Posts tagged "dating story"

Dater X: A Matter Of Trust

Who knew that the Internetz had so many opinions about whose dicks I do or do not put in my mouth??
Last week’s “Blowjobs Are for Boyfriends” pronouncement was unexpectedly controversial – at least, unexpectedly to me – and it got me thinking about why I “withhold” (if you can call it that) fellatio from…

Dater X 3.0 / August 25, 2015

Dater X: O, Baby

Over a month deep (giggity) with The Big Easy, we’re getting the hang of this “pleasuring each other” thing.
With a shoutout to my girl Miranda Hobbs – who reminded Carrie “Work of Fiction” Bradshaw, after a disappointing first encounter with Berger, that if she’s never had to “work on it” with someone she really liked,…

Dater X 3.0 / August 18, 2015

Dater X: What We Talk About When We Talk About Dating

It’s hard to know where to start writing about the last two weeks, so here are a couple of vignettes that I hope will do a better job of telling my story than me rambling about how I don’t know how to talk about it (which is, of course, everyone’s favorite blog content: why the…

Dater X 3.0 / August 11, 2015

Dater X: Not Guilty

I’m taking a week off from writing about The Big Easy. Long story short: he is officially my boyfriend, and I’d like to give that newness a little time and a little room to grow. We’ll talk about him more in the future, to be sure. But this week, a very different kind of ma…

Dater X 3.0 / August 4, 2015

Dater X: Over The Line

Having subjected The Big Easy to two weeks’ worth of my nutty softball friends, I figured that no matter how much he enjoys them – and they, him – it was high time that we stepped out of my life and into his. So this weekend, I packed an overnight bag and made the bold…

Dater X 3.0 / July 28, 2015

Dater X: Easy Does It

Where to start? This week began with a wine-soaked meal with my ex, ended with another softball game with Mr. Firework, and found me spending time in a national park, another city, and yes, with The Big Easy in between.
Let’s get to it. We’ll start with what could have been a fraught meal with…

Dater X 3.0 / July 21, 2015

Dater X: The Best Worst First Date Ever, Because Of Course

Talk about “Ask and you shall receive.”
After last week’s uncomfortably confessional post, I decided I better put my money where my mouth is and get out On the Hunt. To that end, I have not seen El Guapo (my FWB, for those who asked; Esquire bailed on this week’s softball game at the last…

Dater X 3.0 / July 14, 2015

Dater X: More Like Dater S-E-X, Right!? High Five!

Some bloggers take great delight in burying the most important or exciting bit of information at the bottom of their post, click-baiting you into scrolling paragraph after paragraph of self-indulgent prose to get there. Today, I simply can’t contain myself…

Dater X 3.0 / July 7, 2015

Dater X: Don’t Block The Box

Do you ever feel like everyone’s out to get you?  This week has been like that, at least when it comes to my dating life.  The city has been nothing but one big cockblock.  Er, clitblock.
First things first: I haven’t seen Israeli Tinder Guy again.  We exchanged a few friendly texts, mostly perfunctory o…

Dater X 3.0 / June 23, 2015

Dealbreaker: I Got Called A Bitch On A Virtual First Date

For basically all of my adult life, I did not “date” in the conventional sense. I can count on one hand the number of times I went out to dinner with a near-stranger and suffered through the usual litany of “what do you do?”, “where are you from?”, “what flavor of toothpaste do you like…

Lauren Gitlin / May 4, 2015

Girl On Girl: On Tinder & Women Objectifying Other Women

I have 876 matches on Tinder. I love Tinder. I’ve met some of my favorite people via Tinder, but sometimes, Tinder feels cheap. That feeling creeps up on me when it’s late at night and I’ve just swiped left on 20 people. That feeling also creeps up on me when five people send me the…

Morgan Cohn / April 1, 2015

Girl On Girl: Casual Dating Sucks No Matter What Gender You’re Into

There’s a thought process that being a lesbian is easier. Because women understand other women, they communicate better, and they’re exempt from the patriarchy. Yeah, right.

Morgan Cohn / March 24, 2015

Girl Talk: If You’re Going To Date All Your Friends, You Have To Save Certain Things For Marriage

“A city of a million men, and you only bone out-of staters,” is my friend Meredith’s favorite thing to say to me. She’s not wrong – in a year of living in New York, my dance card has mainly been filled by non-locals. But until this year, my biggest relationship mistake wasn’t a faulty locatio…

Beejoli Shah / March 16, 2015

10 Math-Inspired Pickup Lines In Honor Of Pi Day!

Today is March 14th, Pi Day, and in honor of this nerdiest of holidays, we thought we’d help you infuse some math swagger into your flirting game. Because come on, what is sexier than math? Nothing. Nothing is sexier than math. Here are 10 pickup lines sure to charm your way into a hot date,…

Dealbreaker: He Told Me I Needed To “Be Happier”

On our last date, we sat next to each other on the floor of an Afghan restaurant, sharing a plate of kaddo bourani and a bottle of wine. He looked at me for long stretches of time without speaking, then he looked at the waitress, at the carpet, at the other diners. We came to the…

Allison McCarthy / March 11, 2015

Girl On Girl: The Lesbian Obsession With Straight Women

In a time where female empowerment is so important and so celebrated, it’s absurd to me that women can still objectify other women for their own sexual validation.

Morgan Cohn / March 11, 2015

Wanderlust: I May Be Smitten, But I Will Not Be Your Educator

I’ve written before about “distancing myself From white people” to avoid being constantly subjected to racial and cultural insensitivity. After years of dealing with well-meaning, but often ill-informed or inexperienced Whites, the emotional turmoil had taken its toll and I simply wanted to avoid feelings of discomfort, disappointment and even anger. I concluded that the…

Tiffanie Drayton / March 2, 2015

Dater X: Over And Out

Laying in bed watching “Grey’s Anatomy” last week, I started wondering, as I have during nearly every episode recently, why the show has continued for so many seasons. All of the characters we originally knew and loved (big shoutout to the “Grey’s” OG, George O’Malley) have come and gone, the plot has become so farfetched…

Dater X 2.0 / February 18, 2015

Dealbreaker: The Third Wheel Hated Me

The girl was great: Tyler, a bright-haired activist who confessed her crush on me after a feminist burlesque show. The dates were great: a Valentine’s Day dance party in a warehouse-turned-art-gallery, a night in watching old movies. The third wheel, on the other hand, was not so great. Her best friend — with an admitted…

Camille Guillot / February 17, 2015
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