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Dater X: Raising The Bar

Hold on to your hats, kids: The Bartender is the real deal.

Since I left town almost two weeks ago, he has texted occasionally – in other words, often enough to seem sweet, but not so frequently as to be annoying. Our iBanter has been as strong as it was in person, though… More »


Dater X: A Tale Of Two Cities

 

Despite taking a few weeks off, I still can’t quite muster any enthusiasm for the endless swiping of Tinder or the dead-end, one-way conversations of OKStupid, so this week, I resolved to be open to meeting someone in real life. That looked a little daunting, scheduled as I was to spend the… More »


Dater X: I Told You So

Greetings from the road! As I told you last week, I’ve been spending an unusual amount of time traveling for work, and with the holiday, I only ended up spending one night in my home city this week. Not great for my dating life, but then, lately, what is? I did, however, spend a good amount… More »


Dater X: Questionable Decisions And Unmitigated Disasters

Having resolved to return to the fray this week, I did so with a vengeance – to decidedly mixed results. I’ll tell you all about my latest contender for Worst First Date Ever (which, given my track record, is no small feat) in a minute; first, let’s discuss the fact that I slept with a… More »


Dater X: Looking Vs. Waiting

You know what?  I’m exhausted.

After the past few weeks of aggressive Tindering, aggressive OKStupiding, aggressive first-dating with no second dates, I’ve been having trouble mustering any enthusiasm for yet another evening of probing questions with a relative stranger. I’ve progressed from Tinder to text with a few promising specimens, but the schedule… More »


Dater X: A Sunday Kind Of Love & A Bizarro Type Of Date

I want a Sunday kind of love. No, really, and not just because I could listen to that song every single morning.

Allow me to explain. This Sunday, I had a full day that was unapologetically mine. Really, I had a whole weekend that was unapologetically mine, including a visit with El Guapo… More »


Dater X: With A Little Help From My Friends

Tough going out there in the dating pool this week: my OKStupid date bailed on me mere hours before game time (rude!), and speed-dating managed to sell out before I could secure a spot. Undeterred, I’m planning to attend this week – and purchase a ticket farther in advance! Meanwhile, I ended up spending a surprising amount… More »


Dater X: I Want To Believe

Another Friday, another first date. If only I seemed to be getting any better at these things.

I never heard from Peter after last week’s awkward, smoochless compliment-fest, which was fine by me – the poor guy seemed sweet, but he wasn’t even in the same county as my wheelhouse when I came… More »


Dater X: Back In The Saddle

I’m not going to sugar-coat this: online dating fucking sucks. More »


Dater X: In No Particular Order…

I had an embarrassing amount of time to myself this week, and visual diversions (including television, computer, cell phone and books) were strictly verboten while I recovered. But there were a few developments, both internal and external, and I want to share them with you… More »


Dater X: Bruised & Confused

There are definitely some times when I wish I had a still had a boyfriend… More »


Dater X: [ne]X[t]

This past Wednesday found me crying at 1 a.m. outside of The Big Easy’s place of employment.

Relax; it’s not what you think.

For one thing, I wasn’t there because it was The Big Easy’s place of employment.  He just happens to work in a massive landmark located across the street… More »


Girl On Girl: Tinder, Modern Love & Watery Maybes

There’s an important point to be made about how easy it is to ghost people or cancel plans now. We now say no at a lower emotional cost. That means we can say yes more. More »


Dater X: Free Fall

I’ve been thinking a lot about falling, and not just because I’m absurdly accident prone.

For one thing, fall is here and there’s no denying it; it’s dark by 7 p.m. and there are already a surprising number of crackly leaves underfoot in the parks. But I’ve also been thinking about the act… More »


Dater X: Winter Is Coming

Fall showed up this week like something out of an Alice Hoffman novel, landing flatly and without prelude on my thermostat as the sun set on Labor Day. The humidity dissipated like perfume when someone leaves the room; the lush August greenery was suddenly edged with brown, blowing in a breeze that pricked goosebumps onto… More »


Dater X: Life Support

It’s been a hell of a week. More »


True Story: My Tweet About An OKCupid Creep Went Viral (And The Internet Thinks I Should Date Him)

Burn everything. More »


Dater X: The First Big Fight

It was bound to happen. More »


Dater X: A Matter Of Trust

Who knew that the Internetz had so many opinions about whose dicks I do or do not put in my mouth??

Last week’s “Blowjobs Are for Boyfriends” pronouncement was unexpectedly controversial – at least, unexpectedly to me – and it got me thinking about why I “withhold” (if you can call it that)… More »


Dater X: O, Baby

Over a month deep (giggity) with The Big Easy, we’re getting the hang of this “pleasuring each other” thing.

With a shoutout to my girl Miranda Hobbs – who reminded Carrie “Work of Fiction” Bradshaw, after a disappointing first encounter with Berger, that if she’s never had to “work on it” with someone she… More »


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