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8 Pieces Of Dating Wisdom I Wish I Could Have Given My Single Self

8 Pieces Of Dating Wisdom I Would Have Given My Single Self

There were many low points in my eight years (more or less) as a single person. One in particular was in December of 2010, right around my 32nd birthday. Funny that I can’t even remember why it was a low point. Probably because I had created some kind of timeline where I imagined that I should have been in a relationship by that point. To cope with all the hopelessness, bitterness, loneliness, panic, frustration and feelings of failure I was experiencing, I wrote an open letter to my single self. Although I didn’t believe it at the time, I gave myself the most awesome advice. To quote myself to myself (how meta), my main point was that I should be patient and do nothing:

“In waiting, you’ve grown impatient at times and have tried to force things that weren’t meant to be, fought too hard for something that you knew was wrong, held on too tight to something that was already dead and gone, or pushed people away out of fear. No more of that. The only thing left for you to do now is NOTHING … Love is a mystery that you can’t harness or control or elicit or will. Accept that it’s a mystery and sit down, shut up, enjoy your freaking life, and patiently wait your turn.”

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Revisiting 5 Pieces Of Single Lady Literature Now That I’m In A Relationship

Okay, so I’m in a relationship - and I met him online. I swear, 38th time’s the charm, right? Yes, I did keep track. Once you’re in double digits and you keep failing, it seems important to keep count. But Number 38, who eventually became my boyfriend, is great. He’s smart, funny, charming, and when he asked what I’d say about him in this piece, I told him the only thing I’d tell the Internet is that he has a beard.

I may be in a relationship now, but I still have all the single lady advice books I used to consult. I mean,I’m not going to lie; I was definitely a sucker for these books and I sought them out regularly to help me navigate the uncharted waters of the dating pool. In retrospect, it’s amazing how obsessed I was with trying to figure out how to get the man I wanted as if relationships were pieces of Ikea furniture — something that you put together piece by piece. Fortunately, they’re not. I realize that now. Keep reading »

Face Tattoos & 13 Other Things That Seem Like A Great Idea After A Breakup, But Really Aren’t

Things That Seem Like A Great Idea After A Breakup, But Really Aren't

See that red, squiggly thing on Sinead O’Connor’s cheek that looks like a toddler doodled on her with a pen? That’s her new face tattoo and it’s not actually a squiggle. It’s the initials BQ, which stands for Brendan Quinlan. Remember how Sinead started blogging about being single and considering having sex with a yam and then she met someone and married him for 16 days? Well, Brendan Quinlan is not that guy. He’s someone else. At a performance last week, she told the audience that she got her new ink to remind the guy that betrayed her. Then she put up a post on her website that said:

“Face Tattoo…Brendan Quinlan.. ‘It’s what it is’.. Un ange passe ; ) There’s a bottle of Agent Provocateur in someone’s room that belongs to me.”

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Date-Ade Episode 5: On Trouser Pieces & Stick Shifts

Date-Ade Episode 5: On Trouser Pieces & Stick Shifts
All Trouser Pieces Are Different...
Date-Ade Ep 4
Date Ade Episode 4
When to apply the Summer Camp Rule to your relationship. Read More »

I think I’ve mentioned (numerous times) that canned dating advice drives me crazy. Love and relationships are not a one-size-fits-all pair of shoes. I admittedly don’t have all the answers, but I’ve found that I give the best advice when I share my own stories — as weird as they may be — and offer empathy. Inspired by Jack Handy’s “Deep Thoughts,” Date-Ade offers stream of consciousness solutions for stressed daters courtesy of me and my owl.

If you have a sex, dating or relationship dilemma that you’d like for me to try to illuminate (no promises), send your questions to date-ade@thefrisky.com.

40 Love Lessons From “40 Days Of Dating”

No wonder Hollywood is clamoring for the “40 Days of Dating” project to be the next big rom com or TV series, it has been our addictive, lunchtime reading of choice for the last month and a half. We’ve become maybe a little too invested in following the blog entries of hopeless romantic Jessica Walsh and self-professed commitment-phone Timothy Goodman as they embarked on their 40 days as a couple. How invested is too invested? Well, let’s just say that Ami had a dream that she was out on a date with Tim and he ran away and abandoned her while she was peeing. Sure, it was a dream, but it somehow seems like perfect metaphor for Tim and Jessie. Keep reading »

Date-Ade Episode 4: The Summer Camp Rule

Date Ade Episode 4
When's The Right Time To Meet His Mom?
Date-Ade Ep. 3
Date Ade Episode 3
On old flames and unwanted rodents. Read More »

I think I’ve mentioned (numerous times) that canned dating advice drives me crazy. Love and relationships are not a one-size-fits-all pair of shoes. I admittedly don’t have all the answers, but I’ve found that I give the best advice when I share my own stories — as weird as they may be — and offer empathy. Inspired by Jack Handy’s “Deep Thoughts,” Date-Ade offers stream of consciousness solutions for stressed daters courtesy of me and my owl.

If you have a sex, dating or relationship dilemma that you’d like for me to try to illuminate (no promises), send your questions to date-ade@thefrisky.com.

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