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5 Online Dating Tips From The Most Desirable Woman On OKCupid

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Let me preface this by saying that not all of my online dating experiences were bad ones. I met handful of nice, normal guys who weren’t for me and one nice and normal enough man to have a 6-month relationship with. But there were also so many who weren’t nice or normal. There were so many messages that made me feel utterly demoralized about dating and months where I would go without getting a single message from someone I would remotely consider meeting in person. All of this led me to wonder: Who is getting messages?

With the help of OKCupid’s co-founder, Christian Rudder and some OKTrends data, NYMag.com tracked down a few of the the most desirable singles on the site, statistically speaking, and asked them just…HOW? The most sought after straight woman in New York City (technically, one of the top five most desirable women who was also willing to be interviewed) was 23-year-old makeup artist Lauren (handle: formerly nebulaeandstuff, now loandthecosmos). The 5’5″ curvy atheist, who likes “hockey, whiskey, swimming in an open ocean, down comforters, astronomy,” receives about 245 messages a week and has more than 8,000 five-star ratings from other men (!). But take heart, because even the most desirable woman on OKCupid admits to being pessimistic about her prospects of finding love. In the two years Lauren’s been on the site, she’s only gone on about 20 dates. Below, I’ve tried to cobbled together some Lauren’s secrets in the hopes that they might help the rest of us win at online dating. If that’s even possible. Keep reading »

Life After Dating: 15 Highly Annoying Habits You Should Overlook In Your Relationship (And 9 You Shouldn’t)

Annoying Habits You Should Overlook In Your Relationship

So you’ve finally found The One (or at least The One For The Foreseeable Future) and you’ve committed to a serious relationship. Now what? In our weekly column, Life After Dating, women discuss the unique joys and challenges of coupledom.

One of the things you notice when you spend a whole lot of time with someone is every single little annoying thing they do. Whether it be the way they slurp their angel hair pasta like they’re eating out of a trough or how they tend to be most eager to start a conversation when you’re meditating, in any long-term relationship, it’s inevitable that you’re going to find yourself grinding your teeth at the person you love (and trust us, they’ll be grinding their teeth at you, too). Even when you think you’ve managed to rise above the incessant channel flipping or the empty toilet paper roll, fresh annoyances can crop up…even after years and years. They’re only human. You still love them. But one of the keys to maintaining a happy LTR is deciding which of your partner’s annoying habits are worth overlooking (because let’s be honest, 99.9 percent of habits are), and which ones are indicative of deeper issues or — gulp — potential dealbreakers. Below are some annoying habits you should forgive and forget, and some that might deserve a harder look… Keep reading »

Date-Ade Episode #11: On Sandwiches & Seatmates

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This week on Date-Ade, the advice series for all your existential dating dilemmas, I address the issue loving someone, but hating the way they chew.

If you have a sex, dating or relationship quandary that you’d like for me to try to unravel (no promises), send your questions to date-ade@thefrisky.com or tweet @TheFrisky#DateAde.

The Sexiest Drinks To Order On A Date Are…

Today in strange dating surveys that someone commissioned to promote an app: “dream dates” and imaginary beverage orders. Huh? Yes, exactly. What exactly qualifies a “dream date?” I’m not sure because it’s not specified. And who’s put thought into what their “dream man” or “dream woman” will be drinking? Not I. But if you have, no shame. Maybe you’re just more imaginative than me. According to a survey of 1,000 singles conducted by Wist, an app that makes personalized food and drink recommendations (huzzah!), a lot of daters have spent time considering what beverage their “dream person” would order on their imaginary first date. I’m personally partial to ordering water on a first date like Steve and Linda did in “Singles,” but sadly,the daters surveyed didn’t seem to share my enthusiasm for H2o.  Find out what you are hypothetically supposed to drinking when that imaginary person you’ve never met spots you in the corner of a dark bar and finds your drink incredibly sexy… Keep reading »

Guy Talk: A Brief Explanation Of Why Men In Relationships Still Like To Flirt

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“I don’t think you’d make a very good ‘Bachelor,’” Jessie says to me, halfway through the second episode of the current season. (“The Bachelor” is appointment snuggle viewing in our marriage.) For some reason, it really bristles me.

“What, you don’t think I could show a couple dozen ladies a good time?” I remember asking. “I would be a great ‘Bachelor’! I’m a fun date! I’m a good time guy! You should know that about me by now.”

