“Forget about having it all, or not having it all, leaning in or leaning out — here’s what you really need to know that nobody is telling you.”
That’s how now-infamous “Princeton Mom” Susan Patton began her letter to “Princeton women,” advising them to lock down a Princeton man by the time they graduate, lest their lives turn, over the next three decades or so, to fetid piles of vaguely unfulfilling upper-middle-class Princeton shit.
Princeton women — and all women, and actually everybody in a place of transition, as so many college students and young people and old people and middle-aged people are — please allow me to finish her premise with the actual thing you “really need to know that nobody is telling you.”
You don’t have a “shelf life.” There’s almost nothing you can’t undo, deal with or mitigate the damage of. You do not have to set your life trajectory on ascend, now or at any other time. You are going to be fine. Keep reading »
Non-boyfriend: defined as a close, uncomplicated friendship you have with a dude that defies all romantic weirdnesses because you two aren’t dating and have established that you never will. Would he sleep with you if you begged him? Probably. Is there some tiny spark of attraction? Sure. But that’s not the point. The point is that you’re both happy being two single friends who would maybe, in some some second life universe, bang if the moment arose. Until he finds a real girlfriend, and he will because he is an awesome guy, he will be a loyal, devoted, supportive and drama-free friend who you can text whenever the hell you feel like it. Of course, he may become a little scarcer once he gets a girlfriend but that’s OK because you’ll be happy for him. Appreciate him while he’s around. This is an ode to non-boyfriends and all the wonderful things about them… Keep reading »
I keep blinking my eyes. Splashing cold water on my face. Waiting to wake up from the cinematic dream sequence which has been my life for the last three weeks. It all started when I ran into an old friend from college on the subway and the next thing I knew, my love life went from black and white to technicolor in a poof, like when Dorothy landed over the rainbow. So. Yeah. Hi! Greetings from over the rainbow. Colors are brighter here. Food tastes better. Dogs and babies and munchkins all have secret messages just for you. Time is measured in hand holds and kisses and the breeze decides which direction you walk.
I’m trying desperately to make sense of it all. But I fear I have become one of those people: the love-crazed fool who you want to punch in her stupid, shmoopy face. Even in my state of euphoria, I recognize that my type can be terribly annoying. Should you ever find yourself over the rainbow, A) Enjoy it! and B) Try to keep it together so the rest of the world doesn’t want to murder you. Here are some thoughts about how to do that… Keep reading »
I was watching the vintage “Real World” marathon this past weekend on MTV. On the San Francisco season, you may remember that episode where Rachel goes to a coffee shop to give her number to a dude. It doesn’t end up working out, but oh man, this scene gave me a crazy bout of dating nostalgia. I started remembering all the things I used to have to do (most of them terribly embarrassing) when I liked someone. Before the days of Facebook and Google, it took some serious ingenuity just to figure out a guy’s last name. I had to stalk a guy at Little Caesar’s Pizza every day after work just to get his phone number! That’s a lot of individual pizzas to order on an allowance! You have to really like the person to put in that kind of financial commitment. And if they like you back? Whoa. Now it’s all a mouse click away. It’s just too easy. Let’s reminisce some of those extinct pre-Internet dating rituals. Keep reading »
I was having dinner with a friend the other night and I was in the middle of a rant about dating fatigue when our waitress, a beautiful and statuesque 20-something women, strode over to our table and said, “I hear you. It just never ends.”
We all nodded at each other, wordlessly, exchanging sympathetic I feel your pain looks.
Dating is so complicated it’s a wonder that people continue to do it. Navigating through all the awkwardness and nuances of romantic, human interactions requires a compass, or at the very least, a forum to vent.This is why our Dating Don’ts column is important. We could probably write dating how-not-to’s for another ten and never run out of topics to discuss. For The Frisky’s 5th birthday, I’ve rounded up some of the best dating tips we’ve given. It never hurts to brush up. Share your favorite Dating Don’ts moments in the comments or suggest some topics you’d like to see covered. And keep on keeping on, daters. We’re here for you. Keep reading »
Whoa. I almost don’t recognize Serious Jimmy Fallon. But Serious Jimmy Fallon is here, dishing out relationship advice for Rookie Mag’s Ask A Grown Man series. He cracks a few jokes, but mostly Jimmy takes his role as advice-giver like a concerned older brother. And somehow I find that totally endearing. [Rookie Mag]
Getting bored of the usual dinner and a movie date? Us too.There’s plenty of other ways to get to know each other and strengthen your bond. That’s why we came up with these fun date night ideas you and your guy will both enjoy.
From wine and beer tours to volunteering, these are exciting adventures you and your guy will remember forever.
Hot Springs. Visiting hot springs is a sexy, therapeutic means by which you can relax together. Take a day trip and visit the closest one to you for an all-natural spa day (that will cost a fraction of the price!). Read more…
Has your guy been fairly silent in the 4-letter-word department, and you’re trying to figure out other ways to tell if he loves you? Sometimes, this can be hard; not everybody is vocal or obvious about their feelings, and many may feel it is difficult to voice those deeper emotions whether it’s for fear of rejection, commitment or simply never having said “I Love You” before.
Here are some subtle, silent ways to tell if he’s thinking it.
1. Passionate, Long-Lasting Kisses. Who doesn’t love an excellent, lengthy kiss? When he’s continuously initiating these and you can feel the passion each time he does, it is clear that he’s more than just a little excited to be around you. Read more…
If you feel like your soulmate keeps passing you by, try shopping at Walmart; a surprising new study suggests he might be there!
According to the study of “missed connection” posts on Craigslist, Walmart was found to be the most popular place for people to find love. The findings stretched across 15 states, as people thought they may have met their future spouse at a Walmart more than anywhere else.
We’re thinking that the next time you rush in to pick up a few things at the megastore, slow down and take note of the potential dates shopping alongside to you — and you may even want to give that cute cashier a second glance too.
We’ve uncovered ten different ways categorized by department to help you to meet your match at Wal-Mart. And if you do find love in the aisles of Wal-Mart, whether it’s shopping for patio furniture or rushing through checkout … don’t worry, you can thank us with an invite to your retail-themed wedding.
1. The Store Entrance
In a mad five-minute dash at the front of the store, you’ve grabbed more off the shelves than you probably could handle. Now, you’re wandering around with your arms full of groceries and a helpless look on your face, looking for a cart or a basket. You could ask an associate standing guard at the door to help you … but let’s be real here: a pair of strong, manly arms belonging to a good-looking guy would be extra helpful and probably preferable. Read more…
I’ll admit, I stopped watching “Jerry Springer” when I graduated from high school because well, let’s just say I didn’t have as much free time for high class hookers and transsexual takedowns once I got to college. But in high school, the show was everything to me. I think this clip illustrates my love for “Jerry Springer.” Upon first watching you might see this as some theater of the absurd featuring lying, cheating furry fetish ravers, but look deeper and you will find that this is an allegory for everything you need to know about relationships. There are so many levels of meaning. It’s poetry really. My analysis after the jump. Keep reading »