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How Reality TV Is Like Dating In Your Twenties

“What is this? It looks like you’ve got a bikini wax here!” That was Gordon Ramsay being witheringly British to me, in front of other people. “Nothing puts you off like finding pubes on your plate.” He handed me the oily fennel fronds I had thrown down at the last minute as I stood in front of Ramsay, the restauranteur Joe Bastianich, and chef Graham Elliott, waiting to be judged. It felt like a really bad blind date.

I had just competed against six other entertainment journalists in a faux episode of “Master Chef,” in the show’s Los Angeles studio. It sounded like a decent way to spend a Tuesday evening, pretending to be on TV rather than watching it. It was staged just like a “Master Chef” episode. Eighteen minutes was not enough so I rushed to dismantle said fennel, put my scallops on top, and spoon an over-seasoned corn-and-mystery-berry relish on the side. Read more…

Guy Talk: No Man Is Worth Waiting Around For

Guy Talk: First Move
The real reason women shouldn't make the first move. Read More »
Guy Talk: Jerk
Why guys act like jerks when they break up with you. Read More »

At some point, you’ve probably fallen for a guy who just isn’t in the “right place” when you meet him. Maybe it’s obvious from his inability to communicate his feelings. Or, maybe he just flat-out tells you that he’s not ready to be in a relationship.

Do you wait for him? Do you tell yourself to be patient and let him sort through his issues?

Someone did that for me once. For five years. Would you be at all surprised to find out that it never worked out between us? Keep reading »

Girl Talk: Coming To Terms With My Introduction Phobia

Time To Fly
Ami goes on a trapeze date and faces multiple fears at once. Read More »
Terrible Breakups
Bad breakups to be thankful for Read More »
Asking Big Questions
I always ask the big questions when it comes to dating. Read More »

Here’s something you probably wouldn’t guess about me: my friends and family members haven’t met anyone I’ve dated for almost eight years. Wait. I stand corrected. One time I invited my brother to dinner with a guy I was dating about four years ago and I chewed all my fingernails off before the appetizer course.

It’s almost pathological, my phobia of introducing guys I’m dating to my loved ones. In the past I’d always made excuses like, “If he’s important to me, you’ll meet him” or “I’m still getting to know him myself.” I rationalized the compartmentalization of my love life by telling myself that I needed to get to know someone without everyone else’s opinions tainting how I felt about the guy. I’ve been lying to myself. Keep reading »

Guy Talk: I Date Outside My Race Because My Race Doesn’t Want To Date Me

Guy Talk: First Move
The real reason women shouldn't make the first move. Read More »
Guy Talk: Romantics
Guys can be hopeless romantics too. Read More »
Guy Talk: Jerk
Why guys act like jerks when they break up with you. Read More »

In case my last name doesn’t make it obvious enough, I’m Asian. At the same time, as some of my friends have noticed, my last few girlfriends have all been decidedly not Asian.

To their mock-raised eyebrows, my response is, “I’m sorry. It’s not my fault.”

Okay, okay, I know what they’re thinking: As an Asian, I’m supposed to like “my own kind,” right?

Sure. And eat rice … and love math … and know just how much starch to add to your laundry … and all those other uncomfortable, racial stereotypes we’re not supposed to talk about.

Not surprisingly, I’ve often been slapped with the “Twinkie” label. In case you aren’t hip on your semi-offensive urban speak, a Twinkie is an Asian who acts white—that is, yellow on the outside, but white on the inside.

But, here’s a secret: My preference for dating non-Asian women wasn’t a conscious choice. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: My Dog Is A Cockblock

Don't Date A Dog Owner
Ten reasons not to date someone who has man's best friend already. Read More »
No Cats Guys For Me
Ami has VERY good reasons for refusing to date cat guys. Read More »
Dog Dealbreaker
He brought his dog on the date. Read More »

My dog Kerbey is a quasi-Internet celebrity. With his cartoonish tiny legs, large torso, giant bat ears and confused eyes, any picture I put up of him on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram is guaranteed to get mountains of likes, retweets or exclamations of, “OMG you have the best dog EVERRRRR.” If Kerbey just lived his life through the Internet, that “best dog ever” title would be an easy win. Unfortunately, like a high-angled MySpace photo, Kerbey’s online persona is not exactly entirely accurate. For you see, Kerbey can be a major dick. Keep reading »

5 Surprising Ways Your Job Influences Who You’re Attracted To

Girl Talk: I Quit My Job
How did it turn out for this author? Read More »
Sexy Jobs
These jobs will get a guy laid. Read More »
Dating A Coworker
office romance photo
In defense of dating a co-worker. Read More »

Last year, we did a “Best And Worst Careers For Love” survey which highlighted, among other things, that the five worst careers when it comes to finding love are: journalism (ha), business ownership, healthcare, real estate and law. This isn’t terribly surprising given the long hours of these careers, and how long it takes to ascend to the top in all of them.

