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8 Myths About Dating Older Men Debunked

When I met the older man I briefly dated, I’d been drinking. And being that we all make bad decisions once we’ve had a few, I gave him my number. My real number. If I’d known that he was two years younger than my (gasp!) mother, I probably would have given him fake digits digits instead. But I was deceived. This dude was incredibly well-preserved and rolling with some friends who appeared to be about my age. There was no way I could have guessed how much older he was.

He bought me a beer and asked me my age.

“Twenty-six,” I answered. And at that moment, it seemed appropriate to ask his age. So I did, and I got a mysterious answer: “Guess.”

I guessed. “Thirty-one?” No. “Thirty-four?” No. “Twenty-five?” No.  Keep reading »

Older Men, Younger Women
Do all older men want a much young girlfriend? Read More »
Dating Dont's:Age
How not to handle an age difference. Read More »

Guy Talk: The Real Reason Women Shouldn’t Make The First Move

Guy Talk: First Date
There was a reason he never called you after that great first date. Read More »
Guy Talk: Romantics
Guys can be hopeless romantics too. Read More »
Guy Talk: First Kiss
One guy talks about making the first move. Read More »

Maybe you catch him standing at the other end of the bar, slyly checking you out. Maybe you met him before and flirted with him, but he never asked for your phone number. Or, maybe you’ve already hung out with him a few times, but a casual arm flung over your shoulders is about the extent of the physical contact he’s made so far.

So, you saunter over to him and say hi.

Or, the next time you see him, you say, “So, are you ever going to ask for my phone number?”

Or, as you’re sitting on the couch next to him, streaming yet another movie on Netflix, you turn to look him in the eyes, and you decide to just go for it and kiss him.

Like that daydreaming moron you’re stuck behind at the busy intersection, these are the guys who make you throw your arms up in the air and yell, “You’ve got the green light! Just go already!”

Yes, there are a lot of timid guys out there.

But now, I’m going to let you in on a little secret: Timid guys aren’t as numerous as you may think. In fact, that cute guy who flirts with you and acts interested, but never actually does anything about it, can turn out to be a totally different breed of guy. He’s not timid, or awkward, or nervous. He’s manipulating you.

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Dating Don’ts: How Not To Approach Exclusivity

Dating Don'ts: Not Your Ex
The new guy is not your ex. Read More »
Not Quite Exclusive
Here are some types of pre-exclusive relationships. Read More »
Dating Don'ts:Girlproofing
Girlproofing your apartment is very important. Read More »

You know that stupid saying, “assuming makes an ass of you and me”? I hate that saying, it’s annoying, but in the case of dating, it’s true. You may be having omigodtheverybesttimeofyourlife dating this new and wonderful creature. You may be spending every weekend at his place and making stupid shmoopy eyes at each other over dinner and playing tonsil hockey in the park like teenagers, but that DOES NOT make him your boo. At least not until you’ve discussed it and have both agreed upon the terms of service for your relationship.

How do I know this? Oh, because I’ve made this mistake before. Too many times. The first time I made it was when I was 18. I went away for the summer after my freshman year of college, assuming that the letters and packages and emails my dude sent me meant we were in a serious, committed relationship. It did to me — but not to him. When I came back to town in the fall — actually, before the fall because I missed him so much — he abruptly left me for the girl who lived across the hall. She wore striped knee socks and played the guitar. I would watch him come over to visit her through my peephole. It was awful. She later became a famous rock star and dumped him. Oh, KARMA. Keep reading »

Putting A Spell On Your Ex Won’t Help Get Him Back

Crotch Sniffer?
The weirdest relationship advice question we've ever seen. Read More »
Dating Don't: Bunny Boiler
How to recover if you've acted insane. Read More »
Terrible Advice
woman drinking beer photo
Dear Prudence gave crap advice regarding a possible date rape. Read More »

Today in people being delusional assholes when it comes to love: I stumbled upon an amazing question in The Smoking Jacket’s advice column “ASK TSJ.” Spellcaster of Caller, Michigan wrote:

My ex-boyfriend dumped me four months ago after I accused him of seeing someone else and insulting him. I was so confused and didn’t know what to do, so I reach to the Internet for help and I saw a testimony of how a spellcaster helped someone get their ex back.

