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Guy Talk: Our First Date Was Nothing Spectacular

Guy Talk: Cheating
This guy doesn't regret cheating. Read More »
Guy Talk: Waiting
No man is worth waiting for. Really. Read More »
Guy Talk: Race
Why this guy dates outside his race. Read More »

Today, December 7th, marks the one-year anniversary of my first date with Melissa.

I wish I could say that I knew from our very first date that this was going to be something special. That the moment I saw her, I was smitten. That our first date was the most amazing date I’d ever been on, full of spontaneous fun and spark-filled exhilaration.

I wish I could say all that. But I’d be lying.

Our first date went well, but honestly, it wasn’t anything spectacular. I certainly can’t say that it stood out above every other first date I’ve been on. Even the circumstances of our meeting weren’t very fairy tale-like. Keep reading »

Dealbreaker: He Was In The Mob

Dealbreaker: Chipotle
He took her to Chipotle. Read More »
Dealbreaker: Hometown
He talked smack about her hometown and she was gone. Read More »
Dealbreaker: Dog
He brought a dog on the date. Read More »

I grew up in a conservative Indian family. This meant anything with a Y chromosome was off limits. Don’t look at boys, don’t think about boys, don’t talk to boys, don’t even think about talking to boys. No dating, no making out, and definitely no sex. I was to be a good Indian girl, get good grades, get into an Ivy League school and marry a nice Indian boy.

All of this would have been fine if I grew up in India. But I was raised in suburban New Jersey. So my priorities as a teenager were short skirts, cheerleading, big hair, (this was Jersey after all), and, of course, boys. The only problem was I didn’t know how to approach guys because I didn’t have any proper examples. My parents got married after three dates in what was basically an arranged marriage. Clearly, they were of no help at all.

So I turned my attention to the only other sources of information I had: fashion magazines. I read every issue of Seventeen, Sassy and YM religiously in the hopes of discerning some clues about the opposite sex. Keep reading »

7 First Dates So Terrible They Made The News

I once had a first date where the guy told me, in this exact order, that he was “under federal investigation,” “writing a book for young people about how to live their lives,” and that he believed “women should be responsible for changing diapers.” I consider this the very, very worst first date I’ve had the misfortune to go on.

But really, that’s nothing compared to Efren Molina and Jillian Martone’s first date this past week. At the end of the evening, the couple returned to Molina’s Boca Raton house (yep, it happened in Florida!), and when he refused to say that he was her boyfriend, Martone punched him and threatened him with a knife. Molina was eventually able to fight her off and call the cops. The 35-year-old, with a previous record, was charged with aggravated assault, battery and burglary. She is currently in jail awaiting bail. Keep reading »

Dealbreaker: He Took Me To Chipotle

Dealbreaker: Height
He lied about his height. Like really LIED. Read More »
Dealbreaker: Dog
He brought a dog on the date. Read More »
Dealbreaker: Hometown
He talked smack about her hometown and she was gone. Read More »

Two years ago, I was at my local coffee shop when I spotted a certain gentleman, and after a series of boring events he and I wound up having sex. It was mostly uneventful, except for the fact that during the proceedings, I sprained my neck. We’d had sex and gone to bed, and the next morning I woke up and couldn’t move it.

“Oh no!” I exclaimed, and my companion groaned wordlessly in response. I rotated the entirety of my torso so as to be able to face him.

“I think I sprained my neck,” I said.

“From the blowjobs?” he asked, but nodding yes was not an option. I briskly pitched my torso back and forth.

“Oh, crap!” he laughed. “Wow. That’s really funny.” Keep reading »

Girl Talk: I Can’t Get Enough Of Him, But I Don’t Want To Live With Him

Cohabitation Tips
How to survive moving in together. Read More »
Live Together?
The debate continues, whether or not to live together before marriage. Read More »
Living Alone Rocks
Seven things you'll miss out on by not living alone at least once! Read More »

One month ago, I broke my ankle. It was a sort of freak accident – a simple fall on the stairs (being the klutz that I am, that part wasn’t unusual), but one that resulted in a fracture. I was at a bar, and after it happened, I went straight to my boyfriend’s place. He met my cab at the corner, and he’s barely left my side since then.

Navigating New York City on crutches is no easy feat, nor is going about the simplest everyday tasks with a broken bone and a painkiller-clouded brain. So, once I injured myself, my boyfriend started sleeping at my apartment every night. He helped me with meals, propped my foot up, and provided all-around company while I was incapacitated.

Now that the fracture is healing and I need less maintenance, we’re slowly getting back to our pre-anklegate routine: three to five sleepovers and a handful of shared dinners a week. And I’m sad about it. The kicker? He lives across the street from me. I could run to his place, give him a kiss and run back in the span of five minutes if I wanted to. It’s not that I’m dependent on him, or that I don’t like my roommates, but I’ve gotten used to Andy’s regular presence – kissing him goodbye when he leaves for work in the morning, hanging out and playing some pre-dinner Mario Kart with him at night; it just felt so natural and easy.

