of love and cheer and wassailing, but can also very easily be horribly, awfully depressing. If you find yourself pushing through throngs of rosy-cheeked, hand holding couples stopping to kiss under every available sprig of mistletoe, don’t despair. Don’t get mired in the “woe-is-me-I-need-a-man” blues.This is a time for reflection, but it’s also the best present the universe could ever give you — built in downtime, for you to think about what you want and how you want it. Keep reading »
I had a drink with a friend the other night who spent the entire time pouting as he regaled me with the latest details of his most recent failure in the dating world. “Girls don’t like me because they don’t like nice guys!” he said. “Girls only like assholes. No one ever wants to date me because I’m too nice,” he whined.
I’ve had this conversation multiple times with lots of my guy friends, and the one thing I always tell them is this: women do like nice guys, because no one wants to be with a jerk, but there’s a difference between being a Nice Guy and being a guy who is nice. Recognizing the difference between the two is key. Keep reading »