Let’s play choose your own relationship adventure. Suppose one day you make your boyfriend a turkey and Swiss sandwich on toasted wheat bread. (This would never happen in my world because I don’t cook, but I am suspending disbelief for the sake of the game.) Then imagine that after he devours your sandwich he says:… More »
What I didn’t tell you last week was that I was dating someone.
He was a 25-year-old who recently returned from Europe where he lived as an expat for almost a year, met a girl, fell in love, then got his heart broken before he returned. I asked him multiple times if he… More »
“What exactly are you looking for?” my date asked me, as we made small talk on two barstools at a tiny Mexican restaurant in New York City’s Hell’s Kitchen neighborhood last weekend.
I’ve been asked that question about my love life so many times over the last three years that I’ve lost count. More »
You’ve probably heard about some rare instances where people were attracted to, fell in love with or even married things like the Eiffel Tower or their truck. It’s called objectum sexuality, a fetish when a person feels romantic desire toward or interest in developing significant relationships with inanimate objects. According to Genevieve Bell, a sociologist for… More »
This flyer (click here for larger image), spotted on a pole in NYC, was posted by male human being and soon-to-be great author, Koji Frahm. The 26-year-old Brooklyn resident took his own version of Craigslist Casual Encounters to the streets, but not in a sexual way. Rather, he hopes that his proposition for naked tea… More »
It began with the mutual love of a band that I truly did like: The Specials. She was into ska … heavily into ska.Way more into ska than more high school aged kids should ever be.
I met Delia at the mall, where every high school kid hung out, sulked, loitered, and snuck cigarettes. More »
On the rare occasion that I actually go out on a date with a man, I always bring my wallet. And, when it comes time to pay the bill, most of the time I reach for my wallet in an effort to show that I am willing to pay my half of the tab. Sometimes… More »
It’s taken me 34 years, but I’ve decided to become a sports fan. For love. Please let me explain. First, you should know I was born into a family of accomplished jocks. My father played college basketball and my brother played college football. My grandfather and uncle were tennis pros. When they discovered I was… More »
Every now and then, when you’re giving yourself a moisturizing oatmeal mask before bed, you’ll find your dude watching you. His look is a combination of confusion, intrigue, and maybe a little bit of — is that jealousy? You can’t help but pity him because you know how much he would love his post-mask, baby-soft… More »
When you turn 25, it feels like an alarm goes off and all of a sudden everyone is buying houses, getting engaged, and reproducing. Each time I log on to Facebook, I’m met with an onslaught of hearts on the side of my feed that tell me about all the engagements, weddings, and babies that… More »
For a long time, eyebrow-arching and pearl-clutching over “hookup culture” has focused on young women: they will feel used by young men and come to believe they can only derive value in themselves from their sexuality. Such concerns have been roundly and fairly criticizing as portraying young women as victims lacking in agency, or worse,… More »
Maybe you’ve tried speed dating, hit up a niche online dating site that specializes in gluten free singles, and downloaded Tinder and Grouper without much luck. But sometimes you meet someone where you’d least expect it. Like, the bathroom. We always forget to cruise for dates in the bathroom. … More »
The majority of both men and women believe that men should be opening their wallets on dates, according to a new study. Most men and women presume that men should pay for most expenses, even after multiple dates, and in fact, a surprising number of guys feel guilty when a woman pays. … More »
I’m bisexual, so people like to ask me how dating ladies is different from dating guys. (I also get a lot of “Wanna have a threesome?” and “How do girls have sex?” The first question is a lot easier to answer.) Sometimes people ask the question with a little competitive edge in their voice –… More »
Maybe you’ve tried online dating? But perhaps the sites you’re using are too general, and aren’t helping you meet the right people. What if you’re gluten intolerant and prefer to go out with someone who isn’t going to pressure you to eat pasta. Or what if you’re jonesing to meet a real life member of… More »
Between our razors clogged with pieces of leg hair to the mold growing on the walls that belongs in a museum, it’s a wonder we ever let dudes into our bathrooms. But let them we do. In fact, he might just be hopping into your shower alongside you for one of these nine types of… More »
My friend Nina and I were having one of our typical “where oh where have the good men gone?” whine-fests when it randomly occurred to me that I knew one.
I felt as neutral about Matt as you can possibly feel about an ex-boyfriend. He had a lot in common with the wine… More »