“[When a guy is jerking you around y]ou don’t respond to any of his texts or calls until he does something desperate [like] shows up. Or he calls and leaves a voice mail. Something that makes it very clear to you that he’s interested. … I think everyone should approach relationships from the perspective of… More »
Choosing a restaurant to eat at is an easy, fun task. Say there’s a new Chinese-Cuban-Indonesian fusion place that opened up on your block. Maybe you want to go there one night, because you enjoy clever fusion and you’re hungry, but you’ve never been and don’t want to waste your money on some greasy noodles. More »
Hello again. After an extra long hiatus, Date-Ade, the advice series for all your existential dating dilemmas, is back! Today, I share my thoughts on Vickie’s delusional boyfriend … well, ex-boyfriend.
If you have a sex, dating or relationship quandary that you’d like for me to try to unravel (no promises), send your… More »
For the majority of my last relationship, my partner was in the throes of a slowly unwinding nervous breakdown. He moved to New York at the same time I did, and lived for a brief period in a state of almost too much togetherness, bound because we loved each other, but also because we didn’t… More »
According to a new poll done by Esquire, it’s totally “normal” for guys cry regularly, avoid strip clubs, and (gasp!) use moisturizer at least once a month. A whopping 62% of respondents even expressed “little to no” interest in watching sports on TV. Turns out they prefer cooking shows. Based on these results, the pollsters have… More »
We’ve specified dates from non-dates in the past, but according to a poll of 2,647 singles ages 18 to 59, daters are still totally confused. A staggering 69 percent claimed to be unsure about the formal status of spending time with someone one-on-one. Unacceptable. Let’s clear this up right now! Take our simple quiz to determine whether or… More »
Tinder user, Kthnxbye, was swiping through potential matches on Tinder when she came across this picture of a naked man riding a unicorn. Sure, 32-year-old Mateo may not have been the unicorn that Kthnxbye was looking for, but at least he knows how to use Photoshop. Also, he doesn’t seem to take himself too seriously. More »
It happens to everyone, eventually. You’re out with your friend and her new man, sitting across the table from them like a little girl out to dinner with your parents. The guy she’s seeing is nice enough, always kind to your friend, and pleasant to you, but you can’t help but shake a feeling of… More »
When I was in my early 30s, I started examining the data: Many years of unrequited crushes, mediocre dates and jittery mini-relationships that started off great but soured fast. I just seemed to suck at love.
I figured it must be me—after all, plenty of other women managed to find guys who they… More »
Technically, there are four seasons, but I like to think of Winter and The Holidays as two distinct entities. The Holidays are their own special thing — a whirlwind of lights and fun and being hungover at the office on a Wednesday. The Holidays end with a splash, making a champagne fountain and entering the… More »
A new survey discovered what we’ve known since our middle school boyfriend bought us an ugly-as-fuck but well-intentioned heart bracelet: despite their most focused efforts, the majority of men suck at picking out presents. According to research done by StyleCard, this year, about 42 percent of women are stuck with a holiday gift from their S.O. More »
Theres something about twinkly lights and snowflakes falling on a hushed street that can send even the most confident woman into a free-fall, scrambling for the nearest warm body to spend the holidays with. This time of year lends itself nicely to reflection, to family, to untold amounts of love and cheer and wassailing, but… More »
I had a drink with a friend the other night who spent the entire time pouting as he regaled me with the latest details of his most recent failure in the dating world. “Girls don’t like me because they don’t like nice guys!” he said. “Girls only like assholes. No one ever wants to date… More »
My boyfriend Nick and I met when we were in high school, but we didn’t start dating officially until college. Part of the reason for that was my extreme resistance to the idea of being labeled “high school sweethearts.” I knew I loved Nick within a few weeks of first meeting him, but the idea… More »
It may not be something that anyone wishes for, but for a lot of men (about 50 percent), hair loss is a reality. At first, it can be tragic, depressing, a horrible reminder of immortality, but once a guy realizes it’s just a fact of life, and learn to own it, they become even more… More »
There is no secret to dating success.There is no incantation to whisper over a pile of personal effects under the light of a new moon, no candles to burn, no rituals performed under a veil of Spanish moss in bare feet. Dating is one of the least magical and miraculous things that occurs in our… More »
Being in a relationship with someone who has ADD presents some unique challenges. Conversations tend to jump rapidly from one topic to another. Shiny objects might distract them during important moments. And that pile of clothes on the floor? Yeah, that’s never, ever going to get put away. Of course, there are also many benefits… More »
Turkey dropping is a cute-sounding name for an awful phenomenon: getting dumped on or right before Thanksgiving. It’s particularly common for high school sweethearts who go off to separate colleges and realize right around Thanksgiving break that they want to “keep their options open.” This happens in the adult dating world as well, when the… More »
So you’ve finally found The One (or at least The One For The Foreseeable Future) and you’ve committed to a serious relationship. Now what? In our new weekly column, Life After Dating, we’ll discuss the unique joys and challenges of coupledom.
I’ve been with my boyfriend, Max*, for five years now. We are completely… More »
We can surely appreciate the appeal of a greased-up, muscular dude with chiseled abs, and we’ve dated our fair share of super skinny hipster guys who liked to steal our skinny jeans, but when it comes down to it, we think chubby guys are where it’s at. From their cozy body heat to the great… More »