“Of course you are,” she reassures me. “I just meant I don’t think you would fall in love with the kind of girls who end up on ‘The Bachelor.’”

“Well … fine, I guess you’re right,” I admit. “Just don’t forget: good time guy. I could date the shit out of these women if I wanted to. They would know they were being romanced and they wouldn’t forget it.”

“Noted.”

“They would like it, too.”

Alright!” Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: 4 First Date Tips For People Who Don’t Do It That Often

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No one really likes first dates because they are the most stilted of all human interactions, second only to that thing that happens when you’re trying to pass someone on the street, and you keep feinting the same way. As a result of this intense and horrible discomfort, people try to avoid dating at all costs, citing excuses from “washing their hair” to “rearranging all their books by color and alphabet.” It’s even harder to be encouraged to participate in these sorts of activities, because if you’re out of practice, a first date seems like the worst possible thing in the entire world. It’s a whole thing. What do you wear? How do you act? What on earth do you talk about or do? How do you handle the stranger sitting across from you? Common sense gets replaced by sheer panic and feet get firmly planted in mouths. And worst of all, what happens if you really seem to like the person, but are just so out of practice that you bungle the thing? Oh, the things you might say! As a person who abhors the notion of first dates, I’ve figured out four relatively solid tips for those out there who fear them just as much as I do.  Keep reading »

4 Sites With Free E-Cards For Valentine’s Day

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Quick! It’s Valentine’s Day! If you are planning to run to CVS for a schmoopy card and a box of chocolates during your lunch hour, you are shit out of luck, my friends. That place is going to look like a tornado ripped through it. How about an e-card instead? How about a free e-card instead? You won’t look cheap, you’ll look thrifty. Here’s four different sites with diverse cards for all different types of relationships you have this Valentine’s Day. Send one to your mom! And your best friend! And me!

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Date-Ade Episode #10: On Leopard Print Pants & Rubbing Your Happiness In Your Ex’s Face

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Happiness Never Needs To Be Rubbed In Anyone's Face...
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This week on Date-Ade, the advice series for all your existential dating dilemmas, I address the issue of rubbing your happiness in your crappy ex-boyfriend’s face.

If you have a sex, dating or relationship quandary that you’d like for me to try to unravel (no promises), send your questions to date-ade@thefrisky.com or tweet @TheFrisky#DateAde.

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Study: Yes, Height Makes A Difference In Dating

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A study by Rice University and the University of North Texas has found that for lots of us, height does matter when it comes to choosing a partner.

Researchers set out to learn more about height preferences in the heterosexual dating world by conducting a study split into two parts. The first part compiled data from Yahoo! personal dating ads  and consulted the opinions of 455 heterosexual men (with an average height of 5’8″ and average age of 36) and 470 heterosexual women (with an average height of 5’4″ and an average age of 35). Only 13.5 percent of guys said they prefer to date women who are shorter than they are. The women in the study, on the other hand, were a bit pickier:  48.9 percent of women would only date men who are taller than they are.

The study’s second part enlisted volunteers from a U.S. university to take an online survey with open-ended questions. The survey included 54 men (who averaged 5’9″ tall) and 131 women (with an average height of 5’4″). Researchers found that 37 percent of men would only date women who are shorter than them, and 55 percent of women would only date men who are taller than them – very similar to the study’s previous findings. Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: 9 Tinder Profiles That Made Me Swipe Left

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Dating Don'ts: 9 Tinder Profiles That Made Me Swipe Left

College Humor recently launched a video titled “Tinderella,” an animated fairytale parody depicting Cinderella if she and her prince met on Tinder. The video ends with the two hooking up and never speaking again. Honestly, I envy anyone who made it to the fleshy phase using the dating app. You are stronger than me.

I’d been single for 32 years, the same amount of time I’d been alive, when I joined Tinder. Unrequited love was all I knew of romance. So, I was determined to learn how to online date. Friends told me it was silly to use the app to find a relationship because it was intended for impromptu coitus. I argued that people use online dating sites to find life partners AND to fulfill their foot fetishes. It’s all what you make of it — plus, I liked having the power of the swipe. Sadly, I didn’t last long on this courtship gizmo. The profile pics alone were more than I could handle. Here’s a brief review of the many photos that made me swipe left: Keep reading »

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