Posts tagged "dating story"

Girl On Girl: On Tinder & Women Objectifying Other Women

I have 876 matches on Tinder. I love Tinder. I’ve met some of my favorite people via Tinder, but sometimes, Tinder feels cheap. That feeling creeps up on me when it’s late at night and I’ve just swiped left on 20 people. That feeling also creeps up on me when five people send me the…

By: Morgan Cohn / April 1, 2015

Girl On Girl: Casual Dating Sucks No Matter What Gender You’re Into

There’s a thought process that being a lesbian is easier. Because women understand other women, they communicate better, and they’re exempt from the patriarchy. Yeah, right.

By: Morgan Cohn / March 24, 2015

Girl Talk: If You’re Going To Date All Your Friends, You Have To Save Certain Things For Marriage

“A city of a million men, and you only bone out-of staters,” is my friend Meredith’s favorite thing to say to me. She’s not wrong – in a year of living in New York, my dance card has mainly been filled by non-locals. But until this year, my biggest relationship mistake wasn’t a faulty locatio…

By: Beejoli Shah / March 16, 2015

10 Math-Inspired Pickup Lines In Honor Of Pi Day!

Today is March 14th, Pi Day, and in honor of this nerdiest of holidays, we thought we'd help you infuse some math swagger into your flirting game. Because come on, what is sexier than math? Nothing. Nothing is sexier than math. Here are 10 pickup lines sure to charm your way into a hot date,…

Dealbreaker: He Told Me I Needed To “Be Happier”

On our last date, we sat next to each other on the floor of an Afghan restaurant, sharing a plate of kaddo bourani and a bottle of wine. He looked at me for long stretches of time without speaking, then he looked at the waitress, at the carpet, at the other diners. We came to the…

By: Allison McCarthy / March 11, 2015

Girl On Girl: The Lesbian Obsession With Straight Women

In a time where female empowerment is so important and so celebrated, it’s absurd to me that women can still objectify other women for their own sexual validation.

By: Morgan Cohn / March 11, 2015

Wanderlust: I May Be Smitten, But I Will Not Be Your Educator

I've written before about "distancing myself From white people" to avoid being constantly subjected to racial and cultural insensitivity. After years of dealing with well-meaning, but often ill-informed or inexperienced Whites, the emotional turmoil had taken its toll and I simply wanted to avoid feelings of discomfort, disappointment and even anger. I concluded that the…

By: Tiffanie Drayton / March 2, 2015

Dater X: Over And Out

Laying in bed watching "Grey’s Anatomy" last week, I started wondering, as I have during nearly every episode recently, why the show has continued for so many seasons. All of the characters we originally knew and loved (big shoutout to the "Grey’s" OG, George O’Malley) have come and gone, the plot has become so farfetched…

By: Dater X / February 18, 2015

Dealbreaker: The Third Wheel Hated Me

The girl was great: Tyler, a bright-haired activist who confessed her crush on me after a feminist burlesque show. The dates were great: a Valentine's Day dance party in a warehouse-turned-art-gallery, a night in watching old movies. The third wheel, on the other hand, was not so great. Her best friend -- with an admitted…

By: Camille Guillot / February 17, 2015

Dater X: V-Day & The L-Word

Valentine’s Day is juuuuust around the bend, and in unusual circumstances for me, I can actually celebrate it this year with, GASP,  a man. I’ve always been a fan of Valentine’s Day, even at my most miserably single, because as a person who loves a lot (and always really, really hard), I bask in any…

By: Dater X / February 11, 2015

Dater X: Jumping Head First Into Head-Shrinking

I’m happy to report that I went to my first successful therapy session this week. When I walked into Lauren’s cozy New York City office, I felt immediately at home. Her couch was draped with one of those super-soft, faux fur blankets that’s just begging you to get naked and roll around in (I didn’t,…

By: Dater X / February 4, 2015

Dater X: A Penny For Your Thoughts

It’s been a few years since I’ve seen a therapist, but with the new year comes new self-discovery. Just last week, I bit my ring fingernail down to a three-centimeter stub and decided it would probably be in my best interest (and my fingernails’ best interest) to tackle some of the anxiety I’ve been having…

By: Dater X / January 29, 2015

Dater X: Love Is About Choice, Not Chance

I’m convinced that 2015 is going to be a year of learning for me. We’re only a few weeks into the new year, and I like to think I’ve already discovered quite a few things about myself, big and small, both in life and in love. But it wasn’t until I got together with my…

By: Dater X / January 21, 2015

Dater X: My Relationship Goal For The New Year Is To Be Secure With Me

In my last post, I shared with you a comprehensive list of guys I've dated, slept with, or come in contact with over the last year, and the lessons I learned from each. Some of them were men I'd met only once or twice, and others were guys who I actually had feelings for, but…

By: Dater X / January 2, 2015

Dater X: The Men Of 2014 And What They’ve Taught Me

When I tried to recall all the men who've come and gone in my love life over the last year, I wasn't surprised to find myself staring at a list of names and anxiously tapping my pen, knowing there were a couple I'd forgotten. 2014 was most certainly The Year Of The Dudes. With almost…

By: Dater X / December 24, 2014

These Vintage “Ideal Love Mate” Trading Cards From 1941 Are Delightfully Sexist

There's a guy at the Brooklyn Flea Market who sells an impressive and ever-growing collection of vintage/retro kids toys and collectibles, including action figures, matchbox cars, wind-up toys, Garbage Pail Kids, the random remains of long forgotten rock collections and the like. It's fun to sift through everything he's got, either to get nostalgic about…

By: Amelia McDonell-Parry / December 23, 2014

Dater X: I’m Going To Have To Say No To “Fuck Yes Or No”

Earlier this week, a friend of mine sent me an article by Mark Manson titled "Fuck Yes or No," with a simple directive: "Read this." Since it had the word 'fuck' in it, I was obviously sold, considering the F-bomb has been my favorite word since I was old enough to pronounce consonants. The piece…

By: Dater X / December 17, 2014

Life After Dating: Loving A Grad Student Without Going Insane

"Be prepared for a breakup about three weeks from now." That was the relationship advice I got from a girl in her second year of my boyfriend's graduate program, just before he started the first semester of his MFA in creative writing. She had reason to be cynical: grad school means a convoluted class schedule,…

By: Camille Guillot / December 16, 2014

Dater X: Is Success A Turn-Off For Some Men?

Last Friday, I was hanging out with two of my girlfriends and our pals Jack and José (Daniels and Cuervo, that is), when I heard myself uttering the words, "He's obviously intimidated by your success." Though a cliche, I actually meant it. I was trying to console my friend Bree, who had just been ghosted…

By: Dater X / December 10, 2014

Men Check Out My Dog More Than Me & I Have Mixed Feels About It

Men check out my dog more than me. I only wish I were kidding. I’ve gotten used to catching unexpected smiles creep onto strangers’ faces while gazing at Henny (why yes, she does look like a bear cub). But after one of our daily walks last month, during which I passed four men in their…

By: Laura Barcella / December 7, 2014
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