So, we should move in together, right? It’s not like it hasn’t crossed my mind. After nearly two-and-half years together, if friends aren’t pestering us about marriage, they’re asking us about living together. And they aren’t the only ones. He recently told me he wants to make the move when our leases are up—it’s the logical next step, he says. Keep reading »

Guy Talk: I Don’t Regret Cheating

Is He Cheating?
How to tell if he's runnin' around on you. Read More »
Guy Talk: Jerk
Why guys act like jerks when they break up with you. Read More »
Not The One
Four signs he's not the guy for you. Read More »

Do you know how, on job applications, they always ask if you’ve ever been arrested? And then they invariably follow it up with, “If yes, please explain?”

Do you ever get the feeling that if you write “yes” on the first blank, there is absolutely nothing you can write on the second that will save your application from a permanent trip to the reject pile?

Well, there’s one relationship question that I believe operates under the same premise. That question is: “Have you ever cheated on someone?”

Sure, you can answer yes and try to explain. You can stutter and stall all you want. But, the moment your mouth starts to make that “y…” sound, your forehead will immediately be stamped with a giant, red “CHEATER” in indelible ink.

So, I’ll confess now. Yes, I’ve cheated on a girlfriend. Stamp away. But, I’m still going to give my grand explanation. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: I Put Myself On Mute For A Guy — And I’ll Never Do It Again

I like to consider myself a strong and independent woman. I live alone; I take care of myself and never waiver in my beliefs. I’ve managed to convince myself that I’m fearless; I look confrontation in the eye and am without regret in my behavior – even when it isn’t the most flattering or well thought-out way to handle certain situations. I am, admittedly, a hot head.

I do not allow others to define me, put me in a box labeled by how they see me and will scream at the top of my lungs before I’ll ever let someone try to silence me. I am all these things; I have been all these things, and years from now these expectations that I have for myself will still be true. I don’t give a fuck who might be angered or won’t agree along the way. In the words of the great sailor, Popeye, “I am what I am.”

However, there were a few years in there, the dark years, that I was not all these things. When it came to Christoffer, I was a shadow. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: The Pill Ruined My Relationship

Birth Control Facts
Did you know any of the 10 bizarro facts on this chart? Read More »
On Birth Control
This woman uses birth control for medical reasons. Read More »
Elizabeth On The Pill
Elizabeth Banks photo
Elizabeth Banks thanks birth control pills for her son. Read More »

At 26 years old, I felt like a birth control virgin. How had I survived all those years without managing to know anything about the Pill? My reasons for going on Ortho Tri-Cyclen were simple: I was prepping for a move across the country to be with a guy named Isaac who I was in a long-distance relationship with. Isaac and I communicated every day. We talked on the phone, texted, emailed and GChatted every chance we got. We saw each other every three months, but this time, I was coming for good. We were going to live together for two weeks before I moved into my sublet apartment. We were falling in love.

I was ecstatic at the prospect of this seemingly superior form of birth control. Sex without condoms! It only cost $8 a month (which was about all my meager budget would allow)! From what I’d heard, it would make my skin super clear and get rid of the ungodly cramps that I’d been blessed with! I couldn’t wait. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: On Raising My Standards In Dating

Waiting Around?
No man is worth waiting around for, says our dude columnist. Read More »
Dating Victim
I am not a dating victim -- and neither are you. Read More »
Ambivalent Single Lobster
Who says lobsters mate for life? This one is ambivalently single. Read More »

I am a person who is very ambitious and aspirational in life. I’ve found that jealousy is the emotion I tend to listen to most, because it is filled with clues. When I feel envious of someone, I ask myself what is it that they have that I want, do I really want it, and what do I have to do to get it.

It’s become clear to me over the years that I feel pretty set career-wise. I have a lot of confidence in myself and that confidence gets reinforced.  I genuinely believe that I can achieve most things I want if I truly set my mind to it. Not that I haven’t struggled before, but there have only been a few examples of ways in which I’ve disappointed myself. I feel only a little envious towards other people’s careers.

Instead, the place where I find myself feeling the most envy — and its attendant emotion, insecurity — is in relationships. I covet the relationships of absolute strangers.  The perceived relationship, anyway.  Keep reading »

Tales Of First Dates During Hurricane Sandy

First-Date Fears
Common first date fears you don't really need to worry about. Read More »
Bad Weather Turn Ons
A study says inclement weather turns us on. Read More »
First Date Confessions
We wish we never heard these. Read More »

I was kind of bowled over to hear that not just one but TWO of my close friends had planned first dates during Hurricane Sandy. WHAT? I say this as a person who HATES staying inside my apartment for too long, but seriously, I don’t care how amazing the guy was, I wouldn’t have stepped outside during the storm for any reason whatsoever. OK, maybe for a new bottle of wine at the liquor store across the street. Maybe.

First dates are anxiety-provoking enough without worrying about whether or not you’ll get struck dead by a wayward tree branch or drowned in a storm-surge flood. Forget about awkward conversation, life-threatening weather conditions really up the ante. I mean, what do you even plan to do during a Hurricane date-wise? Drink at your apartment? If you dare to venture out do you wear a wet suit? But then again, it could be incredibly romantic. Keep reading »

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