I contacted the spellcaster and explained my problem to him and he cast a spell for me and assured me that in three days my ex would return to me. Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: He’s Not Your Ex

Dating Don'ts: Dumb Adages
These love adages are stupid. Ignore them. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: Ghosting
Thou shalt not ghost your love interests. Read More »

This past weekend, I had brunch with a single guy friend and, as I tend to do when I’m in these situations, I took advantage of the opportunity to ask him questions about dating.

“So, what’s the your least favorite thing about dating?” I asked.

“When I’m on a dates, I hate when women project their dating history onto me,” he replied.

“You mean like they talk about their baggage?”

“No,” he said, “But it’s like I can tell who’s sat in the chair before me by they way they act.” Keep reading »

Guy Talk: 5 Ways That Men Are Also Hopeless Romantics

Guy Talk: First Date
There was a reason he never called you after that great first date. Read More »
Hitched
Can you throw a cheap wedding in this day and age? Read More »
Guy Talk: Last Name
This man took his wife's last name. Read More »

Here’s a poorly kept secret: Men are also from Venus. That’s what I’ve learned after six years of writing for The New York Times wedding section—also known as the Ladies’ Sports Pages.

Sure, a few thousand years’ history of raping and pillaging suggests otherwise, but beneath the stubble and the Sportscenter addiction, most men are as confused, vulnerable and romantic as women when it comes to falling in love.

Did I mention I’m also one of those men? Keep reading »

Do You Make Excuses For The Person You’re Dating?

A friend of mine sent the following quote to me today:

“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” – Author Unknown

This quote is stunningly perfect. I wish I had this in my 20s, although I might not have completely understood this as I do now. It truly sums up how many of us have felt inrelationships when we have put the other person first over and over again and coming in maybe tenth with them in their lives. I don’t think I need to elaborate too much on this statement, other than please remember to read this as many times as necessary when you find yourself here. Have it become your mantra and do not make excuses for why the person you are dating is not making you a priority. Read more …

Dating Don’ts: The Importance Of Girlproofing

Dating Don'ts: Dumb Adages
These love adages are stupid. Ignore them. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: Kisses
Women fear these types of first kisses. Read More »

As parents must safeguard their homes against the presence of a toddler, so must single men prepare their apartments for the company of a woman. This process is called girlproofing. I must give credit where credit is due here. It was the great John DeVore of “Mind of Man” fame who coined the term. He once told me that he refused to let a woman he liked into his apartment until it was properly “girlproofed.” John DeVore is a wise man. For he understands that if a woman doesn’t feel safe and comfortable at his place, she’s probably never coming back. Keep reading »

Why He Keeps You Waiting By The Phone & How To Handle It

Texting Dangers
The dangers of being a flirty texter. Read More »
Ask Me Out
Ask us out on a damn date! Read More »
Ways He Says ...
guys
I love you. Guys have their own special ways. Read More »

Has this ever happened to you? You meet a new guy for coffee and have a great first date. He was easy to talk to, had a good sense of humor and had good answers to your questions. You feel tentatively positive. The week goes by. He texts once or twice, but does not ask about the weekend.

Then, he finally calls you, on Friday, to talk about the weekend. “Are you free tonight?” he asks. Well, you purposely left the weekend open hoping he would call. So you say, “Yes”. You go out and have another great date. It is so nice to talk to a man who you can have a great conversation. You smile, laugh and share similar ideas about life.

Then, you don’t hear from him all week, except for some texting. This time, you can’t take it. You want to know what is going to happen for the weekend. You can’t stand this waiting game. You assume, of course, you will have a date. Read more …

10 Things Women Think Impress Men, But Don’t

Like it or not, first impressions do matter. Second and third impressions do too — especially in the dating world. Admit it, you want to be wanted and liked by your suitor. We all do! No man or woman wants to be told they’re not the best choice or the most favorable candidate for love. The trouble is that our desire to be liked often drives us to be someone other than ourselves.

Some of us never show up for dates (especially the first ones), because we’ve sent our representatives instead — a make believe character that you think the person sitting across the table will find more interesting than you. It seems like a brilliant idea at the time, but your “rep” could cost you the date. Read more …

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