But according to a new survey from eHarmony, maybe if these work addicts went for the opposite type of profession when it came to scoping out a potential love interest, they’d be happier. In honor of Labor Day, the online dating site looked at communication trends between their users to find out how they were influenced by people’s careers. It turns out that what you do for a living has a big influence on who you hit up online in your off-hours. Here are just a few of the tidbits they found:

1. Female business executives have the highest rate of communication with men who are barbers or hair stylists. Wait … really? I don’t see those two professions dating in real life too much. Maybe the businesswomen need hairstyle advice? Read more…

Dealbreaker: I Got The Runs

Dealbreaker: Pee
He asked her to pee on him. It was not what she was expecting. Read More »
Pooping Etiquette
10 bathroom rules that couples should abide by. Read More »
Dealbreaker: Hometown
He talked smack about her hometown and she was gone. Read More »
Female Farts
Some common types of female farts. Read More »

I met Cute Train Guy en route back to New York just after Thanksgiving. (I’m nothing if not completely uncreative with my nicknames.) With the annual tradition of overcrowding and delays, Thanksgiving travel gives me major agita. So, that evening I was relieved to secure a window seat on the Amtrak train and beyond pleased when a cute guy sat down next to me. He was nerdy hot, with glasses and a quick wit. We hit it off and chatted the entire ride. The chemistry was great, but I kept kicking myself that I had left the house in such scrubby clothes and without a lick of makeup. “I’m normally much cuter than this,” I wanted to tell him, but I couldn’t because I was too busy blowing my nose and sneezing for two hours straight. I had been battling a wicked cold throughout the weekend and on my lap was a pile of tissues and throat lozenges, neither of which are an aphrodisiac, unfortunately.

But as the train pulled into Penn Station, he asked for my business card.

Ohh! I thought, Perhaps he’ll call and we can go out once I’m feeling better. Then I can make a better impression! Keep reading »

6 Ways To Break Up Like A Celebrity

Breaking up is, for lack of a better word, hard. But it doesn’t have to be. At least it doesn’t have to be nearly as hard as some people make it with the questionable wardrobe choices, mopey Facebook status updates and drunk dialing adventures. I don’t personally think celebrities should be considered role models, but I must admit they know how to break up in style; I mean seriously when was the last time you aired your dirty laundry and people looked on in awe? I bet the answer to that is a big fat never because no matter how cute your skivvies are, when they’re clean covered in the skid marks of heart break (and possibly shots of Hennessy) they’re less then appealing. Anyway, here are six steps to handling a breakup like a celebrity, which I’m sure has to be way better then attempting to bury yourself under a mountain of Cheeto dust. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: Time To Fly

All About Venik
The weird spa treatment Ami got. Read More »
My Half-Marathon
Ami explains why she ran a half-marathon. Read More »
Second Date Slump
How to survive the dreaded second date. Read More »

I was standing 23 feet off the ground on a rickety platform overlooking Manhattan’s East River, a sea of people below watching, waiting for me to jump. Every muscle in my body was trembling. I reviewed my options.

When I told M* on our first date that I’d always secretly dreamed of being in the circus, I didn’t think he’d take me seriously. When he booked trapeze lessons for us, my normal, second date anxiety was replaced with a more palpable terror.

I’ve suffered all my life from a condition called benign paroxysmal vertigo. Starting at age three, I began having mysterious dizzy spells. Out of nowhere, with no warning, everything in my vision would split into a million pieces and start spinning and swirling around me in every direction. This would continue for about 10 terrifying minutes, or until I blacked out. The specialists at Columbia Medical Center assured my parents that I’d outgrow it. Keep reading »

The 4 Crushes I’m Thankful To Have Had

Unrequited Love
Ami talks about how she loves unrequited love. Read More »
Bill Nye Crush
Was Bill Nye the Science Guy anyone else's first crush? Read More »
Literary Crushes
We've crushed on these fictional characters. Read More »

Today is Thursday. That means nothing to you. But to me, it means I woke up smiling because every Thursday, I walk 13 blocks to visit my current crush. He works in the mobile falafel food truck which parks in my neighborhood once a week. In Hinduism, there’s a devotional act called Puja (and pardon me if I am getting this wrong, I learned about it in college so it’s been a while) where one shows reverence to the divine by lavishing worship on a object or representation of a deity. I’m not a religious girl, but I conduct my crushes with an air of spiritual devotion. I seek out men who edify some need in me. It’s not about physical beauty, although sometimes that’s involved. It’s not like I actually want to date them. A crush, for me, is not about sex or love. It’s about basking in the glory of the best masculinity has to offer. It’s about having a reason to walk 13 blocks in the rain to get a falafel, and feeling uplifted for having done so. After the jump, I pay homage to my biggest crushes of all time. Keep reading »

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